to ask what's the popular Mumsnet advice you think is bollocks? [edit: lighthearted added at OP's request]

[CoolToned]

Game.

Also forgot how no person must discipline your child because its "your child, your rules". No sorry its not esp when its things like "My sister looked after my DD and told her she couldn't stay up till midnight/stay out late/play with fire.

Anything about the way household finances are organised but the one that really pissed me off is "All money is family money"

We'd have split up long ago if that was the case in our house.

Especially when the blokes money is "all family money" but the woman is advised to protect her assets and keep independent funds.

Oh, and parents who are starving/neglecting/beating/exploiting their children but 'we mustn't judge'.

All in laws and ex's are narcissistic. In fact anyone you have conflict with has a MH issue that you can easily diagnose despite having no clinical training

Very convenient in dismissing the viewpoint of the other person and make yourself out to be right.

'My sister was a bitch to me my entire life and still is. Every time I go to see her and my brother-in-law she does nothing but put me down and make me feel worthless'.

'Where is your BIL in all this?!? Why is it always the woman who gets the blame?!?!?!'

DV/EA directed at men: stop provoking her. That was to a man who'd been punched holding a newborn. He never came back.

Obviously I meant plane seats - not tickets.

I am glad that other people hate the meaness of having a baby and immediately policing visitors. Seeing a newborn is very different from seeing a 2 week old baby.

Badly behaved children must have special needs, or they have undiagnosed special needs. In the majority of cases they have wet parents who won't say 'No' and the child does exactly what they want!
(We should consider that they may have special needs, but there are simply some very badly behaved children about).

Workmen shouldn't be offered cups of tea- they are just there to work. (And they should never need the toilet, however long they are in your house!)

"Learn to drive, then"

Arrrrrrrrghhh annoys me:

• some of us have medical conditions which mean that we can't
• some of us are poor, and can't afford lessons, let alone a car

Parking threads: "Put dogshit on their door handles"

No. It's disgusting and possibly illegal and I don't have a dog, so where am I going to find this shit?

Weaning threads: "the guidelines change all the time".

No, they changed in 1994 and 2003. Unless all the time is once every decade or so.

I think learning to drive is really good advice, tbh. Of course there are people who cannot drive for medical reasons, everyone understands that, but if you are physically able to I do think you should. Even if you don't own a car being able to hire a car, borrow a car or drive another car in an emergency would be so useful. I had driving lessons as birthday and Christmas presents and didn't actually own a car until 3 or 4 years after passing my test (and I had to save up a lot towards that). I just think it is one of those almost essential life skills (like swimming) that you should be able to do.

The thread on this was yesterday, but no, not everyone needs to learn to drive.

"Talk/report to HR"

Often after someone has clearly stated they work at a small or independent company that has no HR.

mrsclooneytoyou Fri 16-Sep-16 23:15:34
Fanjos are Alf cleaning grin

How does Alf feel about that?

'Just cut back - you can afford to xxx if you prioritise!!'

If this is advice for someone on 50k who drives a 16 plate, fair enough. But it is often told to posters who state they earn around 15k and would need to 'cut back' roughly a third of their income.

That any child who isn't exceeding age related expectations should be assessed for special educational needs. When did meeting expectations/being average start be considered as failing?

Also apply to any child who has not learnt to walk/talk/potty train etc by the average age for doing it.

Being average or slightly less than average doesn't mean something is wrong.

Like in the old days when schools rated as satisfactory were considered failing.

Here is a perfect example

Your DH sounds utterly useless, perhaps this visit could be the time things change and instead of you flapping just say to him, you sort it out. Don't enable him, just say you'll leave all the food to him and let your I laws know too "looking forward to introducing you to junior but I'm still a bit unwell so DH is handling the food so best to let him know whether you'll be here for lunch or tea or you might starve ."

1 - Perhaps he is useless but could this not be dealt with more positively?
2 - Why is working as a unit enabling him? Perhaps he genuinely doesn't have a clue about this sort of thing? (In which case he needs educating)
3 - What a wonderfully passive aggressive way of dealing with the situation, can the OP not talk to her husband about it without involving the guests and why would you refer your guests to talk to your husband (sorry I forgot they are his parents so by definition, his problem)
4 - tinkly laugh - need I say more?

Woman owning a house enters into a relationship - "You must protect your assets and financial independence"
A man in a relationship refuses to put his partner on the deeds of the house he owns = "He's being financially abusive, LTB"

I remember a woman who was terrified of giving birth being told just to relax and get a Brazilian wax and everything would be okay.

telling someone with SN/Disabled children one of the following

• Don't offer them anything else to eat, they'll have to eat what you give them eventually, they won't starve themselves (yes they fucking will)

• Just keep putting them back to bed, they'll sleep eventually (HAHAHAHAHAHAAAAA)

Then there is the pet related one

Get a behaviourist! (like people have on in their back pockets)

"Also apply to any child who has not learnt to walk/talk/potty train etc by the average age for doing it.

Being average or slightly less than average doesn't mean something is wrong."

No, but if there is an issue then early intervention will make a massive difference.

SALT doesn't work as well later in life, there are children who have missed out on life changing intervention because assessments weren't done early enough.

The same is true of other therapies.

Yes most children will be assessed and they're just not hitting the curve on average, but don't need anything, but it's worth doing in case they're one of the few who do need intervention.

"Get a behaviourist! (like people have on in their back pockets)"

I don't keep a vet in my back pocket either, but I can find one and make an appointment when I need to.

Especially when the blokes money is "all family money" but the woman is advised to protect her assets and keep independent funds.

Yep. The disparity really comes to light on these threads when a high earning woman separates from her lower earning husband. There's plenty of advice on how to shield 'her' assets in the divorce proceedings. The 'you're a team's and 'it's all family money' suddenly goes out of the window.