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... to expect people who use parent & baby car parking spaces to have children with them?

465 replies

fryalot · 05/02/2007 15:11

Or am I the only who gets fed up of waiting for a space because they are all filled with lazy b***ds who can't be bothered to walk an extra yard?

OP posts:
SparklyGothKat · 09/02/2007 18:30

I saw a fight today over a P&T space, when I got to the shops there was a P&T which I used (dd2 was with me) when I left, a woman sat waiting for me to load up the car, strap DD2 in, take back trolley, and reverse out. Then as I came out and around her, another woman came up behind me and nicked the space. There was an argument and as I left I noticed the 2nd woman hadn't moved, and when I was out on the main road, the first woman was still waiting for a P&T space. Why waste all that time waiting, when there was spaces nearby that weren't P&T but just as close...

handlemecarefully · 09/02/2007 22:21

Yes my 4x4 has 7 seats too drifter.

And in answer to your question "What makes a 4x4 worse than an espace then?", the answer is 'politics' don't you think?

2shoescoveredinhearts · 09/02/2007 23:22

can I just ask a rather silly question
if a 4X4 can have 7 seats and so can a car like an espace. why are 4x4 so bad?
I know I should know sorry.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/02/2007 23:27

Its not about number of seats lol!

Its about engine and fuel economy and emissions.

BassMama · 09/02/2007 23:32

Just wanted to add - Was at Asda today, and there were 8 cars parked in a row in the disabled bay, NONE had disabled stickers on them. EIGHT!! I also saw a woman struggling to get the very disabled woman she was with into her car as there was not enough space where she had had to park, in the normal bit.

Selfish Bastards.

Pann · 09/02/2007 23:33

and they are so aesthetically displeasing.

SparklyGothKat · 09/02/2007 23:35

I actually think the woman I saw ended up parking in the disabled bays (she parked just as I was waiting for the traffic lights). I do have a disabled badge for DS but he wasn't with me, so I didn't park there.

2shoescoveredinhearts · 09/02/2007 23:50

VeniVidiVickiQV thanks knew there was a good reason. but was being rather dense.

Pixel · 10/02/2007 00:15

Housemum, my ds has a permanent disability but his blue badge still has an expiry date on it. I think it's just to give me one thing more to worry about, ie how we will manage if they refuse to renew it.

housemum · 10/02/2007 10:30

See that's the kind of thing that bugs me - why put an expiry date on if it's a permanent disability? And if they can issue badges with dates, why don't they give them to people with a genuine need ie someone whose child has their legs in plaster at a 90 degree angle for months? (I'm sure the system depends on where you are and who your doctor is as some people struggle and others get them too easily - I know a lady who had serious heart surgery and would get breathless easily - fine she had a badge issued, but 5 years on she is as fit as you or I yet will hunt out the blue badge spaces just 'cos she has one and I have even been in the car where she waited for a space rather than park on the other side of the car park, even though she can yomp across the countryside walking for miles in her free time)

housemum · 10/02/2007 10:35

Back to the orignal post re P & T spaces (knew we'd deviate somewhere...) - why don't car park designers put them further away from the shop entrance so they are only useful because they are larger for getting car seats/toddlers in and out? The ideal spaces would be large ones about 2-3 feet out from the wall so they have a low fenced walkway running behind them to the store/shopping centre.

TBH I couldn't be arsed chasing round for P & T spaces. Reading Oracle shopping centre's car park designers obviously thought they were a pain as they don't have any at all.

bobalinga · 10/02/2007 11:55

I find the expiry date intrigiuing too. And the expiry date on DLA. My DD has severe cerebral palsy and is blind. When the blue badge arrived with an expiry date i did call the council and asked if they knew a cure for CP was on its way as they'd only given me 5 years!
The concil woman agreed it was a stupid rule. I reckon its so they can get extra money cos you have to keep renewign the darn thing.
With DLA I tried to get a lifetime award but they said cos she might die before 18 they didn't do that. Cheery soulds at the DLA place.

3andnomore · 10/02/2007 12:06

housemum, p&t spaces aren't just usefull because they are more spacious though, it's also a road safety issue...so,position does matter to some extent, too.

2shoescoveredinhearts · 10/02/2007 15:52

(blue badges have to be renewed every 3 years)

2shoescoveredinhearts · 10/02/2007 15:53

bobalinga can you go on sn as will speak to you there

handlemecarefully · 12/02/2007 09:51

"Its about engine and fuel economy and emissions"

If only it was...but actually it's about politics and scapegoatism (and easy targets ).

I've done a fair bit of research into this and fuel economy of large MPVs is pretty much the same as fuel economy of many 4 x 4's

It's 'pick m mix' environmentalism

VickyG333 · 04/12/2010 22:27

I have never, in any shopping centre or supermarket or wherever I have been shopping but can't find a space, seen all the disabled bays taken - there are always empty disabled spaces even when the rest of the car park is rammed. Without exception. Anyone ever seen them all full?!

Goldengirl123 · 08/01/2025 08:56

I don’t park in these spaces but I do chuckle to myself. Why do you need these spaces? Go to the quiet part of the car park, use those spaces and walk! I used to have to get my 3 very young children on buses to go everywhere so I find this very entitled. I now have a blue badge and literally cannot walk far but find disabled spaces taken up by people with no badges. If I had to, I would actually have to park in one of your spaces. You can walk, I have difficulty. I also see people using these spaces and getting out of the car with a child that is preteen

Goldengirl123 · 08/01/2025 08:57

But you can walk!!!!

Goodadvice1980 · 08/01/2025 08:58

Zombie thread.

Goldengirl123 · 08/01/2025 08:58

They shouldn’t have!!!!

Casuallydresseddeepinconversation · 08/01/2025 09:05

Jimjams2 · 05/02/2007 15:33

I do think that anyone who really can't cope with shopping with children unless they park in a P and T space (why would you wait for one to get free - park somewhere else fgs - and yes I have 3 children and grande scenic I know all about getting babies out of oversized cars) should go without children, after they're in bed. There problem solved.

I'm a single parent I can't go alone when the kids are in bed 🙄

WingsofRain · 08/01/2025 09:10

fryalot · 05/02/2007 15:17

how about disabled people using the parent & child space because there aren't any disabled ones left? That gets to me, because we wouldn't use their space!!

You would like me to go without food or other shopping because I can’t get a space wide enough to get my wheelchair out of my car?

That isn’t a good look, is it? There are far more parent and chid spaces than accessible ones at my local supermarkets so it’s not an uncommon problem.

Goldengirl123 · 08/01/2025 09:18

WingsofRain · 08/01/2025 09:10

You would like me to go without food or other shopping because I can’t get a space wide enough to get my wheelchair out of my car?

That isn’t a good look, is it? There are far more parent and chid spaces than accessible ones at my local supermarkets so it’s not an uncommon problem.

I take it you aren’t being serious????

Goldengirl123 · 08/01/2025 09:19

Sorry I didn’t mean you I meant the person you were answering