Strangers Stop Fucking Touching My Baby

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Why do people think this is okay?!

Am I the ass hole here, or is this just not on? It drives me mad.

I'm not one of those 'most posters' and I dislike 'your baby, your rules' under those circumstances, intensely. I'm pretty consistent about that.

I'm generally not that precious about family and friends - the more people wanting to hold the baby the better - but strangers can jog on. I wouldn't want them touching me, so I wouldn't want them touching her.

It starts as soon as you're pregnant with people touching your bump. What you need to realise is your body and baby are public property now and if you object you are a miserable cow.

oysterbabe - I must be the most miserable cow going, as I couldn't disagree with you more.

I wonder if after the 'cash for babies' revelations there will be a lot less 'get off my baby' threads

Well, I don't know about you, but I'm planning a series of different coloured cuddly outfits, which I can swap by the hour, and plotting out routes of cafes and supermarkets as we speak

Aunt

it does help if you ass is hanging out of your leggings
just kidding.

make sure you don't look well dressed though.

It starts as soon as you're pregnant with people touching your bump. What you need to realise is your body and baby are public property now and if you object you are a miserable

Funny! Touching the baby bump and sticking fingers in babies' faces drives me nuts. It's not miserable to object, it does not 'take a village' unless that's your culture. I don't want someone trying to stick fingers in the baby's mouth, believe me, I've seen this! Ick.

People are weird when it comes to babies aren't they, but then so we be as parents.
I am far from violent yet in a flash I had a man pinned against the wall of a lift by his throat in Debenhams once when he sneezed over my daughter's open pram without attempting to cover his mouth or even turn his face away.

make sure you don't look well dressed though.

Not a problem!

On a more serious note, I must admit I had a huge problem with people touching my bump without asking. I bloody hated it. But DS bloody loves it, he's absolutely anybody's for a smile and a chat (and now, obviously, for cash with any luck). So unless said strangers look dirty or dangerous, I don't have a problem with it.

One nice thing that happened a while back was the workers at our local supermarket cafe clubbed together and got him a birthday card - totally unexpected but really appreciated. I think it's great for him to foster that kind of community feeling. Isn't that what people mean with 'it takes a village'? He's making himself connections and a place in the world.

MrsdeVere My Gran once cooed over a baby and was told to go away. She said "why is your name Mary, and you've given birth to Jesus the second. I was saying the child was sweet not offering gold frankincense and myrrh "

Very embarrassing is Gran

Childrenofthestones and did he press charges against you? I bloody hope so.

Aunt

That is beautiful and I totally agree. Dare I say that I think children being social from a very early age i.e becoming part of their culture can help tremendously when older.
My dc are all social bods, completely different personalities but can talk to anyone from Princes to paupers, we too started socialising in Cafes and parks.
Good luck to you.

children I really hope that was a sarcastic post?

Where are all these people that fuss over random babies that they see in the street.
With the greatest respect. When you've seen one baby. Youve seen them all.
People tend bil coo and fuss over kittens and puppies, but in my my experience don't tend to take much notice of babies, unless they know the baby.

'I had a man pinned by his throat'

Yes, of course you did. No, really.

I wonder if the demographic of women who won't let anyone near their baby because it needs to be pristine in order to operate fully as the second coming are exactly the same women who insist that you interact with their toddler on airplanes and in cafes because he is literally the cutest thing in the whole world?

I suspect they are.

I love people fussing over my baby.

Just ask them not to? I don't know. They're just trying to be nice, and your baby isn't going to break from a person touching them.

Babies look (big eyes etc) and smell the way they do to attract attention from the adults of the species who will protect them. It's all about survival.

I suspect you're right Pagwatch

There seems to be a correlation between not wanting the baby touched with people talking about touching their baby bump.
Which would suggets that they see the baby as the same as themselves, as a body part that they own, and not a whole person of their own, a new member of society.

I hate strangers touching me but DS loves it. He now (at 20 months) recognises old ladies as his best chance of a fuss and stares them out on the bus to try to elicit some interaction. He loved it as a little baby too.