to want to avoid these people???

[Lisajane2810]

I posted yesterday about being unsociable but I have proved to myself why now! had arrangements for drinks sat night with daughters friends parents. didn't really want to go but had resigned myself to making the effort. however daughter having her ears pierced Saturday so had decided didn't want to stay over at girls house so I text the parents and explained that she would just walk home with us. I phone them as didn't hear back and the dad starts saying oh well their daughter is very upset and he will have to speak to her when he gets home. spoke to mine and she starts crying saying the girl is always so dramatic and shes scared to upset her all the time. I text dad to cancel as cant be doing with it and get into a debate with him as mine cancelled sleepover last time too. she went to town but again didn't want to stay over due to getting her period.
am I over reacting by just saying forget it I cant be bothered? am I wrong in thinking this girl is ruling the roost a bit here? I was tempted to forget after he told me he would ring me back after speaking to her as I would have just told mine to get over it!

The fact that your DD tolerates behaviour from this girl that she wouldn't from others speaks volumes about her. She sounds kind and compassionate. I would be very proud of her if I was you.

It may help her manage this friendship if she understands more about autism in girls (because the more you say the more I'm sure this is the underlying cause of the issues here). Understanding where someone is coming from helps predict when they will behave in a way which breaks the social rules and this does help smooth the way a lot.

And FYI, I would also move social events to home turf if I thought DD would struggle, and would invite the parents in an attempt to get to know them better (may be so I could explain why DD has some of the quirks she does, and to show my gratitude towards a family who include DD socially.)

Thankyou that is very interesting and extremely fitting. Unfortunately the girls didn't speak today. I feel it would be a real shame for them to stop being friends. The other girl moved away from mine at form time so mine just did her own thing. I hope they miss each others friendship and sort it out.