My ex was an awful person: He spent all his money on booze and drugs (I had to work all the hours I could in a crappy job, just to make sure that the rent and bills were paid). He was emotionally abusive, repeatedly unfaithful and a user.
When we eventually split (after yet another affair) he told me it was my fault that he cheated, it was also my fault that he was an alcoholic, I stifled his creativity, I had no ambition and that he was going places, would be rich, famous and that it was me that held him back. I believed him.
I was in my early 20s, I had given up my education and all of my friends for him, had a rubbish job, no confidence at all, I had no money and I had to move back to my parents’ house. I was left with nothing but debts. I felt worthless, useless, I couldn’t see any future and I seriously considered ending it all.
Fast forward many years later – My life has moved on and I hadn’t really thought about him until his name cropped up online and thought I would find out (through a friend of a friend) what had happened to him. He is in his late 40s and living with his parents, although he looks much older due to his continued heavy drinking. He’s gone from one woman to another with no meaningful relationships. He works a part time, minimum wage job (it seems that his big break is just around the corner still!). He spends his time at the same pubs as before, scraping together the money for a few beers, his old friends have all deserted him. He comes across as a bit of a letch as he still tries it on with girls’ half his age.
My life is very different – I must admit I have a pretty idyllic lifestyle, I have a wonderful family, my husband has a successful company, we own a house in a lovely area, have no money worries at all, we have a very comfortable and happy life.
He wouldn’t know anything about my life now as I live far away. Just knowing how his turned out is justice enough, but I would love to have that karmic moment - To bump into him in my old hometown and to look fabulous and confident, then just look down at him and laugh.