to wonder why I bother???

[SilverHoney]

Fully prepared that I'm going to get flamed, but it's worth it to have a rant!

DD is 15 months. I've always cooked for her because jars / pouches are so expensive and luckily she's a good eater, so I can just give her what I'm having.

We get ice-creams at the park, she can eat her weight in biscuits at nanny's house, doesn't bother me. If she's eating healthy at home and nursery, then it balances out.

I was working in the garden so DH (who is perfectly capable) gave her lunch and put her to bed. When I asked what she had he said chicken soup. I don't eat meat so I know there's none in the freezer.

Then the penny drops. You mean tinned chicken soup?? He didn't see the problem. I called him a cunt. He said that wasn't very nice.

I'm fully away it's not going to kill her, but AIBU to wonder WHY DO I BLOODY BOTHER??

A year of cooking, freezing, labelling... I should have saved myself the bother and stocked up on tinned soup and super noodles

I once raised eyebrows at dh giving ds1 cut up apples and cheese for his tea instead of a hot meal which he generally has at tea. Wouldn't dream of calling him a cunt.
Absolutely awful behaviour on your part. You need to apologise and get some perspective.

Have a and chill out.

It's the principle people!! The principle!

Sorry I didn't realise the c word was so offensive on MN, I've got a potty mouth and can assure you DH is not feeling abused and our relationship will survive.

Assuming DH bought the soup, along with the baked beans with mini sausages and mushy peas < gross not envy

What is the actual problem?

I cook from scratch and have loads of things in the freeezer but sometimes the kids are given something quick like fishfingers/soup etc. She's 15 months old not a new weaner.

Cunt isn't offensive on here at all, it's offensive when somebody calls someone a cunt.

Itsse no she has meat, no issue there

Maud very good suggestion, no wine in but I might substitute it for a cider. The suns out after all!

Again - what's the actual problem? The principle? So are you annoyed that he didn't cook from scratch or that he didn't eat your supplies?

Chill out

It's a tin of soup and your reaction is way over the top, you owe your DH an apology!

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Mind you, Silver, in line with your principles I hope it's home-produced wine/cider...and not shop-bought!

'It's chicken soup, not a hash brownie.'

So calling him a cunt will continue to be ok in your house? With a kid in the house?

Lovely.

And apparently Nana gets a free pass to stuff her with biscuits but God forbid he gives her chicken soup.

Tinned soup? TINNED BLOODY SOUP!!!!!!???????

LTB!

The issue is the parent guilt from and a day of pepper pig and lacking in veggies that he seems to be immune from! It would make my life a lot bloody easier if I could not give a shit like DH!

Seriously, no one else tells their DH to fuck off and gives then the middle finger? Must just be us Happily married btw (despite poor food choices), just a bit keen on 4 letter words! Apologies all, and DH, obviously.

Maud oh no, I can drink alcohol / eat chocolate / get a dive through McDs which kids are asleep in the car, it's only the children that musnt be contaminated!

Won't somebody think of the children!!!!

I was sure this was a wind up but I'm going to answer anyway. I'm not doing the whole 'men don't know how to cook' thing because yes they can, but does he know how to cook simple meals from scratch? DP didn't have a clue and would feed DD tinned things too when I was at work. He decided to look at recipes online and now cooks fresh things for her.
Having said that..its a tin of soup. Last week when I asked what she'd had for tea it was tomato soup and a cheese sandwich. He's a parent too doing his best there's no need to be rude to him.

You sound completely cuckoo.

My kids have just had white bread rolls and chocolate finger biscuits for lunch. Fail.

Eslpeth she was in bed, can't hear us from upstairs.

I am able to control my tongue in front of kids and ar work. Well, at least.

Telling someone to fuck off and calling them a cunt are hardly the same.Any name calling is bad but that is just disgusting.

There is no principle. You insist on feeding your child only meals you have cooked from scratch, your DH doesn't. You're both her parents, so why do you think you're the boss?

Oh shit, what's next? Turkey twizzlers? LTC for sure.

"Seriously, no one else tells their DH to fuck off and gives then the middle finger?"

I don't, but I doubt that ypu're the only one.

Hopefully your daughter doesn't see/hear it.

Can't imagine growing up with that.

YABU. I'd have far more issue with her eating her weight in biscuits, as you put it, at grandmas that I would with her having a bit of tinned soup. I'm struggling to grasp why you think your dh did the wrong thing

I don't think you'll find many people here who think that calling their partner a cunt is normal or funny.

Does he call you a cunt when you disagree? Or is it only you that does it?

I see your point op. I only feed my dd organic and home made. I'd be annoyed too, especially knowing that he fed her tinned food because he couldn't be bothered. Much easier to open a tin.
Obviously she'll survive but as you say, it's the principle.