Talk

Flip

1 2 3 4

AIBU?

to think you shouldn't tell your other friends if you have a 'best friend''?

79 replies

milliemoon · 24/09/2016 10:05

To me this translates a bit like... "I like you. You're my friend. But there is someone I like, enjoy the company of and value the friendship of a whole lot more than you."

Yes I realise this makes me sound like I'm still in school, I'm not, but I do find as an adult when my friends tell me about their best friends, I feel a little sad that I don't quite match up. I'd never say anything obviously.

OP posts:

Report

MyNewBearTotoro · 24/09/2016 17:30

I wouldn't use the term 'best friend' as I have several amazing friends I'm equally close to but but I don't see a problem with using it if you genuinely have a best friend. Yes, it does sort of emphasise to others that if one is number one then they're 'second best' or whatever, but then they must also feel they come second best compared to partners/ children/ family etc.

Why would you presume to be number one in a friend's life to begin with or want to pretend you were?

Report

Costacoffeeplease · 24/09/2016 17:40

When he was presenting strictly, Brucie used to tell virtually every contestant, especially the crap ones, they were his favourite. I just imagined a small child saying similar - it made me laugh anyway

Report

PlayAtMidnight2 · 25/09/2016 18:58

I have three friends, A, B, and C. Have known A and B for years, met C through A. B calls A her 'Bestie' (cringe), A and C call each other 'Bestie'. I am confused, and irritated at the use of 'Bestie'.

Report

DogsMum · 25/09/2016 20:10

OP I agree with you, yanbu. I love all of my friends in different ways for the people they are. I also feel closer at some points to one person than the others, but would never rank (or mention ranking) them.

One of the people I am closest to (at least, whom I certainly feel very close to) recently posted a FB status of herself on a night out with some of her other friends and had written something along the lines of "my best friends". It hurt, a lot. I know she is obviously entitled to have other friends and that's not my issue, but it made me think for a second, "what am I then? Sloppy seconds?"