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To report dsis/ bil to rspca

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LittleLionMansMummy · 12/09/2016 19:09

For overfeeding their dog.

I'm not being spiteful, bil has previous 'form' for this. Their last dog had a whole host of health problems associated with being obese and had no quality of life for several years before she finally had to be put to sleep. She just lay there huffing and puffing, barely able to stand. She was never spayed because the vet refused to do the op until she lost enough weight. She never did. Bil fed her sausage rolls, chocolate, crisps, all the human leftovers etc. Dsis told him to stop, he ignored her. I told him to stop. We were all very clear that what he was doing was not kind but killing her - slowly and cruelly. He ignored everyone and even seemed to relish continuing to do it against other people's advice/ concern. He made jokes about it.

So she died. Bil was devastated, went a little bit weird about it (think garden shrine, deep depression, no interest in wife and kids etc). They ended up getting another dog - male, same breed. I saw the dog at the weekend and it's already overweight (a year old) and clearly heading down the same route. Bil has already started sneaking complete junk into his food bowl. So, knowing that he's taken absolutely no notice before and continues to behave exactly the same, even against my sister's wishes, wibu to report them to the rspca?

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LittleLionMansMummy · 13/09/2016 11:55

She tried that with the last dog. Bil knows it's an empty threat and that she'd never follow through on it.

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 13/09/2016 12:03

Your sis should stop making threats, and just TAKE the dog to a non local rescue centre.

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powershowerforanhour · 13/09/2016 12:22

If your SIL can't fix the root problem (BIL) perhaps she could take the dog to the vet and ask about appetite suppressants- Slentrol or Yarvitan, if they're still on the market and slip that to the dog when BIL isn't looking. They are only supposed to be short term aids to weight loss but poss worth doing.

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MindSweeper · 13/09/2016 12:24

I'd be stealing it tbh.

I know it sounds extreme but I would.

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LittleLionMansMummy · 13/09/2016 16:01

I know she should Breakfast but she won't. Their lack of action or intention to make things better is the reason I'm considering doing what I am.

powershower that might be a short term solution if dsis can get a vet to agree to it, thanks. If I were a vet I'd be asking a lot of questions about why the owners aren't doing taking action and therefore need to resort to appetite suppressants. I'm just so angry. I know that lots of people overfeed dogs, but most stop when they're told they're being cruel. They certainly don't continue to do it knowing how much pain and suffering they're causing and in full possession of all the facts. Bil does not have the luxury of claiming ignorance, having killed one dog already.

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Veterinari · 13/09/2016 21:57

Appetite suppressants are not the answer and won't fix this issue

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mummymeister · 13/09/2016 22:36

have you thought about talking to the local dog warden? the local council area that they are in will employ one and part of their role is education. you can report your concerns to him/her confidentially. I would also be speaking to a vet.

tbh I don't think anything is going to work. he is overfeeding the dog because he wants to - because he wants to abuse something. far deeper pyscho issues here than a dog and really removing this dog isn't dealing with them. he will just go out and get another one - or a cat, or a hamster or whatever. you can write a confidential note to his gp.

really the answer lies with your sil. she has to stop this in its tracks because no one else is going to be able to .