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Original poster

To think my drive is not a public turning circle

113 replies

Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 10:16

We live on a quiet road but it seems our driveway has become public property.
Whilst I acknowledge that you can't avoid delivery vans taking liberties and turning round where they can (& it seems our drive is the best place on the whole of our street for this activity), our new neighbours across the street have now started using our drive to reverse back onto in order to turn out of their own drive (& appear to have advised all their (numerous) visitors to do the same).
It sounds petty writing this but we manage to reverse out of our property without invading their drive so I can't help but think they are being a bit cheeky and getting into a habit that I would like to nip in the bud.
AIBU to see this as an irritation?

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Ceic · 15/09/2016 12:30

ShotsFired - I'm surprised that is all yours! And not a shared ownership or responsibility with your two other neighbours.

op instead of a gate, you can get a folding bollard/pole. There was a famous thread a few years ago when the op put up some low-profile ones - high enough to be seen and block but not unsightly.

magicstar1 · 15/09/2016 12:38

I'm at the end of a cul de sac, and we constantly get people turning outside, but they don't come onto the drive at all...I'd hate it .

Have you thought about one of these across the bottom of your drive?

To think my drive is not a public turning circle
ClopySow · 15/09/2016 12:48

I don't know about the rest of you, but i'm finding it impossible to offer any advice without a diagram...

ShotsFired · 15/09/2016 12:56

Ceic ShotsFired - I'm surprised that is all yours! And not a shared ownership or responsibility with your two other neighbours.

I know. It really is a quirk of how the whole area was built. I was one of the first here so I got the pick of nearly every house! There is maybe 1 or 2 other houses with a similar larger driveway, but by and large everyone only has a single car space!

I double checked the title/land reg etc, and yep, all mine but they just have right of access.

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 13:11

ExAstris not sure how to attach a diagram so will try to explain - it is obvious that it is our drive because it is at the side of our house and behind a small pavement. Our house is directly on the road (very small private road) so the drive to the side has to be turned into in a gap between two houses - it is clear that it is our drive I think.

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Fidelia · 15/09/2016 13:18

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 13:25

Didn't think of drawing it freehand - how stupid do I feel! Here's a quick attempt at a scribbled diagram Smile

To think my drive is not a public turning circle
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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 13:29

I'm laughing at all the suggestions BTW Grin

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GardeningWithDynamite · 15/09/2016 13:34

Good grief! Do their cars not actually have steering wheels? How far do they think they need to reverse to get out?

AlphaBites · 15/09/2016 13:34

That diagram does help OP - your neighbours are taking the piss, your responsible for that part of the drive they are using (I'm assuming it's the part in front of the gates level with the grass verge ?) and I doubt sadly that you could put anything across that. Who maintains the grass verge ? The council or yourselves ? If you, I'd be tempted to put a line of spikes down each night Angry

Yes I am that petty.

Or as there is no footpath on that side, I'd leave a car there routinely and just have my gates open.

TheGruffaloMother · 15/09/2016 13:47

Ooh, I was completely in your until I saw your diagram! I don't think it is that obvious that the land there is yours, looking at the diagram. You've got gates set back and your house opens onto the street rather than either garden or drive. I'd definitely be putting a chain over it...without something obvious, I'd probably be doing the same as the offending neighbour with there being no through traffic.

TheGruffaloMother · 15/09/2016 13:50

Actually, I don't know why I thought there was no through traffic, and I didn't see your wall! I would not be doing the same Grin but my advice is still to put a chain there once you're in for the day.

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 13:54

Alpha it's worse than the coming onto the path level with the grass outside our house - they come all the way back to the gates on the drive at the side of my house and it is obvious that the drive is private Gruffalo despite being in front of our gates as it is between two houses and crosses a public footpath in the process (the one level with the grass in front of the house).

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 13:57

A chain could work maybe Gruffalo - it is a pain leaving a car on the drive at all times but hopefully they'll get the message quickly so it won't continue to be necessary for long.

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8misskitty8 · 15/09/2016 13:59

The neighbour across the road does that to the people next door. She doesn't even slow down, just swings forward down part of their drive and reverses into her own.
I'm suprised she hasn't had an accident if her parking is any indication of her driving skills.

AlphaBites · 15/09/2016 14:00

Driving up all the way to the gates to me is equivalent to pissing on my territory how mature am I ? Hmm

I'm too overinvested in this thread now, I think you should leave your car there, as there is a footpath, I'd leave it level with the footpath so as not to block that but enough to act as your 'border fence'. Cheeky fuckers Angry

TheGruffaloMother · 15/09/2016 14:01

Stuff like this really irritates me...good luck making your point!

KathArtic · 15/09/2016 14:02

Its the fact that they were glaring at you when you did block your drive. Did you do a friendly wave to them :):):):)

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 14:02

Alpha ha ha 😁 you're doing a fine job of describing how I feel 🙊

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 14:04

KathArtic - I'll remember that next time and just smile and wave.

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Danglyweed · 15/09/2016 14:05

Oh op, what you really need to purchase is a police stinger strip thingy. That'll teach the fuckers.

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 14:07

Grin spikes, stinger strips, samurai-umbrellas are all perfectly viable suggestions 🙊

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JudyCoolibar · 15/09/2016 14:13

I'm probably being dumb but I just can't see how those two diagrams are of the same property. In one your house is set back from the two way road with a neighbour's house between you and the road, in the other you are right beside it. Or is the two way road in the second one a different road?

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Quicksharp · 15/09/2016 14:18

The second one is my house Judy - the first is of another poster's property who has a similar problem to myself ☺

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JudyCoolibar · 15/09/2016 14:23

Sorry, concentration fail there Blush

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