...to find Mumsnet quite depressing

[Blueskyrain]

I used to be an active member of a forum which was a lot about relationships etc, similar to here but younger, less about kids etc.

That ended up being shut down rather suddenly and I've eventually signed up for here because I miss forum debates, chat etc. But I'm finding it a bit depressing.

Is there a positive section that I'm missing or something? Obviously I understand that a lot of people come here for advice and are in awful situations, but it all seems to be about genuinely useless men, thinking other men are useless and breaking up, with very little in the way of really happy threads.

I don't think you're temperamentally suited to this place, OP. Are you the kind of person who says Mustn't Grumble a lot? Do you have posters of ickle kittens and that sign about dance like nobody's watching?

blue. There is a thread called 'The Seventeenth Thread' (they start new ones as each old one fills up). They are really welcoming, and you might really enjoy it. I was on a few of them for a while and might go back. At first, it all looks a bit but once you settle in, you will be with a group of posters who share everything from the mundane to the more serious stuff. I can't do links, but type it in search and you should find it.

To be honest OP, AIBU is mostly full of unfulfilled pricks spoiling for a fight. It's like 3am outside a nightclub on pound-a-shot Tuesday.

Not all of Mumsnet is like that but people do like to offload their frustrations here. I'd honestly advise spending less time here and finding something nice to do in real life.

Maybe we need a unicorn zone, for parents with kids that sleep and do as they are told, and for snug marrieds?

Isn't that what Face Book is for?

Start listening to the Archers, go on the Archers thread in Radio Addicts. Possibly the most civilised part of the site.

I don't think you're temperamentally suited to this place, OP. Are you the kind of person who says Mustn't Grumble a lot? Do you have posters of ickle kittens and that sign about dance like nobody's watching?

Lol, no, i just don't have anything to grumble about. Life isn't a competition to be more grumpy than anyone else.

'less than 5 on the crazy scale and more than 8 on the hot scale'.

This is Urban Dictionary's definition of the 'Unicorn Zone' (check it out, people, I Googled it out of curiosity) 'In other words, a woman who is as impossible to find as a unicorn', they say.

Nice.

Fuck off, OP. Seriously regret trying to be supportive.

Have you looked at Classics bluesky?

How long have you been on MN? I always think it's a bit weird when newbies (so to speak) post about how shit they think MN is - someone on another thread compared it to going into a pub and standing on a chair shouting about how shit the pub is instead of just finding another pub. Although I think they explained it better than I did

I find the following topics are good for fluffy type people (and I occasionally fall into this category)

The Litter Tray
Christmas
Recipes/cooking

Perfectly happy people don't need to describe their lives to strangers on the internet. People with problems, or going through tough times, or just having a pissed off moment are more likely to be looking for the support of strangers.

Actually I cross posted with your last post and I'm kind of thinking fuck off now too TBH.

How nice that you don't have anything to grumble about. Perhaps spare a thought for the people that do and find support here, instead of starting a thread to complain about them. MN does do support very well if robustly (which I like). Sometimes when people are going through shit, all you want is someone to say "it's shit. I'm sorry" and just acknowledge it.

Lol, no, i just don't have anything to grumble about. Life isn't a competition to be more grumpy than anyone else.

Well, no, but you do get that not everyone is like you, that a lot of people have actual problems, rather than their main complaint seeming to be that an internet forum they have just joined isn't zippy and positive enough for them?

I unashamedly light and fluffy some a lot of the time - I mainly stick to Style & Beauty - all upbeat and helpfulness - and Sleb Twaddle.
Also Chat from time to time. AIBU & Relationships can be great, but also heavy going.

Are you a man, OP?

Chat is for some reason at the end of the list of topics. The title is indented from the rest of the list. Once you've found it, mark it as one of your Favourites so you can find it again.

Reasonable question OP, and Chat is definitely what you're after. I only dip into the other areas sporadically and often retreat rapidly.

There was a lovely thread this PM about proposals - brought a tear to my eye and that kind of thing is great as people share really wonderful moments of their lives, often with immense humour.

If you are going to use AIBU then you have to pick the good with the bad. Not over invest yourself which can easily happen. People can be rude and attack the person who create the thread. We are all anonymous so they don't care they say its called AIBU so I can behave like an arse. There are good sections in mumsnet but like the others said you have to find them.

There's loads of positive stuff on MN. Click on Talk in the top left hand corner and have a look at the Topics and see if there's anything that takes your fancy.

You do find funny threads the woman who cut up 2 scotch bonnets and playfully grabbed her dh willy. That was funny she forgot she had it on her hands.

Head to Classics - some seriously funny stuff over there.

OP - surely if there is a particular subject that interests you, find the related page for that and stick to those threads? MN is a funny old place but I'll be honest, I don't click on anything that doesnt interest me ... and the goady fuckers make me laugh the majority of the time

Sometimes its ridiculous though. The posts like 'was this old man wrong to tell a stupid joke about money to my 4 year old darling child' and the complete over-reaction that was posted in there When that got to 17 pages long, I gave up ... one thing ive learnt on here is that some people really are very precious indeed I really want to say ODFOD a lot more

The problem is we haven't all got the same sense of humour. Lots of people thought penis beaker was funny.

Yes, lots of Mumsnet is extraordinarily miserable. If you prefer not to be involved then you can hide individual Topics (Relationships perhaps? certainly Mental Health) and you won't see any threads from those topics in active conversations again.

Once in a blue moon there will be a genuinely funny thread in Aibu or Chat.

At the moment I am watching a long-running thread from a Mumsnetter whose neighbours keep putting their wheelie bins at the bottom of her garden. Somehow it is very compelling

The weight loss sections are always really positive with lots of good advice and genuine support.

Is that really you Colditz?