To rehome my cats?

[billyholiday]

I've had them for 6 months and due to unforeseen circumstances I can't afford to keep them any longer. I love them and believe me it will hurt a lot to see them go but I'm struggling to find any other option. One of them was ill over the weekend (she's fine now) and it made me realise that if something went wrong and one of them needed expensive vet treatments etc then I won't be able to afford it. It's making me miserable.

AIBU to rehome them before I get even more attached?

OP I have already posted but I feel you are getting a really hard time on here. There are circumstances where like it or not you have to make difficult decisions, ones that you would never choose in different circumstances. I was a student living in halls when my mother (single parent) died suddenly. She lived in a council house & I needed to choose whether to retain her house as my home or return to uni, I couldn't do both. I had to make this decision in a 2 week period. I chose uni but it meant I had to have 2 dogs & a cat rehomed/destroyed. It was heartbreaking on top of the grief of losing my mother. Life isn't always kind & the sanctimonious on here ought to get a grip. If you can't afford to keep the cats please get them rehomed but do look long & hard at ongoing costs before taking on any more pets.

blueskyrain if you had sneaked your pet into my rental I would quite simply have served the relevant notice to have you evicted.

And again in the case of my friend, sneaking a pet in when the flat owner has said no would be pretty damn stupid given the job was dependent on living in

It's debatable whether you'd be able to, or simply entitled to compensation, but in any event, it would buy several months of time, as it would be a while before you became aware of it, then serving notice etc.

I wouldn't want to do it, but if needs must and there's no alternative.

**A baby is a PERSON.
A pet is an ANIMAL.

People are more important than animals, and their needs come first.**

I am aware they are different species. The difference that has on caring commitments, there's more room for debate on.

By choosing to bring an animal into your family, it should be treated like family. No one should be above or below anyone else IMO.

blueskyrain oh I would have been able to do it. It was a clause in my tenancy agreement that was perfectly legal.

There's always an alternative. Misleading someone is never one. And "several months" when I was a solicitor clients often caught someone out by being a good landlord, fixing the boiler/routine maintenance and discovering pets.

Sorry to sound harsh OP but I would rather live on value baked beans rather than re-home any of my cats.

The same with all pets - they are for life.

I know that if you really wanted to you would keep them.

As a pp said get insurance and if the worst happened, speak to your vet who will be able to make a payment plan with you.

I'm also having to rehome my lovely old cat, hopefully my mum will take him because I don't think I could bare him going to a stranger. He loves my mum so hopefully that will make it easier for him. I'm having to let him go because we've discovered our middle child's allergic reactions are caused by the cat. He's only 9 and suffering through itchy hives and eyes, dry skin patches and constant throat and nasal congestion. It's hard but I have to do what's best for my son and our lovely cat will still be a part of our lives.

No answer to my post of 12.17, I notice.

Jacques Hammer

Firstly, given a landlord has to give notice to enter the property, people shouldn't be caught out in that way. I'm sure you aren't advocating landlords themselves breaching the TA in this way are you? ;-)

Secondly, as a solicitor of all people, you should know that just because there is a breach of a TA, it doesn't necessarily follow that you can get possession of the property. Serve the s.8, and apply under ground 12 if you want, but again, that will take time, with no guarantee that the Judge will agree with you.

My guess is, that if it is a well behaved pet, and no damage has been done to the property, and it was a last resort, that you'd probably only have about 50-50 of a Judge actually agreeing with you, by the time it gets to Court, and possibly a contested hearing. Chances are one of you will have caved by then because of questions of costs, and come to a settlement, but either way, it gives the tenant a few months at the least, between moving in, and this resolving, to try and find somewhere else which will accept a pet.

No response to 12.17?

Re 12:17 (strangely I have other things to do, apart from sitting on mumsnet, so yet, sometimes things may get missed or not responded to...)

I think it would have been worth more perseverance. Which is exactly what I said before. If there was still no joy, then consider adoption by all means, but other options should be exhausted first. That, for me, would involve at least a couple of months of trying, along with going to a behavioual therapist for the dog.

I'm glad your dog is happy now.

Seriously, Bert and Russell, do you have nothing better to do than press refresh and note that I haven't responded yet...

I don't demand that you respond every 5 minutes.

Why? The dog was unhappy. The people were unhappy. There was a solution that made the dog happy, us happy, and which meant that the woman could enjoy the first months of her baby without guilt. ExplIn to me why it would have been better to wait?

Let me guess, if I don't come sat at your feet giving you a reply to everything, you'll berate me for ignoring you again.

I've explained my views, you've explained yours. I'm not getting into a dialogue any more with you, as I have better things to do.

blueskyrain where did I say they entered illegally? They entered with the consent of the tenant to fix issues. You know. Being a good landlord.

And yes. Being a solicitor my experience bears out with judges taking a dim view of tenants lying.

My experience with Judges is rather different...
Your statement that you could def get them out because it's in the tenancy shows some naivety here, given the only ground available is discretionary.

A sensible tenant trying to hide a pet wouldn't have it around during a lawful visit. Then again, not all are sensible.

Allthecarbs no thanks, I'm just honouring the commitment made when I took her on.

I have rehomed an animal before when I rescued a Tom cat that obviously couldn't cope with being in a multi pet household. Sad but in his bet interests. Circumstances change yes but if they are so bad just six months after getting the animal perhaps the OP shouldn't have got the cat in the first place?

No blue a sensible tenant wouldn't. Sadly the massive damage to the door in one property, and feeding bowls in another gave the game away .

I really hate the attitude that animals are disposable.

Bishop - I agree. But also thinking that animals aren't disposable also must come the acknowledgement that just sometimes there are genuine cases where there isn't an option, and rehoming is the decent thing to do.

See my previous post. I've had to do that.

Oh and there have been times I've had to go to the PDSA for help then pay them back - there are ways. But changing circs so massively in 6 months?!?!?

"I really hate the attitude that animals are disposable."

So do I.

I also hate the offensive, sanctimonious attitude that anyone who can no longer look after an animal properly and has to find an alternative home for it is regarding it as "disposable". It shows a heartless lack of imagination and limited life experience.

And it is positively cruel and incomprehensible stupid to suggest that an animal stays in a home where everyone is unhappy when it could move to another home and be happy.

I certainly don't lack life experience. As for imagination had to use plenty of that when I was temporarily homeless following divorce... It really depends how you prioritise pets.

The only thing I wouldn't prioritise them over is my children.