To ask if you've ever seen someone get what they deserve?

[Fishface77]

I was at a wedding in Saturday and there was an ex-couple there.
The ex-H d was emotionally, verbally and financially abusive to his ex-w (witnessed).
She finally left him, gained a stone, had hair and make up done, looked fab and has a hot new man.
Ex-h eyes nearly fell out of his head. He tried to chat to her and she laughed, asked if she knew him and strolled of.
The look on his face was priceless and he just slunk away.
Have you ever seen anyone get what they deserve?

[Glitterbug76]

To true Amanda !
One of the best pieces of advice I ever had had was you can't change what's happened but you can decide how you deal with the situation and react to it
Every action ultimately has a reaction and I always think to my self as long as I can sleep at night you have to be carful who you tread on to get to the top as they kick you twice as hard on the way back down X

[apintofharpandapacketofdates]

I don't think I believe in karma. For one thing, I generally think 'who am I to decide what they deserve?'

I've not got the energy to be frustrated/angry (my words) at people who've hurt me, let me down, bullied me, etc. I'd be angry all day otherwise.

Fuck that.

to all of you that have been hurt / are hurting.

[Amandahugandkisses]

Yes indeed.
I speak from massive hurt and experience here. It's best not to react when someone intentionally hurts you. It's v hard but it's for the best to walk away and literally not look back once.
Also someone whose FB look page looks great or pitiful is neither here nor there. We don't know what people are feeling inside or what their lives are actually like.

[Cheby]

Thanks Glitter; you're right, she is a leach. I do feel sorry for her though. The rest of our group are all married with children, settled and doing well with careers. It can't be nice for her and I would never wish her situation on anyone, but I do think she has been the architect of it, at least to some extent.

[SistersOfPercy]

My cousin was a police biker. One morning he was going off to work in civvies on his own bike, followed by a white van, when a car changed lanes and knocked him off. Cousin got up and dusted himself down and was suddenly on the receiving end of a load of verbal from the driver who hit him.

White van stopped behind and out jumped eight police in full riot gear, who, along with plain clothes cousin, had been on the way to a job. Car driver changed his attitude a bit sharpish.

I'd like to say I believe in karma, and cousin had it instantly that day, but a few months after that incident he died on his bike leaving behind a wife he'd been married to for months and a 3 week old child.

[Madeupforthis]

DH is tall and bald. Two teenage oik's rode past us on the pavement from behind, one did a wheelie to slap DH on the back of his head.

He missed.
Smashed in to a lamp post.
Hit balls on cross bar as he landed.

He wasn't really hurt and had the audacity to ask us to help him and asked me to call his mum while he cried on the floor. So I rang and told her what he'd done. She was furious at him and couldn't apologise enough as he'd been in trouble the week before too.

[Moomichi]

Ex best friend took money out of my account and borrowed money and never gave it back. Told everyone it was the other way round.
Looking back she ended up going out with or getting off with every lad I told her I fancied. Told me it wasn't her fault that they fancied her and not me.
Told her I really liked this lad we both knew. She started flirting with him and on a night out tried to lap dance him. He got up and walked off and she was really put out. Kept angling for drinks off him all night. Quietly behind the scenes me and the lad are texting but exbf keeps saying he's not interested or just stringing me along. Can't believe he's interested in me and not her.
13 years later I'm married to him and we have three children and are really happy. I haven't spoken to her in 12 years and I've no idea what she's up to and have no interest either.

[hellsbellsmelons]

OMG Sisters that is truly awful.

[Stormtreader]

I dont have your health conditions itsmine so I dont pretend to know what its like for you. Please do overweight people the same courtesy. If youve never lived it then you have no idea what its like, and whether you "accept" it or not is totally irrelevant to people who have.

Ive tried cigarettes before a few times, didnt grab me, never felt any desire for them. Doesnt mean that I "just dont accept" that everyone should just not smoke. Just because its easy for me doesnt mean its easy for everyone.

[Glitterbug76]

I agree storm reader addiction is addiction and the cause it out of people control I've worked with people in my job who've over eaten due to abuse the same as others who turned to drugs an alcohol and self harm they shouldn't be judged

[Oliversmumsarmy]

A mum in my ds's class I was quite friendly with, her dd taught herself to read at 2 and generally was a very bright well behaved little girl. She admitted to me a few years later that she thought karma had got her as she thought my little boy who ran everywhere, shouted out and generally never listened to anything anyone ever said was like that because she thought I was an ineffectual parent.
She had another child a little boy and suddenly realised little boys are very different to little girls. At the age her dd had been reading her little boy decided he wanted to be a bull so would charge around the house not listening and would start mooing in reply to anything she said. At least she told me ds was coherent even if he was very loud. Asking her son anything meant the reply was usually a couple of moos and a snort.

