To be disgusted at cancer research adverts?

[Gracey1231]

Okay so my amazing father passed away January 2015, he had NHL in the lung stage 2, and after being told his chemo had really shrunk the tumour, it wrapped itself around his pulmonary artery and he had a pulmonary haemorrhage in outpatients on the way for his 2nd chemo

The adverts are really getting to me, where it shows the patients. All I can think of is poor families who have lost someone that day or been diagnosed coming home turning on the TV and seeing it. I know they need to raise awareness, but I feel like this is emotional blackmail and unfair to people.

I know it sounds vile, but AIBU?

And I'm really sad about everyone's loss on this thread ((teardrop))

OK the adverts well the advert revenue funds those stations and I do know what sort of money it takes to keep a TV station on air, it isnt cheap at all.

But if they don't do it the research money they do get from donations will start to dry up and less income. Shock TV ads they do work as unpalatable that they are to some.

Now this like any other research needs funding and that is very expensive now would anyone, nay everyone here, agree to pay more tax to fund research and if so how much extra would they be willing to pay?

A bit like the NHS lovely old institution and i have had my fair use of same but we all think it shoudl receive yet more funding but surely somewhere there is only so much that we can or are willing to afford?. Anyone ?

And expat I just have no idea what you have gone through the loss of a child i think is the worst thing that can happen to any parent. I have lost a wife at a relativity early age due to suicide after depression and they spend bugger all researching those illnesses.

Its a very difficult and complex problem and issue overall balancing it all up.

The only redeeming thing is that over time its gradually getting better. No not all cancers some are still absoluter sods like Pancreatic cancer but with time and that funding?.

@wannabestressfree it frightens me so much too! I hope you recover and get well soon sweetheart

I remember I did an assignment on it at college and it was when it had the man peeing blood and the woman coughing getting her hair done, I think I put something that it could have an adverse affect people going to the doctors as they would automatically think they had cancer.

@Justaboy
My mums friend used to give direct debit and they hounded her for money, they rely on cancer being a taboo subject that no one really wants to say the word and no one I wants to be "that person" who refuses to up their donation to a cancer charity

@Justaboy. I'm sorry too to here about your poor wife :( I wish they'd research more into mental health, and diseases like huntingtons or Motor neurone. I know they did the ice bucket challenge but that's all

I never was frightened. I felt quite 'get on with it' when my hair fell out in lumps and the pain wracked me. I am due to have surgery imminently and I have been preparing for it. All of a sudden it's everywhere and I am petrified.... I don't even look like me anymore..... It's just horrible.

The one that annoys me the most (they all annoy me to some extent) is MacMillan and their 'no one should have to face cancer alone' and their emphasis on helping support families too.

When a close relative was diagnosed, I was suffering with my mental health (triggered by her diagnosis) and MacMillan told me they couldn't help me because I'm autistic.

So their slogan should be 'no neurotypical person should have to face anger alone' then.

@wannabestressfree I don't even know you very well and you seem lovely, you're you on the inside honey! I really hope you get better soon (huge hugs)

@CrohnicallyAspie I was completely alone during my dads diagnosis too, they never even chatted to me to see if I was okay, a distant family member is a Macmillan nurse and without being too harsh she's a fucking arsehole so wonder if they're all the same

Thanks Gracie I appreciate that :) it's the steroids. I resemble a swollen frog.

I am sorry people are so deeply affected.
I don't think they are sick, I think they are deeply realistic, and they really made me realise that the battle against cancer is nowhere near over.
My only experience is helping a friend undergoing chemo at the moment.

@GoblinLittleOwl, I hope your friend is okay and recovers soon x

to you all.

Macmillan in my experiences of hearing about them were either great or really awful. It seems to be very much dependent on the person you get to see from them.

I would like to see "The Big C and Me" shown on BBC2 not so long ago repeated on BBC1, no talk of battles there.

wannabestressfree, Zombie is very sad to hear your story. She has no words.

No, they don't upset me.

My mother died, in a rather prolonged manner, from ovarian cancer a few months ago. I spent a lot of time with her as she was dying at home.

They still don't upset me.

@penelope82 - no, they don't. Money currently is going to Francis Crick institute which is for research and also to their new initiative for Kids and Teens. There are currently cancer charities set up for children but they don't get the lion's share of funding, so Cancer Research UK have set up a children's branch. It's brand new, but it will be getting lots of money soon. They're also making it easier for people to donate to particular sections of Cancer Research, eg. Children's, leukaemia, brain, etc. None of this would be possible without funding raised by these REAL adverts...

I have cancer, I hate those adverts. I can't even relax in front of the tv without being reminded on a nightly basis.

My Very Tongue In Cheek Thread

This was my reaction to it all; a bit of a silly self defense mechanism really. When the adverts come on the TV when we're watching telly in the evening, trying to be a normal family and forget about cancer for an hour or so... and then we all dive for the remote when one of these bloody adverts come on.
It's worst for my 17 year old. She's scared of losing her Mum and I hear her catch her breath every time one comes on the TV.

im so sorry for u all here going throughit

i dont know what the answer is-the chemo killed my mum she would havehad longer ironically if she hadnt had it

my aunty now has it albeit earlier stages but still hurts to hear all the crap she goes through

Wannabe is sending her friend zombie hugs xx

'The one that annoys me the most (they all annoy me to some extent) is MacMillan and their 'no one should have to face cancer alone' and their emphasis on helping support families too.'

Now that one just makes me laugh. The actress nurse saying, 'Are you alright, David?' And he nods. It's like, 'What the fuck do you think, lady? I've got fucking cancer, of course I'm not alright!'

I find these adverts that use shock tactics very distasteful. There's one being shown on TV about road safety in NI that's so graphic it has to be aired after the watershed. It shows a group of very young school children having a picnic on a school trip and an out of control car literally crushing them to death. I found it so upsetting to watch and can't bear when it comes on TV.

Whilst it's all well and good conducting cancer research, there is little benefit for the majority, when NICE will not fund new treatment on the NHS.

NICE have not approved any new breast cancer drugs for routine treatments for the last seven years and we're falling way behind other developed countries.

'There's one being shown on TV about road safety in NI that's so graphic it has to be aired after the watershed. It shows a group of very young school children having a picnic on a school trip and an out of control car literally crushing them to death. I found it so upsetting to watch and can't bear when it comes on TV.'

They showed that one a few times in Scotland, too, but pulled it because so many complaints.