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Original poster

to wonder why I bother???

110 replies

SilverHoney · 17/09/2016 12:15

Fully prepared that I'm going to get flamed, but it's worth it to have a rant!

DD is 15 months. I've always cooked for her because jars / pouches are so expensive and luckily she's a good eater, so I can just give her what I'm having.

We get ice-creams at the park, she can eat her weight in biscuits at nanny's house, doesn't bother me. If she's eating healthy at home and nursery, then it balances out.

I was working in the garden so DH (who is perfectly capable) gave her lunch and put her to bed. When I asked what she had he said chicken soup. I don't eat meat so I know there's none in the freezer.

Then the penny drops. You mean tinned chicken soup?? He didn't see the problem. I called him a cunt. He said that wasn't very nice.

I'm fully away it's not going to kill her, but AIBU to wonder WHY DO I BLOODY BOTHER??

A year of cooking, freezing, labelling... I should have saved myself the bother and stocked up on tinned soup and super noodles Hmm

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SilverHoney · 17/09/2016 13:08

ssd yes, and I'm sure that she will live off chips, cheese and gravy like I did. However, I don't see that as reason not to bother feeding her half decently now.

And I 100% won't call the chip-shop-man a c* in case he bans me!

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Eyeboo · 17/09/2016 13:09

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monkeysox · 17/09/2016 13:09

Yabu ffs.

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SilverHoney · 17/09/2016 13:09

flanj you might want to asrix some of your 4 letter words incase your children that are asleep in bed hear you typing.

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MotherDuckSaid · 17/09/2016 13:15

is it 'just' the one child you have OP ?
Only asking because I remember similar feeling with the first. All his meat and veg had to come from the farmers market, couldn't allow him too much unsupervised t.v time, felt guilty about pretty much everything etc !
By the third i'd turn a blind eye as the eldest jammed his twix in her one year old mouth.. by the fifth we congratulate ourselves when we get through the day and everyone has eaten/ had their teeth brushed and we hvnt had any major disasters !
You are coming from a good place, you want the best for your child and that should be congratulated not slammed down, i hope you do tell yourself that you are doing a great job and don't just think about the things u could be doing Better. It's all over so quickly, and ur daughter won't remember that she ate organic food, but she'll remember if you are hard on yourself. (Obv not implying you are all th time- it's advice i try and give myself all the time when i've spent a large part of the day with a face like a slapped arse) :)

ElspethFlashman · 17/09/2016 13:17

I know there are relationships like this.

We've all been to the pub with that couple who get a bit pissed and start merrily flinging "Fuck off you stupid cunt!" at each other while we all fix glassy uncomfortable smiles on our faces and remember why we haven't been out with them in a while.

listsandbudgets · 17/09/2016 13:17

Come here and call me a cunt OP - I'm about to feed my children tinned soup and toasted ham and cheese sandwiches for lunch.... go on I dare you call me a cunt.

Your poor poor husband...

Costacoffeeplease · 17/09/2016 13:18

You sound like a complete lunatic, maybe go and have a lie down and you'll feel better later Hmm

MotherDuckSaid · 17/09/2016 13:18

and btw i too call my OH every name under the sun- he got wanker before the school run yesterday, it's much more healthy than hitting them with a frying pan

dotdotdotmustdash · 17/09/2016 13:19

I fed my DC tinned soup regularly when they were little - I've never made soup in my life. So glad they survived.

If my DH called me a cunt it would have huge ramifications for us. Very disrespectful. I can't imagine calling anyone that.

ElspethFlashman · 17/09/2016 13:19

My child is sick and has refused all but potato waffles for 24 hrs so I'm desperately shoving them in so he at least eats something.

I suspect I'm the biggest cunt of you all so.

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SilverHoney · 17/09/2016 13:32

Anyway, like I said, I'm managed to pull my head out of my a* and get over soup-gate.

Unfortunately I have now got to take my abusive, nasty, lunatic self and get on with my day.

After I've offered a grovelling appology to DH obviously.

Thanks MN, as always it's been... interesting Grin

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Oysterbabe · 17/09/2016 13:35

I still don't understand the actual issue. Is it the salt? I agree it's a bit of a shit dinner but calling him a cunt is a bit ott.

hownottofuckup · 17/09/2016 13:40

I'm with you OP, I'd be far more offended being served up tinned chicken soup for lunch than being called a cunt.

duskonthelawn · 17/09/2016 13:45

Bloody hell

Oliversmumsarmy · 17/09/2016 13:48

doesn't make sense, you feed your dd a body weight in biscuits and park bought ice cream and you go mental over a tin of soup.

Your thoughts on nutrition are seriously screwed

pictish · 17/09/2016 13:48

OP in five years time you're going to find yourself on a thread about how PFB you were with your child, telling us that you once started an angry thread about your dh giving pfb a tin of chicken soup. Wink Grin

Fwiw I tell dh to fuck off and may even have called him a cunt once or twice myself. No one here ever does anything wrong. They''re all wonderful.

tibbawyrots · 17/09/2016 13:49

Suspect that didn't pan out as the OP thought it might...

imwithspud · 17/09/2016 13:53

One tin of soup will not undo all your hard work. I wouldn't give mine tinned soup, but if someone else who was looking after them did I wouldn't kick off. When they go to dp's or my parents house they get all sorts that they wouldn't get at home.. Like jarred sauces etc. They are still here, happy and healthy.

Calling him a cunt was way over the top. You should have just explained that there are things in the freezer for him to give her next time.

luckiestgirl · 17/09/2016 14:00

I say cunt all the time. But I never ever call DH names.

Cackleberry4 · 17/09/2016 14:03

You really are a Mrs Prissy Pants!

Dragongirl10 · 17/09/2016 14:04

Just a question OP,
when DD is 18 will you mind if her boyfriend calls her a Cxxx, Fxxxxxx Bitch or gives her the finger?

ElspethFlashman · 17/09/2016 14:11

Don't worry, her DD won't mind. She'll think it's normal by then. She'll have heard that word plenty of times floating up the stairs after they think she's asleep. She'll know it's no big deal.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/09/2016 14:26

Have to say I sometimes understand why posters on a completely different forum I visit think all Mumsnetters are 'mental', as they put it.

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 17/09/2016 14:27

Or was the OP a wind-up post from one of them??