To ask if you've ever seen someone get what they deserve?

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I was at a wedding in Saturday and there was an ex-couple there.
The ex-H d was emotionally, verbally and financially abusive to his ex-w (witnessed).
She finally left him, gained a stone, had hair and make up done, looked fab and has a hot new man.
Ex-h eyes nearly fell out of his head. He tried to chat to her and she laughed, asked if she knew him and strolled of.
The look on his face was priceless and he just slunk away.
Have you ever seen anyone get what they deserve?

Then don't accept it Itsmine. Are you this pleasant in real life?

I'm really hoping karma will give an huge slap to the STBXH of my lovely friend.

Fortunately for him, she's a very strong and dignified lady, or he would already be the talk of our small town.

Friend's abusive ex got arrested after assualting her, he denied the assault, apparantly grabbing her by her neck and pushing her into the sink to see 'the mess she'd made' was just him giving her a cuddle.

Police couldn't charge him, but he had a bit of weed in his pocket that they found and he got a caution for drugs! Never has the word 'schadenfraude' been so apt!

I once worked in a restaurant where a man came in every Sunday for his lunch (let's call him Malcolm), and every single week would complain about it. (There was nothing wrong, he just liked to throw his weight around). All the kitchen staff hated him.

One evening he came in with his Rotary Club mates for dinner, and was literally snapping his fingers at the waiting staff. His friends all looked most embarrassed by his behaviour.

I told the chef, who then accidentally dropped Malcolm's melon ball starter on the floor ... kicked it around a bit ... then put it back in the dish and gave it to me to serve to him . I know it's bad but he was so horrible. He was banned eventually too so justice was indeed done.

I should just add that I know serving melon balls as a starter is unforgivable in itself, but it was the 1980s.

I beg to differ itsmine. You've been very unpleasant.

oh I spat in someone's drink once when he was stood at the bar with crowd of people laughing at the barmaid (me).

madeinKent - that makes you sound horrible and I've reported for obvious reasons.

Good for you Pluto.

Your fragile self-esteem must have taken such a knock, but you rose above it. That's what I like to hear.

(Mind- -if any lad had spoken about me like that to my dad, he would have got his head in his hands to play with. And so would I - he would have killed me!)

The other woman involved in the breakdown of my 16 year relationship applied for and was offered a job where I worked. I didn't know about it until I came back from my honeymoon. Frankly I didn't care until my HR person told me the OW had clinched the job because she said she knew me and implied that we'd work well together. Unfortunately OW hadn't realised that I was the firms top earner and had been with them for years. Not really hard to choose between us. And she's lied on her cv so didn't get to sue us either
Ex married her, they divorced after 9 months.

plutoisnotaplanet You are fantastic.
I have some untreatable, chronic illnesses, I also have some mighty hangups from being a kid, and I absolutely and totally agree with you. Being fed as a reward, food withheld as a punishment will fuck with any child's mind. Obesity and problems with hunger signals, food cravings, etc are hell. Smokers can exist without tobacco, alcoholics can survive without booze, but we all have to eat to survive, so getting a balance is so bloody hard. Those of you who are fortunate not to have travelled the same path have no idea.

EasternDaily
That has just reminded me of what happened in the hotel restaurant I used to work at
The really sexy chef was a tad hot-headed, and did not tolerate bullshit from anyone. A couple came in for dinner one night. They were probably mid-50's, very over-dressed for the calibre of hotel, and reminded me a bit of Hyacinth Bucket with their very forced, plummy accent.
The woman complained about the location of their table, then when they were moved, she complained about a draught coming through. She complained about the size of her wine glass (unnecessarily big apparently, even though she'd ordered a large glass), asked to taste numerous wines, and then still complained about the one they had chosen. Sent her starter back because the balsamic vinegar was touching the bread on the plate. They then decided to order the chef's new tasting menu. They complained about the first couple of tasting dishes and sent it back. They then decided to have steak instead. She ordered it well-done (which annoyed the chef anyway), but it wasn't cooked to her liking....so low and behold, she sent it back. Her husband was getting progressively more irritated with her behaviour from the snippets of conversation I heard.
Next thing I know, the sexy chef comes storming from the kitchen, skillet in one hand, a raw steak on greaseproof paper in the other hand and said to her: "Seeing as though nothing is right for you, come and cook it your fucking self!"
She was so embarrassed! And then o top it off, her husband said "Had enough of embarrassing yourself yet?".
They ate in silence and left

Hi all,
We're getting a few reports saying that this thread isn't really in the spirit of Mumsnet any more, and we can kind of see that point. We're reluctant to get rid of the thread altogether but we do think that the OP meant this to be a bit more positive than it is turning out..

