To think this is rude?

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Going on a date later, I messaged earlier this week suggesting a time and asking about place. He suggested a general area of the city we live in and I agreed. He still hasn't messaged to confirm a location though... Supposed to be meeting at 7... When is too late?!

I wouldnt ring him.

Just text and ask if he's still on for tonight.

Why not take charge? Text and tell him you will meet him at x location at your time.

I love how straight forward people are on here (genuinely).

Do as others suggested. Text a time and place and go there. If he doesn't turn up then you know your answer x

I have been in a relationship for 14 years and we have 4 children together. It did take a bit of chasing. There is more women than men if she don't call him then there is plenty more women for him to link with.

"He suggested a general area of the city we live in and I agreed. He still hasn't messaged to confirm a location though"

As a simple old bloke the way I see that is that it infers he's awaiting on a reply from you!

Nope don't bother. Why should you be doing all the arranging. Not phoning is not game playing. It's filtering out the irritating ones.

Would you fanny about with "balls in court" and "my turn/his turn" if you were arranging drinks with a friend?
Or would you be more direct?

Justaboy she did reply to say great etc. Why would he expect her to send a second response?

Arranging drinks with friends and a first date are completely different things

They aren't friends. They are going on a date ( hopefully).

She needs to know if he fancies her not if he's polite or at a loose end and could be in with a chance of a bunk up.

fastdaytears yes indeed but it appears to me that text is a shade ambiguous.

Why cannot the OP just call or txt the bloke to conform it all?.

If she can't then put his number here and I'll do it for her;)

Is this going to be one of those threads where we never ever get an update?

For what it's worth I don't think he's that into you. If he was he'd make sure there was no ambiguity and he'd want to make sure you knew where you were going

LTB and go out with your mates instead.

If you still want to go out with him, call or text to suggest a place. I'm not into game playing, so I'd rather just suggest somewhere and if he doesn't respond, move on.

Don't over think it or play games, who can be arsed with all that

Just send a chirpy text along the lines of:
Just realised we didn't finalise where to meet. How about XX bar at 7:30. See you later.
If your phone dies or something weird later at least then you both know where you're meeting.

Come on,OP! Are you going or not?

Do people go on dates with people they haven't spoken to on the phone? I thought someone's voice was partly what made them attractive. Imagine turning up and he's got a really high pitched voice, or a smug voice or keeps clearing his throat.

Yes, they do. Personally I find it really odd speaking to someone on the phone when I don't know them well so I'd rather just meet up. There are lots of things about someone's physical presence that can put me off that I can't gauge from a photo or on the phone. If I call someone I might think "I don't like your voice" but if I meet them, there might be something about the chemistry between us that overrides the not liking their voice.

Depends on how you feel about phoning someone and how important their voice is to you.

There are lots of things about someone's physical presence that can put me off

Same can be said for how they treat you

You going out then op?

Update please! Those of us at home watching Netflix need to live through your dating adventure...

I'm guessing no and that we never hear from her again :(

I was hoping for an update!

Well if they were meeting at 7, she should be out by now

Do people go on dates with people they haven't spoken to on the phone

Yeah I much prefer meeting people f2f first than chatting on the phone.

GAHHH!

Glad the last time I dated was pre mobiles!!