To want him to say thanks?

[Lizkmg]

OH went away on a stag all weekend, I stayed at home with our 6 month old baby. His Mum was away as well leaving me to feed her cats and clean her 6 (yes six!) litter trays. The cat thing wasn't his fault, his mum just went and expected us to do it, but still, they're not my cats.

Anyway since He came home on Sunday he hasn't said thanks. I don't want a big fuss, just a quick thank you for looking after the baby and cats all weekend.

I feel like because at the moment he earns and I don't he doesn't need to thank me.

I think YANBU. Definitely MIL should thank you. And frankly, I think showing appreciation to a spouse or other family member by saying thanks is never out of place.

My DH and I routinely thank each other for many things: picking up takeaway, clicking up or cleaning house, taking care of recycling, doing laundry, walking the dog, doing school run, recommending books or movies or what not. Yes mundane activities that you would expect of a LO. We like to let each other know that we appreciate each other and no one is taken for granted.

YANBU.

My DH has just returned from a week-long stag do abroad. I'm 8 months pregnant and had to look after our 2-year-old all week. DH said "Thanks!". It was an acknowledgment that I'd had a harder-than-usual time in order for him to enjoy himself.

I fell asleep at 7pm and woke up when DH went to bed. He told me he'd hung up the washing, put the dishwasher on and locked up. I said "Thanks!". It isn't his job or my job specifically but he saw it needed done, did it and reassured me (I'd have gone downstairs to do it myself otherwise).

I was up early this morning so made him a cooked breakfast before work. He said "Thanks, that was really nice".

Saying "Thanks" to your OH is important.

I would find it odd if my DH thanked me for looking after our kids, he has worked away over the the years periodically so I've looked after them alone many times, I've never really thought it required a thanks, I'm their mum. Having said that it is nice to be appreciated sometimes, not taken for granted. Separate issue, MIL should definately acknowledge the favour you've done her.

YANBU It's good manners. I say thanks when my DH makes me a cup of tea so I'd definitely say thanks for holding the fort while I went off on a jolly.

@Nursepearl if he'd been away working I wouldn't expect a thank you and would not have started this thread. Therefore you're not answering the question I asked.

Well excuse me! Get over yourself love! Me and husband do loads of things separately and don't expect a thank you for looking after our own kids! If we want a night out etc we don't need permission from each other we just get on with it.

If we want a night out etc we don't need permission from each other we just get on with it.

That must be fun for your children when you both "just get on with it" at the same time.

Doinitfine Ditto

I think you could focus some of the irritation on your MIL who totally took you for granted, and was very graceless about how you got lumbered with her cats. Without that extra job, your weekend might have been a lot easier. Don't let her get away with it!