My ex is older than I am. My current is younger than I am. When ex got together with his current I was happy for him. And he seemed to take great pleasure in informing me that she is a year younger than me.

His face when I casually let slip that my current is 25 years younger than him is an image I treasure.

I don't believe in Karma either but like Dixie I do think that people who have a pattern of unpleasant, obnoxious and even downright criminal behaviour (bullying bosses, abusive exes, dangerous drivers and so on) will eventually fall foul of their own shortcomings.

Sociopaths often seem to get away with the most appalling stuff again and again and can seem untouchable but generally come to a bad end.

That said I really enjoyed Topseyt's story about the fireworks. Very satisfying :)

Controversial and crossing threads but brangelina ! Karma for Jen !! That w mag spread talk bout rubbing some ones face in it !?

Glitter I don't usually follow celeb gossip but I do hope Jen is feeling a bit smug about that one! I feel like B&A really did a number on her. Now Jen is married to an utterly gorgeous man and seems so happy. I feel like she could post on this thread "my husband left me for a work colleague, flaunted his relationship to all and sundry and rattled out kids like there's no tomorrow. It took me a while to get over it it I've now married a wonderful man and I hear they split up. Which shocked me as they were the dream couple. Sorry not sorry"

I don't believe in karma. But I do believe that to some extent, what happens to us is a result of our own behaviour.

I had a friend who was emotionally very very needy. No difficult past, no troubled childhood or anything (I knew her family well and had heard about her childhood and the rest of her life in minute detail).

She was always the kind of friend to cause drama in any situation, to make herself the centre of attention. She would gladly have you listen to her (mostly trivial) woes at length but was never there when you needed a friendly ear.

As time went on I discovered a really unpleasant side of her character; she would drop female friends like a hot brick at the first sign of male attention. She would court attention from other's boyfriends (including my own, thankfully he thought it was ridiculous) and cheated on one guy who absolutely worshiped the ground she walked on. When he moved on she worked tirelessly to split him and his new girlfriend up, and managed it. New girlfriend was a former friend of hers. On a holiday we went on together, she ditched me on day 2 for a guy she met. I spent 10 days wandering round a strange town abroad on my own.

This continued and continued until I deliberately distanced myself from her. I avoided her for decades and only had very minimal contact through mutual friends.

For one reason and another, we are back in regular contact. Her life to date has been a series of failed relationships. Multiple instances of long term sick from her job. Very little career progression (she is intelligent and capable of much more). Her working relationships are entirely dysfunctional. Three broken engagements, multiple incidents of cheating by her and on her, she is now single and pregnant.

I don't feel glad about any of that. Not at all. I am doing my best to help and be supportive while maintaining emotional distance as I know it will be a draining relationship that I get nothing in return from.

But I do think that her situation is the result of the way she has treated people throughout her life. It's like she has never learned from any of her experiences. I'm guessing her self esteem is through the floor for her to behave the way she does, but while she continually tramples over others to make herself feel better I can not engage fully as I know I will be completely dispensable to her should a better (male) offer come along. I have a family and a full time job and can't spare the emotional energy she absorbs.

Glitter

I was among many saying the same last night. The thread got pulled because "there are kids involved" of course it's awful for the kids and we said as much on thread

I think Bogeyface said that if you marry a man who cheated on his wife with you then all you are is someone married to a man who cheats on his wife"

There's also the old adage "The man who marries his mistress creates a vacancy"

Cheby sounds exactly like my hubbys ex sociopath when my freinds who's a Amhp
Explained it I looked the definition sounds like it applies to lots of people you don't need her in your life they are like leaches suck the life / blood out of people !!

P.s her self esteem is probably very high as most sociopaths have delusions of grandeur

How people treat you is their Karma.
How you react is yours.