my ex was an absolute arsehole - I have no idea why I stayed with him as long as I did, I think I was convinced no one else would want me as he was always telling me I was ugly and fat etc.
Anyway I got really ill when I was with him, hospital couldn't find what was wrong with me and took a year to finally diagnose me. During that time my ex would go out every single weekend, come home out of his mind at 4am (or sometimes not at all!) He would ring me at stupid oclock in the morning asking for me to collect him and then scream abuse down the phone when I refused.
On days that i had hospital appointments he refused to take me because it would mean he would have to get out of bed 3/4 hour earlier in the morning so he could drop me off and be back to work in time so either my mum would have to take me or I'd get a taxi. Same with if the appointment was in the afternoon he would refuse to collect me because it meant he would have to drive across town after work and he just wanted to go home after work and chill....
on one occasion after a drinking session he was too drunk to put the key in the lock he banged the door down until I woke up and opened it and then accused me of purposely locking him out.
He came upstairs and punched the bedroom door putting a hole through it and started screaming and shouting at me.
This went on for about 6 months I just used to prepare myself for it every weekend.
he would go to campervan shows but refuse to let me come with him and then turn his phone off all weekend.
Finally one day I started to feel a bit better and a friend insisted on dragging me out for the evening to a local pub just for a few drinks - my ex who was already out on the town went mental when he heard I was going out and told me to pack my bags and get the hell out of (our) house.
I packed my bags the next day the hangover from hell and never went back..
2 weeks later he was crying and begging for me to come back.
He then ended up with a woman I suspected him carrying on with behind my back at these campervan shows. They had been flirting back and fall for years as she was the daughter of his dads good friend and they lived abroad when me and ex got together but came back half way through our relationship, which is when I suspect something started.
Anyway she dumped him after 3 weeks after he'd already paid for a round the world trip, she didn't turn up to the airport and she was then seen on facebook the next day checking into various places with some other bloke!!
hahahhaah!
I bump into mutual friends now and again and apparently he still tells them to this day his biggest mistake in life was treating me like crap and letting me go.