About dds weight

[Purplesky2]

I'm getting stressed about dds weight.
She is 5 next week and very tall 122cm. She weighs nearly 25kg (24.7kg on my scales). On then nhs bmi calculator that is just about fine but in some of the others she is overweight. She looks solid - no fat on body but I would like to help her drop 1kg or stay static for rest of year. I've started watching her diet a lot more and she has started school now so not with me constantly asking for food and I think school dinners are less than the hearty meals her private nursery gave and loved to feed her seconds. She has a hearty appetite and loves food. It makes me sad to be stricter but it is for her own good. AIBU trainable to be so stressed. My slightly older boys are skinny but different build so I have never had to worry before!

She is perfect.
Congratulations on having a beautiful healthy daughter

And please get this thread deleted

There are such a variety children's natural body shapes it is really hard to tell what is healthy and what is not. My dd was chubby, though not overweight heavier than most of her friends until she was eight, and she hardly ate anything. Then she turned eight started to get an appetite and slimmed down. She is one of the slimmest adults I know and she loves her food, though she eats relatively small quantities.

Now my dgd is tall and has a very good appetite and sometimes I worry that she might get overweight but, from comments on here, it looks like these genetically tall children come with a better appetite.

She's five and you've already started giving her body issues and telling her restricting her food intake is good for her. How about you take long walks, take her hiking or swimming instead regularly?

She does look a bit chubby, but not overly so. I think it would be easy to sort with a strict eye on what she can eat and more excersise.

Fucking hell, just when you thought you've seen it all.

The NHS BMI calculator is a useful guide - it is tailored for children and gives a percentile answer. I don't think there is anything to worry about from the photo.

It looks from the calculator that your DD is in the healthy weight range- when my DDs were younger they tended to be in the 75th centile for weight which is in the healthy weight range and now they are a little bit older they at the lower end - not through any changes in diet but just through normal growth. They are both very active though.

"She does look a bit chubby, but not overly so. I think it would be easy to sort with a strict eye on what she can eat and more excersise."

This is the sort of thing I was afraid would be on this thread and the OP, for her own and for her daughter's sake REALLY NEEDS TO NOT HEAR IT.

THIS IS DANGEROUS.

OP, I repeat, food / weight stuff on MN is diabolical, full of disordered thinking. Please get off this thread and seek real life help, and please do not say a single word about bodies, nutrition, weight or "health" to your daughter - not a single word - until you have worked this through. Please.

1. BMI is a tool for populations not for individuals.

1. That child is not fat, far from it. Putting her on a diet would be a dick move.

Fine I accept the berating but I am not a stupid individual. When I first curiously entered my dds info into a bmi calculator it said she was overweight. There are a lot of calculators (U.K. ones) that use the 85th centile as a marker of overweight. Also if you play about with numbers it does not take much to push a 78th centile child into the 90th + centile. Maybe bmi should not be used for children! Also according to the red book my dd should be under specialist review due to her height over the 99.6 or whatever centile - what would they do? - bilateral below knee amputation to make her shorter. I agree it's all bullshit now and will not give it another thought.

There's a good book - your child's weight, helping without harming.

I recommend this to the op and many of the other posters.

But she is not even on the 85th centile, she is 10 centiles below that. Yiu seem desperate to find her to be overweight.
My ds was solid as a child and on atound the 75th centile,but you could see his ribs and he had skinny legs and arms,just a broad chest. He was 21 this week and 6ft tall and around 11 .5 stone. Still has swimmers shoulders and broad chest but is thin.

Random online BMI calculators aren't going going to give you more accurate info than your own Dr or YOUR OWN EYES. Your daughter is fine. Eat healthily and joyously, be active and don't worry x

Thanks for posting that lovely picture OP. Very helpful to give context.

I agree with lots of others that for a 5 year old she looks absolutely right, and healthy. She will probably look "skinnier" at some point when she is older but tbh I feel more concerned about children who do look skinny at 4 or 5 because they may be having difficulty keeping up with their nutritional and energy needs.

I also absolutely understand that if you photographed her the same way with one of her classmates next to her she would look "enormous" simply because of her height - she is in proportion (perfectly) to her size, and because of the way children grow she will be wider than classmates for many years.

I hope you have been able to take some reassurance from this thread and can just keep feeding her plenty of good food and doing a good job bringing her up :)

Purplesky, I don't think anyone here is berating you. We are simply telling you that your fears are unfounded. Your DD is fine and healthy.

Her weight is not important; it's just a figure. Equally BMI and centiles are merely tools to help indicate a possible cause for concern. Looking at your DD it's clear to see that there is none. She looks absolutely right for her height and build. She is not carrying any excess fat, so whatever she weighs, it is right for her at this time.

Forget the scales and centiles and whatnot, and rely on your own eyes and common sense. There is no cause for concern here whatsoever.

My daughter is 4 and pretty solid - but I can see that she has a long body and short legs and will take a while to stretch into her body? She does so much exercise and has her share of healthy food but also has the odd treat like other kids. She isn't remotely fat but people often comment on it which I find says a lot about how girls weight is judged even from their early years - girls aren't even allowed to be chubby in their early years. It's really made me revaluate how I look at my own long body and short legs!

Best advice came from my mum when talking about another child who was older and did have a weight problem - never put a child on a diet - they don't understand why they can't eat - just replace the rubbish with as much healthy stuff as possible and try to give an hour of exercise a day.

What the actual fuck?

The girl in the photograph is the girl you are worried about?????

Please stop projecting your body-shape anxieties onto your child. Stop looking at the charts too.

Awful.

If this was your son would you be having the same conversation? Girls carry more body fat.

Ask her if she feels strong and healthy and fit and happy. Do not weigh her.

OP, your daughter is fine so don't worry, carry on as you are

My daughter however is 7 & does have a rounded tummy. I really worry as she had a sweet tooth and I struggle to get vegetables into her. It's not easy and it is stressful as establishing healthy habits when young will of course make her life easier as she gets older. I haven't checked her height and weight etc as I don't think it wil help. I just know I need to help her with healthier meals and being more active.