to look forward to DH going away

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... So that I can enjoy the clean bedding all to myself?

Is it only me who hates when dh is not at home 😁 I absolutely hate it and we try to never be apart most time we've ever spent apart in 8 years is when I had ds1 and spent 4 days in hospital it was horrendous

My dp just helped his friend move down south this weekend, he left saturday morning at 5am and was expected back tea time the same day, except i got a call in the afternoon to say the flat he was morning to had a pest problem and they had to wait for the fumigators the next day meaning he would have to stay over and unload the van.

I pretended i was upset but secretly got off the phone punching the air, had a lovely day on sat with ds and yesterday we lazed around and baked some brownies. I have had a full year of his at home though after being made redundant, i'm a bit sad that hes back now and looking forward to his upcoming college trip to some sculpture park meaning another night away

Me an'all Puntasic.

There's nothing like virgin sheets for giving that feeling of luxury.

I hate it when I've changed the bed and DH gets win before I do (he often takes a nap in the middle of the day, the lazy bugger!).

Now he's retired I hardly ever get a night to myself, but I used to love lying in bed with the dogs and the cats, reading Bill Bryson and laughing out loud, and scoffing a bag of apples . . .

I agree

I watch crap on telly and no-one raised their eyebrows

No autisimmama it's not just you. I hate it too. My husband is currently working away for two years and apart from the summer hols when we all go and visit him, we only get to see him every six to eight weeks for a few days. He's back end of the month for a weekend away with me (yippee!) and then we probably won't see him til Christmas. Doesn't mean I don't appreciate clean and lovely bedsheets though!

DH and I have not slept in the same bed for 25 years.
It is bliss :)

I love him to bits but he snores, farts, sweats and has the window wide open in winter and doesn't change his sheets a NORMAL amount.

Meanwhile I have weekly clean sheets, candles, a fan on all night and no clothes on the floor.

Secret of a happy marriage, I think

I keep encouraging DH to go away on business but he doesn't!

covets sheets

Way back in the late 50s when I was a small child in the time before household washing machines , our sheets were sent to a laundry. I still remember opening the box (yes a sustainable box secured with a leather strap), folding back the deep blue tissue paper and helping my mother put the clean, starched, white sheets on the bed. I'd completely forgotten about this until I read Punta's post. It was a little bit of pure luxury. Oohhh, how I'd love that now.

What is it with men and dishwashers?? My DH just the same.

I like the fact that my house is so quiet. DH is a big guy with clumping feet who must have 'background noise' (telly) at all times. He's also one for having to conduct 'stream of consciousness' discussions that I don't listen to about what's going on outside, the weather, what he's having for lunch, his favourite 'issues'. etc. To be fair his mother warned me, but we've been married 30 years and his good points far outweigh the bad.

I turn the telly off and just enjoy the lack of noise and the fact that I don't have to keep one ear open so he thinks I'm listening.

I had a great relationship with my ex, until he stopped working nights. We split up shortly afterwards.

I could never live with a man again.

YANBU. When dp is on nights I hate saying goodbye to him in the evenings and I feel guilty as he's heading off to work whilst I'm getting ready to chill out for the night. But I'm quite an introvert and also enjoy the time to myself; being able to watch what I want on tv, having the bed to myself, having some actual peace and quiet which I don't get a lot of. It's nice. At the same time I'm always glad when his night shift is over.

Mine was in the navy and went away for months at a time ... not even a letter or phone call for up to 12 weeks sometimes (submariner)

I loved the bed to myself, reading until the early hours, less dirty washing, clean house despite two small children, G & T at 7 o'clock after kids were in bed ... just blissful :)

Wish my OH would bugger off for a week lol. He works much shorter hours than me so home when I leave for work and home before I get home. It's like he never leaves the house!

“Sergeant Colon owed thirty years of happy marriage to the fact that Mrs. Colon worked all day and Sargent Colon worked all night. They communicated by means of notes. They had three grown-up children, all born, Vimes had assumed, as a result of extremely persuasive handwriting.”

No i hate the thought of my dp being away. Hate it.

A trip might on the cards next few months and I can't even think about it. Makes me feel dreadful to be honest.
I try to hide it and be supportive.

DH works away from home 4 weeks back a week.. I love starfishing on those clean sheets when he goes (i do miss him honest)

My DH once worked from home for 18 months I had18 months of never once coming home to the house empty - it was horrific. In the end, I started making him go out.

I'm the dishwasher fascist in our house though

I don't like him being away as it's x 3 the work with the kids, but I do (secretly) like it when I have a cold and he sleeps on the sofa and I get the bed to myself. Managed to stretch it 3 nights last week with fresh bedding, aaah!

I loved it when my ex was out/away (even back when I didn't think he was a knob). Hate it when my current partner isn't around.

The major difference is that my dp and I don't yet live together. And actually I'm home alone tonight and rather enjoying it :)

Norks excellent quote! I love Sergeant Colon (but Vimes even more)

I'm with you OP. My DH used to work away at sea. Depending on the company he was working for it was away 2 weeks/home 2 weeks or away a month/home a month. It was great! While he was away everything was so tidy, I could watch rubbish TV, eat pizza & pasta to my heart's content.
Now he is land based & works on calls. He's away some nights, but it's not the same as him working away. We now have 4dcs too, which makes life much less relaxing whether he's there or not. The eldest dcs are teens, which means I don't get those blissful quiet evenings I used to get when he worked a night & the youngest still cosleeps (new bedroom being added right now), so I can't star fish or retreat to my bed for quiet either. It's torture! Bring on the new bedroom. My own will become a tranquil adult retreat type place.

P.S. I am the dishwasher police.

OP - my OH went away last week, and the first thing I did was change the sheets! (In fact I actually eeked a few extra days on the last set, just to be able to fully appreciate them!)

My favourite things about him being away are (in no particular order): clean sheets, a good night's sleep, deciding not to tidy if I don't want to, being able to go to bed at 8pm and get up early without anyone whinging, having the kids bedtimes run properly AND getting to the bottom of the laundry basket. I love it

Oh and serving veggie food without someone saying, could you add some ham....

Dh works away a couple of times a month and I've grown to love it! I hated it when the dc were smaller but now they are 5 & 2 I actually find them easier to manage on my own (fewer adults for them to play up to ) plus I can watch shit tv (kuwtk), eat veggie food and have the whole bed to myself. I'm looking forward to weds when he goes again for a couple if nights