To leave baby in pushchair, at the side of the pool, while I go swimming?

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Hi, not sure if this would be unreasonable or not.

I have a son who has swimming lessons. It's at a country club, so you need a membership card to even have any kind of access to the pool and it's pretty small in there. Just some nice seating around the sides. I have a newborn baby who I'd rather not take swimming when DS is there as I like to focus on just him in the water (he is 3) and he is encouraged not to use floats, as he can swim underwater, but we're just getting him to do it on top, so not an option for the time being. Also, I'd just rather wait until I do baby classes.

Would I be unreasonable to leave baby in pushchair (asleep) while I go into the pool with DS? It's not mother and toddler classes, it's just him and a couple of other children but I can still use the swim lanes and would be nice to swim. Also, he likes to have a free swim before lessons start.

Thanks

Go for it OP she'll be fine if you can hear her. Our pool would be perfect for this, you park buggies poolside.

What she didn't ask for was ridiculous judgments and irrelevant anecdotes

Well, yes, but this is AIBU. It's never going to be non-judgemental and sensible.

You should, but you won't, because it's AIBU ...it is not known as a hub of reason and calm.

One poster said they saw a buggy or a car seat at the bottom of a pool. I don't call that an irrelevant anecdote tbh. I can't remove the posters written words from my head, let alone the image.

I think having buggies at the side of an indoor pool is horribly unhygienic. I would not use a pool that allowed this and I'm genuinely surprised so many don't have a problem with it.

Our pool doesn't allow outdoor shoes and asks people to shower before using the pool.

Flora where I take DD for baby swimming everyone leaves there buggy by the pool!

But we moved on from a buggy ages ago, everyone is on about car seats. Ours don't allow shoes either. But we did discover that a little while ago... About the buggies I mean.

Okay, not everyone but most people were! So a car seat isn't going to roll into the water

Christ some people are so bloody BATSHIT about leaving their kids. People in my local pool do this all the time. It make sense - you go in with the toddler and can see if not hear the baby at all times. If the baby squeaks - you get out and deal with it.
Pushchairs are allowed poolside here too. Because where I live we LIKE mothers and babies and toddlers to have a good time and not be stressed and actually enjoy themselves in the pool. GASP.

Depending on the set up of the pool this is fine and lots of places allow it.

Go for it op you can only ask.

Flora if I was as concerned about hygiene as you seem to be I simply wouldn't use a public pool.

Oh actually when ds1 was little my post natal baby group used to go swimming together we did it as a weekly thing and obviously over time we all went on to have second/third babies and we all used to have the babies in carseats or bouncy chairs at side of pool, not right by the edge obviously! Back against the wall. Ad they got bigger I think there was a playpen? I don't know if it was the pools or a parent put it up? But it was a set up that worked well.

Most indoor public pools make attempts to minimise the dirt in the water. Up until this thread I thought they all did. Seems this isn't the case everywhere and I am genuinely surprised.

If you post on a public forum, you will get replies from people from all different walks of life and different experiences. It doesn't mean some are right and some are wrong

Some ARE right and some ARE very wrong though.

Yy MrsDeVere! I can't wash as I can't leave the baby. I can't shop, I can't swim, I can't pay for petrol, I can't fuck because of the baby and the potential risks!

OP has been remarkably restrained in light of some of the batshit, offensive posts aimed at her.

I'm another one hoping the pool say yes. Please come back here with a photo of the carrycot by the pool so the pearl-clutchers are horrified.

Used to do this with ds3 loads when he was a baby
Usual mumnset batshit nonsense and fickwittery on this thread as per usual though

Well I'm sorry if you felt me sharing a story about something that I felt was relevant has made you all react like that.

Between knowing people who had such tragedies and having PND to a suicidal point I did find it hard to leave my baby. I would pop out the room but really struggled with much more and although I'm on the mend I still get anxiety about something happening to anyone I love.

I'm not trying to impose my condition but just explain why my view point was so extreme (although others have followed sounded more extreme than me!).

This doesn't make me a matyr, just someone who struggled in a different way to you with being a parent. It's better than the opposite end of the spectrum that you see or read about and seems all too common.

Having said that, I'm really not over protective of DD. Since 6 months I manage to have showers! She gets herself into all kinds of situations being a climber that if I'm just popping some peas on for her dinner and a sausage in the oven, I turn around and she's on the dining table. I swing her around and carry her by her ankles. She gets knocked over by the dogs and brushes it off etc. I don't think I'm doing that badly now.

Anyway I don't know why I felt the need to justify myself but I am being attacked for worrying. I'm glad some of you don't have the same anxieties, it's shit to live with but don't belittle because of it.

Also I have not been one of the ones saying anything bad about op's choices, just saying my own worries, even saying I'm a worrier.

Op doesn't deserve a questioning on her own physical state or mental. She hasn't asked about that.