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AIBU to say no to giving out voucher codes

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user1472640125 · 14/09/2016 19:33

I work for a major sports brand and get a hefty staff discount. We can apply for friends and family discount but I have not made this public. However people have eventually got to find out where I work and started asking me for discounts. More than happy to provide this for family and close friends but mums at school gates who I have never said more than an hello to seem to think they have a right to ask and I feel rude to say no. I know I'm probably answering my own question but how would you answer? I feel awkward saying no. I've recently said no sorry its for close friends and family and been greeted with a huff under their breath and they haven't spoken since. It seems like people really have no morals unless you are doing them a favour!

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PeachBellini123 · 14/09/2016 19:37

YANBU. I would just ignore them, they sound delightful Hmm

StrongBelwas · 14/09/2016 19:38

One of my friends has this problem because her husband works for a big camping chain. People she's not spoken to in years strike up a conversation and then talk about what they wanted to buy and how expensive it is and can't she get a discount. She just tells them she can't get a discount now. They've even tried asking her kids who work in the stores!

MoonStar07 · 14/09/2016 19:44

What do you lose by doing it? It's a kind act? And they save money?

justilou · 14/09/2016 19:59

Try working for an airline..... strangers, relatives who've never acknowledged your existence since you were conceived and of course "friends" (of friend's cousin's vet's financial adviser's colleague's psychic) somehow get your number and call you at stupid o'clock in the morning when you've been working crazy shifts....

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user1472640125 · 14/09/2016 20:00

Moonstar 07 I don't lose anything. I just have a limit on discount so id prefer to divi the discount out to close friends. Not people that wouldn't give me the time of day otherwise. Id like to think I was doing a kind act by giving out to my close friends and family. Not to feel guilt tripped into giving money off to those people that I hardly or never speak to. Especially when my annual discount is capped.

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MuffyTheUmpireSlayer · 14/09/2016 20:02

I've never been in this sort of situation so don't know how I would feel if actually faced with it, but if it's a big company I can't see why it would be any skin off my nose. I'm not losing anything by sharing it out and it would hardly be a dent in the company's profit!

That being said, if it was a smaller or start up company I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it at all. Or if I didn't particularly like the person asking / they didn't ask nicely.

MuffyTheUmpireSlayer · 14/09/2016 20:03

Ahh sorry, cross post! Didn't realise you had a limit. Then no, YANBU at all.

PaniWahine · 14/09/2016 20:06

I'm a natural people pleaser so the struggle is real BUT seriously some people have an almighty cheek... I'm not even brave enough to ask my DS for a discount on fruit juice (she's a rep) even though her fridge is often full...

Tell them that they're cutting down on discounts and you're wary if disciplinary action

loobylou10 · 14/09/2016 20:07

My son works for the same retailer it think (44%) and he laughs at the number of 'friends ' who now contact him on Twitter and Facebook asking for codes. He ignores them now if they haven't spoken to him in the past but now want to be his best friend. Cheeky buggers

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user1472640125 · 14/09/2016 20:14

Thanks all. I thought as much. Its unreal the amount of people that come out of the woodwork. Just needed some wise words to back up my thoughts. Didn't want to come across as a bitch. Just didn't know how to say no when I normally people please. Thankyou all

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user1472640125 · 14/09/2016 20:16

Loobylou 10 I'm guessing its the same 😆 yes they are cheeky buggers xx

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BrieAndChilli · 14/09/2016 20:17

I would just say that you have already used your discount for the year. That way thy can't take offence and youdont have to have an awkward conversation.

Purplehonesty · 14/09/2016 20:21

You could say it's for family only sorry or that you have to pay for the goods on your own credit account so you only do that for family?

KingofnightvisionKingofinsight · 14/09/2016 20:22

If there is a limit then you are losing something by sharing it. You are giving away something that you now can't give to a close friend or family member. If there were no limit, or a limit so high you never reach it anyway, I would say why not, but in this case YANBU at all. Still, for the sake of friendly relations I would just say the discount is for family only and they are very strict about it.

That said, I'm amazed at how often I hear on MN that someone was "in a huff" when the OP refused a request. I've never known anyone like that in real life, so I sort of suspect some of these huffs may just be the OP's perception as a result of their mixed feelings about saying no or resentment at being asked in the first place.

Purplehonesty · 14/09/2016 20:22

You could say it's for family only sorry or that you have to pay for the goods on your own credit account so you only do that for family?

TobleroneBoo · 14/09/2016 20:24

I would be blunt and say " no sorry it's friends and family only"
And if they say oh hahaha I'm a friend I would say, no we have barely spoken before today

But that's probably why people don't like me GrinGrin

DeadGood · 14/09/2016 20:29

"I would just say that you have already used your discount for the year. That way thy can't take offence and youdont have to have an awkward conversation."

This!

Crazycatlady123 · 14/09/2016 21:39

YANBU at all. I work for a big retailer and get this a lot, and it pisses me off no end. It always seems to be distant family or acquaintances too. Cheeky sods. I've had to start being blunt, as awkward as it is.

MoonStar07 · 14/09/2016 22:06

Didn't realise there was a cap. Tell them to do one

LunaLoveg00d · 14/09/2016 22:18

I get this from some of my friends too. I do mystery shopping for restaurant chains and quite often take a friend for lunch as my +1. So many people want me to pass on the details of the companies I work for and to help them get signed up too - JUST NO! The more people there are wanting to visit restaurants, the less chance of me getting the freebies!

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