AIBU to think that this is not a 'bad' word

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I use the word 'flipping' quite a lot, for example: 'flipping heck I've dropped my keys', or 'where on earth is that flipping hat' - you get the idea. DH was putting DD (3) to bed earlier and her pillow fell off the bed. 'Oh no, my flipping pillow has fallen off!' says she. DH very upset with me, says it is awful to hear words like that coming from her mouth! I can't really see the problem! Opinions please....

How the fuck does he cope on shrove Tuesday with all those pancakes needing flipping?

He's over reacting - obviously

Your DH needs to chill the flip out

What do he thinkshe was saying?

Hahaha I may put the shrove Tuesday argument to him!

He knows what she was saying Cecily, he didn't mistake it for something else, he just thinks she shouldn't be saying it!

Of course it's not a bad word. It's the context that makes it unpleasant. Just like bitch isn't a bad word when referring to female dog but is when used about a woman.

I think it isn't the word as such but the context. So flipping pancakes no problem, but 'flipping pillow' in place if an expletive not pleasant.
I agree with him but I am a none swearer.

If it makes you feel better, the first time our dog realised she could jump on the dining room table, our then 4 year old shouted "oh fuck " and about a week later called he dp an asshole, when asked where he learnt that word (not one we use) he said that's what my granda calls you

he called dp*

I was playing Pokémon Go the other day with my 3 year old. She said, "Not another blooming Pidgey!" DP doesn't like that she says it but only mentioned it once - I found that an overreaction.

In short, your DP is overreacting, too.

Blooming, flipping etc are fine. My Nan would never have dreamt of swearing but as a true Yorkshire lass, "Blooming heck" was often uttered by her!

Definitely overreacting. Flippin' is in the same class as bloomin' imho.

Meh. I've been known to utter the words "fucking hell" on occasion when something annoys me. My 3yo ds once told me his sister was "being fucking owl". He meant being annoying, I assume. I was pleased I'd curbed my swearing enough that he wasn't quite able to get the word or the context right. Go me! Your dh would have had a flipping fit. He needs to get the flip over himself immediately.

i woldnt say flippin is bad

i think its bfunny when toddlers copy things they have no idea what theyre syng

WickedLazy - I just laughed out loud at that!

I think words that replace swear words aren't nice but then my DD told me her book was a load of crap the other evening so maybe flipping isn't too bad on reflection.

My son once lost his golden time for swearing - he had said "heck". I was so cross I complained to everyone. I think it was in several picture books and cbbcs shows at the time too.

Some of you are hilarious! I feel much less bad. Actually, to be fair I didn't feel bad I the first place but nice to have some corroboration even if some don't agree

It's a minced oath, and for me it's just as offensive as using a proper swear word, however it was used at an appropriate time for swearing, so I wouldn't be worried at all. However it might be a time to remind that the use of the language is not always liked by all, so should probably be avoided unless you really need to. Even though fewer people dislike minced oaths, lots of people still don't.

I'm unalarmed by DD (5) properly swearing if she needs to, but would generally remind about watching who's around.

Overreacting is a massive understatement what a fucking tool

Sirfred - you find flippin offensive but you don't mind if your 5 year old swears? Eh?????

Keep 'flipping.' However distasteful your DH finds it to hear it from your 5 year old it's a hell of a lot worse to be a grown woman who when startled comes out with, "Gosh!" I feel like I've fallen out of a P.G. Wodehouse story lately.

We don't have any swearing at home in front of the children. None.

So I wouldn't like any word which replaces a swear word either so flipping, heck, sugar etc

Apart from anything they just aren't necessary.

I'm with your DH, I have to say. Just do as I do and teach your DD silly expressions to use instead. 'Poo Bum!' is the current favourite.

I'm with your husband. It's the context, not the word. The frustration and adding that word in there. It might not be a swear word but it's meant in the same way and with the same frustration and attitude. I just don't think that's really very pleasant.

Wow!! (Is that offensive I'm not sure). I'm actually the most discombobulated and as if I've entered a different universe than I think I've ever felt reading a thread on MN.