[Cheby]

the vast majority just purely over eat though, a tiny minority will be 'addicted', depressed or abuse vitims.

Got a source for that itsmine? Or is it just your personal opinion?

[flippinada]

itsmine that's quite a confident statement, that the majority of people who overeat don't have any related trauma. Are you an expert in eating disorders?

[Glitterbug76]

Was just thinking that can't remember those stats when under taking my masters degree or in my 13 years experience working with abuse victims xx

[QueenLizIII]

My first BF at Uni was a jumped up arsehole. He thought the sun shone from his arse.

No one liked him and he didnt have any friends. I was young and liked him and took his side and felt sorry for him against the big cruel world and uni. Then I realised it was him, not before he had alienated all of my friends and turned on me. He was the most selfish arrogant little prick you've ever met.

He wanted to be a film director and was doing a film course at uni. He was dead serious about it and about how awesome he was and how much stuff he knew.

Well imagine my surprise when I saw him advertising in a local newspaper for funding for his latest short film project. he had lied about his age: he was over 35 at the time and pretending to be 29. Young, promising director he was called.

I looked at fund set up online for donations a few weeks later. It had received approximately £15.

[flippinada]

No, I disagree. You have no way of knowing that a it's just a tiny minority of people that have related trauma because how can you possibly know? You've just decided they don't and are presenting your own opinion as fact.

[ginorwine]

Yes
I cannot give details but I managed to get a paedophile arrested and charged and put on sex offenders register .

[dustarr73]

Anyway, as I said my point being that the previously overweight people on this thread were excitedly pointing out other people were now fat should surely have empathy? That overweight person is now apparently addicted or traumatised going by your generalisations? even if they did deserve it.

Itsmine thats the only piece i agree with.

[flippinada]

Good for you gin!

I do agree that the comments reporting gleefully on other people's fatness as some sort of punishment are distasteful.

[Goingtobeawesome]

I'm aware of a man who abused his foster child decades ago getting charged and being forced to pleaded guilty who was then jailed and died of cancer of the bones and pelvis. Is it bad to see that as karma?

[Mermaidsandbutterflies]

my ex was an absolute arsehole - I have no idea why I stayed with him as long as I did, I think I was convinced no one else would want me as he was always telling me I was ugly and fat etc.

Anyway I got really ill when I was with him, hospital couldn't find what was wrong with me and took a year to finally diagnose me. During that time my ex would go out every single weekend, come home out of his mind at 4am (or sometimes not at all!) He would ring me at stupid oclock in the morning asking for me to collect him and then scream abuse down the phone when I refused.

On days that i had hospital appointments he refused to take me because it would mean he would have to get out of bed 3/4 hour earlier in the morning so he could drop me off and be back to work in time so either my mum would have to take me or I'd get a taxi. Same with if the appointment was in the afternoon he would refuse to collect me because it meant he would have to drive across town after work and he just wanted to go home after work and chill....

on one occasion after a drinking session he was too drunk to put the key in the lock he banged the door down until I woke up and opened it and then accused me of purposely locking him out.
He came upstairs and punched the bedroom door putting a hole through it and started screaming and shouting at me.
This went on for about 6 months I just used to prepare myself for it every weekend.
he would go to campervan shows but refuse to let me come with him and then turn his phone off all weekend.

Finally one day I started to feel a bit better and a friend insisted on dragging me out for the evening to a local pub just for a few drinks - my ex who was already out on the town went mental when he heard I was going out and told me to pack my bags and get the hell out of (our) house.

I packed my bags the next day the hangover from hell and never went back..

2 weeks later he was crying and begging for me to come back.

He then ended up with a woman I suspected him carrying on with behind my back at these campervan shows. They had been flirting back and fall for years as she was the daughter of his dads good friend and they lived abroad when me and ex got together but came back half way through our relationship, which is when I suspect something started.
Anyway she dumped him after 3 weeks after he'd already paid for a round the world trip, she didn't turn up to the airport and she was then seen on facebook the next day checking into various places with some other bloke!!

hahahhaah!

I bump into mutual friends now and again and apparently he still tells them to this day his biggest mistake in life was treating me like crap and letting me go.

[EverySongbirdSays]

I live in hope of seeing my best mates ex get his comeuppance from how he's treated her, I like to think it does eventually come around

[flippinada]

My ex was a horrible, emotionally abusive bully. He's also a cheat, a thief and a liar who has no compunction in using people to get what he wants then casting them aside when they've outlived their usefulness. I'm still waiting for him to get his comeuppance!

In the meantime, I'm very glad not to be in a relationship with him any more.