Why ask my opinion if you're just going to argue with me?

[MaddyHatter]

I'm somewhat grumpy today, and DH is seriously getting on my nerves.

I just told him not to touch anything in the oven, but he goes in there moving things around to put the kids dinner in the oven, so i then had to move them to put the rest of ours in.

So then he goes in the oven and asks why i've moved it.. because i told you not to go in the fucking oven, i'm trying to cook a sunday roast here!

So then he just goes in and gets them out and says 'are these done enough?'

i look and tell him it isnt and it needs longer, queue a 5 minute arguement before he puts them back in,

GRRRR

Completely agree! Have a woman at work who does this all the time! For example she asks me about technology a lot as she knows nothing, but when I give her an answer she argues with it

aaaand he just did it AGAIN.

"what needs doing?"
"Nothing i'm waiting on the veg"
"So i can start dishing up then?"
"No, they're not even on the boil yet, nothing needs doing for the next 5 mins or so."
"But by the time i've put those out it'll be ready"
"No it won't, nothing needs doing for 5 minutes if you dish up, everything else will be cold by the time the veg is done."

ARGH I SAID NO.

Dh comments on my cooking.

"Oh you're going to use that cheese?" Head tilt.

"Frying it instead of baking?" Head tilt.

"That's an interesting way of chopping it." Head tilt.

He is actually a better cook than me with most things but still, fuck off.

I get this with my husband. We get on much better when he's at work.
Lord knows what we'll do in retirement

Reminds me of a lot of AIBU posters

That describes my lovely in every other way DH bummy

"Hmm. When I do it I do it like this. Are you going to?"

No. No I am not. I am not completely inept

My dh cooks the roast in this house! And I am very obedient and well behaved and don't touch anything. I'll usually not even enter the kitchen - he'll even top up my wine... It's bliss!

Cue me screaming as I storm out of the house throwing crockery behind me "DO IT YOUR FUCKING SELF THEN!!!"

I'd leave him to it and tell him to let me know when dinner is ready !

I believe the offical MN term for your dh is 'spoony fucker' . Nothing worse imo.

To interfere is to volunteer...

Came on to say exactly what tyne said

'You interfere, you volunteer'

Down tools, plonk arse on sofa with a nice big drink.

on the opposite side of the coin - I'd like to ask a certain person's opinion on things at times. I take it into account. I consider it alongside my ideas, and other people's. I value her viewpoint. But I DON'T always end up doing/choosing/agreeing with what she's said. And I always get a version of 'well what does it matter what I think, why does anyone bother asking me, of course my opinion doesn't count for anything' etc. (it's not just me she did/does it).

The rule of my kitchen when I am cooking is piss off out unless I have asked for your help, and if I do ask for your help I will specify what I want you to do. Arse about at your peril.

DH tends to avoid the kitchen. It is currently DD3 (14) who sometimes gets over-involved, wanting different things. She did it today and earned herself short shrift from me. Friends again now though.

thing is, yes he is a spoony fucker... we had a massive row about him adding more butter to my mashed potato without asking a few months ago.. so he's more wary.

Today he wasn't really messing with my cooking, more just being a pain in the ass because he decided the kids must be fed, but he did it 5 minutes before i needed to put the stuffing and yorkies in the oven, despite me telling him not to touch anything!

i just dont get this idea of asking me if something is cooked enough to serve, and me telling him it needed longer, and him arguing about it! If you think its done, fucking serve it and don't ask me!