...to find Mumsnet quite depressing

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I used to be an active member of a forum which was a lot about relationships etc, similar to here but younger, less about kids etc.

That ended up being shut down rather suddenly and I've eventually signed up for here because I miss forum debates, chat etc. But I'm finding it a bit depressing.

Is there a positive section that I'm missing or something? Obviously I understand that a lot of people come here for advice and are in awful situations, but it all seems to be about genuinely useless men, thinking other men are useless and breaking up, with very little in the way of really happy threads.

Bibbity that hiding mental health comment is knobbish.

There's plenty of light-hearted, funny stuff going on, just check active convos and mooch about and you'll find it.

If you don't like what you see, start something light-hearted instead.

Your essential pieces of equipment are rhino hide a hard hat and good troll radar (I'm working on that one).

That will see you through.

I do agree that some threads can turn unnecessarily bitchy and there are people (often trolls) who seem to like sticking the boot in at the drop of a hat, but in the main most of us don't bite.

Explore other parts of the site. Chat is good. Classics is fun. Relationships and AIBU can be eye openers.

Hmnn I think it ate my post, so sorry if this is a weird duplicate.

Firstly, I am a woman

Secondly, I don't mean a' I love my husband' thread, but that relationships don't seem to be celebrated much, though singleness is (though tbf, I can understand how that can be very helpful as well).

If I wanted to post that I was engaged, or that I'd just met someone and was excited about it, or bounce ideas off people for nice things to do in a relationship, or treats for each other, it would seem a bit insensitive to do it in relationships, given most of the posts there.

Chat mostly covers it tbh, thank you for showing that to me. Im enjoying the really sweet engagement thread.

And whilst I think a congratulations/happy news are is a good idea, I.was being a being a bit tongue in cheek with its name. I thought that would come across, but clearly not...

Knobbish? Are you sure?

Well, my apologies then OP.

But trust me. Google 'unicorn zone'. Definitely has an aura of misogyny about it ....

Glad you're going to check out chat OP, there are lots of fun and positive ones there! There was one the other day about lovely things our DPs/husbands do- in a way it sometimes feels smug amongst all the shitty stuff but people can avoid these threads if they want. Personally I love all the doom and drama ones as my life is calm so I need thrills

To find chat just go to search in talk. and type _chat.

Lots of long running thread communities on there too, The boring thread is suppose to be good, aswell as the thread that nobody replies to(or something similar), ninjas thread and night owls thread all very welcoming just jump in.

YABU to complain that other people's serious personal problems depress you. How fucking selfish. Get outside your happy bubble for once.

You do seem awfully concerned about men op. This is one of those very rare spaces on the internet where women can talk freely, sorry you find that depressing.

Some of the stories that people tell can be very shocking and it's about how you process it. Not everyone can give advice especially if they haven't lived with disappointment, abuse or any type of trauma. It's nothing to feel ashamed about. It's a big website you will find you're way.

Don't take offence to other posters it's a very open place to chat. You have to get used to it.

If you're looking for a bland forum try Woman and Home.

Try just looking at 'Active' then you'll get a mixed bag of topics to pick from.

You do seem awfully concerned about men op. This is one of those very rare spaces on the internet where women can talk freely, sorry you find that depressing.

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This, all over.

Yup.

There are regular threads within relationships about the nice things our DPs do for us, or 'how did you meet your DH' type threads which inevitably end up with people saying how amazing their partner is.

There are often 'I think he's going to propose' threads with updates along the way. Plenty of cheerful stuff if there's something particular to say.

Starting a thread called "My DH has just put the bins out and made the DCs' packed lunches for the morning. I'm thinking I won't LTB" wouldn't be very entertaining, so no, not as many of those as the other kind.

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I hope your DH washed his hands after taking the bins out, before making the lunches. If not, LTB.

You've come on here saying effectively how shit mumsnet is and were the negative ones?

People come on here for support. Go on Facebook if you really want braggy.

This thread was never going to go down well op.

Maybe some people are stressed due to their useless husbands ect so vent on here? I wouldn't take anything to heart op everyone is allowed their own opinion and to be an arse if they like. All strangers end of the day.

Netmums can be a little more supportive though if you are looking for that.

Mumsnet is huge. You can easily avoid anything you don't want to read. There is always something that makes me laugh. My favourite ever thread involved everyone posting a photo of the ugliest thing in their house.