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Aibu to think this is totally innapropriate?

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sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:33

In brief, friend recently told me that she allows her teenage daughter (almost 17) to have her boyfriend stay overnight- in the bottom (single) bunk bed, in a room shared with almost 10 year old sister in top bunk. Friend says it's ok as the door to the room is left open.

That's not right is it?

Is it?

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Snowflakes1122 · 15/09/2016 21:34

Nope. Definitely not right!

nennyrainbow · 15/09/2016 21:34

So where does the teenage daughter sleep? That is definitely odd.

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sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:35

In the bottom bunk with her daughter! Shock

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Julia001 · 15/09/2016 21:36

No, wouldn't happen in my house, totally inappropriate, especially with a 10 year old in the room too !

Original poster
sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:36

Sorry, how confusing am I making it. Her daughters share a room. They have bunk beds. Teenager has the bottom bunk and boyfriend shares that with her whilst 10 year old is on top bunk.

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blankpieceofpaper · 15/09/2016 21:37

If I heard about that in my capacity as a teacher, that is potentially a safeguarding issue.

mummymummums · 15/09/2016 21:37

Not right - very wrong

MovingOnUpMovingOnOut · 15/09/2016 21:37

Eeew no, definitely not ok.

blankpieceofpaper · 15/09/2016 21:37

No, that is definitely a safeguarding issue, and possibly abuse.

MoonStar07 · 15/09/2016 21:38

Totally wrong!

Original poster
sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:38

I'm glad it's not just me.

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Willywolly · 15/09/2016 21:38

No way with a 10 year old in the same room otherwise it would be okay.

pinkyredrose · 15/09/2016 21:38

How old's the boyfriend?

yikesanotherbooboo · 15/09/2016 21:39

Agree with Blank

Ilovewillow · 15/09/2016 21:40

Totally inappropriate, I would have a real issue with this!

Original poster
sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:41

Boyfriend 17 also. I think she's naive to believe they won't get up to anything and that the 10 year old won't be exposed to it.

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ImperialBlether · 15/09/2016 21:42

Did you post this a few days ago, OP? I've definitely read this before.

ImperialBlether · 15/09/2016 21:42

Did you post this a few days ago, OP? I've definitely read this before.

PeppaPigTastesLikeBacon · 15/09/2016 21:42

No, boyfriend shouldn't be staying if the teenagers doesn't have her own room

blankpieceofpaper · 15/09/2016 21:43

Now that imperialblether mentions it though... it does sound familiar. Similar thread?

Original poster
sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:44

First time posting imperial but if you have a link to the one posted previously I'd love to scan the feedback!

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Original poster
sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:45

I've been off mumsnet for a while and tbh only came back on to run this thread, so apologies if the subject has been done recently.

I'm now wondering if the subject is the same person?! Shock

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booklooker · 15/09/2016 21:52

So, if I understand correctly, he is on his own on the bottom bunk, girlfriend plus younger sister are on the top bunk.

Where's the problem in that?

nennyrainbow · 15/09/2016 21:54

So they're actaully sharing the bed?? With a 10 yo in the room. And your friend thinks that leaving the door open will prevent them from getting up to anything? Hmm totally inappropriate.

Original poster
sillyofthevalley · 15/09/2016 21:54

No, sorry. He and teenager are together in bottom bunk. Younger sister is in the top bunk.

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