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... to expect people who use parent & baby car parking spaces to have children with them?

465 replies

fryalot · 05/02/2007 15:11

Or am I the only who gets fed up of waiting for a space because they are all filled with lazy b***ds who can't be bothered to walk an extra yard?

OP posts:
3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:35

Jimjams....but I am not saying that it pees me off if they are used by people that need it more (Parent, disabled, very pg and waddlling, elderly that look like they can't walk very far), I am only peed off when people that very OBVIOUS don't need it use it. What is so wrong about that?

Jimjams2 · 05/02/2007 19:35

dunno misdee, but I'm off. Ah well I know exactly the type of person who beeps at special school buses now when they have to wait for a child to climb on. It's ALWAYS women as well. I now assume mothers doing terribly important playgroup runs.

I was looking for the post about blocking someone in who didn't look disabled enough. Is that for real?

DarrellRivers · 05/02/2007 19:36

If we all got thinner and thinner, we could fit into all the normal spaces even if parked next to an enormous 4x4
That's the answer I think, Eat less everyone

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:36

if we cant get a disabled/p+t/endspace spot, we cant go shopping. full stop!

i have spent all day cooped up waiting for a bloody blood nurse, i cant go shopping now as my dh requires 24hour care, and i cant leave him alone.

right now, i would love to be able to go in th evenings to do the shopping with no kids and no medical equipment to lug about. to take my time and leisurly stroll about. and get some ben and jerrys.

IntergalacticWalrus · 05/02/2007 19:36

Anyway, going to the supermarket is the only time I get away from my brats.

It's deep joy.

And I don;t have to get het up over some parking spaces.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:37

and jimjams, what do you mean the weirdest view on disability...didn't think I was all that weird, and really can't see why I offended so much.

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:38

3andnomore, because not all disabilities are visable.

2-5years ago my dh did not look disabled. he looked perfectly normal.

its only now that he has a bloody great big LVAD sticking out of his stomache do we stop getting evil looks off other shoppers when we get oput of the car whilst using blue bays.

LittleBoSheep · 05/02/2007 19:38

Oh Jim Jams you sound like you belong in playgroup...ive fallen out with you before...I cant understand why you need to resort to calling people "names" when they dont just agree with everything you say.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:39

WHERE DID I SAY THAT SOMEONE HAS TO LOOK DISABLED?????????????

Jimjams2 · 05/02/2007 19:40

You're very into "obvious" disability 2andnomore. I suspect you wouldn't notice my son was disabled. And yet he'll cost social services a huge amount of (taxpayers) money in the future because his care needs are and always will be so high- he needs 1:1 24 hours a day and 2:1 in certain situations- that is very very very expensive. But I bet if you saw us (especially as I only go when there are 2 adults so he doesn't have to be so directed- which helps) you'd be busy blocking us in with your trolley, and tutting.

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:41

'By 3andnomore on Mon 05-Feb-07 19:35:25
Jimjams....but I am not saying that it pees me off if they are used by people that need it more (Parent, disabled, very pg and waddlling, elderly that look like they can't walk very far), I am only peed off when people that very OBVIOUS don't need it use it. What is so wrong about that?'

just pointing out that before the op dh wasnt obviously disabled at all. thats what i interupted your post to say.

sorry if iread it wrong.

IntergalacticWalrus · 05/02/2007 19:41

Dr Walrus prescribes you all one of these

Jimjams2 · 05/02/2007 19:41

I blame mothercare.

parp.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:42

Jimjams, get your fact straight, I never ever would and never ever have blocked anyone in.
To me obvious is more then what teh eye sees...I am a Nurse, I have worked with peopel of all sorts of disabilities, visual and not so visual, so, please don't be so presumptious.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:45

Misdee, next time I make sure I add all thsoe on crutches, looking weak etc...
I really mean those that are blatantly obvious that they do NOT need the space and there are plenty of those that use them....businessmen are one lot, I think on that a lot of people have agreed.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:45

Sorry for appaling spelling, but typing faster then I should.

PeachyClair · 05/02/2007 19:46

God Misdee. Can you imagine shopping in the evenings? I don't pretend my situation is anything like yours (Dh works nights so I have to stay in- no babysitters and no car) but it is horrid being cooped up isnt it? And very isolating.

In term time I can actually go without the kids (last time i was alone with the kids in town (Dh was talking to someone at the bank) DS1 had a meltdown and knocked me (over and out, albeit briefly). Bt I am already starting to panic about half term- a whole week of being indoors and internet shopping (very difficult when you have dairy and allergy free diets to cater for).

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:46

but he didnt look weak or use crutches. unless you say him half way round the shop feelign abit breathless you wouldnt know.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:46

lol Intergalacti

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:47

i want to shop nooooooooooow.

all the kdis are asleep. dh is clicking behind me.

driving me batty today.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:47

Misdee, one can usually pick up though if someone just doesn't "look" right, he did probably "look" off colour if he got easily breathless, etc...

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:49

possibly, but unless you are trained (like you are) then it isnt obvious to every tom dick or harry. little old ladies used to yell at him for taking one of their spaces.

3andnomore · 05/02/2007 19:53

that is terrible misdee....lijke I say, for me, saying if it was "obvious" wasn't so much to what one sees, it really wasn't, but now, I get why you and jimjams got ticked off.

misdee · 05/02/2007 19:56

it was walking sticks at dawn.

someone once told us 'parent and child are over there'. we hadnt had a chance to get the badge up and clock sorted.

Jimjams2 · 05/02/2007 19:56

Apologies 3andnomore- you're right it's BoPeep who was busy blocking people in with her trolley. I misread. I do think it is worth remembering that even severe disabilites can be very hidden though. Usually if I take ds1 shoping I have him on his belt, but I'm trying to drop that a bit when I'm with someone else. And really if you see him at a time when he's walking quietly you would have no idea. If he started going off on one you would. I don;t think being a nurse helps at all with someone like ds1 as he doesn't have medical needs. We have had contact with some very good phlebotomists who were obviously experienced with the ds1's of the world, but other experiences of drs and nurses has been that they really haven't had a clue about his disability - they don't really have any reason to though.

One thing I'm interested in is why you didn't feel safe walking across a car park to get a trolley in NI (genuine question). Was it because of having a GB plate, or specifically because of being in the army (so worried about being tailed or whatever). I only ask because we've spent quite a bit if time in NI with GB plates and I've never felt unsafe there (although I've never been over as a service family). Just wondering whether I should have!