To think this is rude?

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Going on a date later, I messaged earlier this week suggesting a time and asking about place. He suggested a general area of the city we live in and I agreed. He still hasn't messaged to confirm a location though... Supposed to be meeting at 7... When is too late?!

Is it just me .. Why on earth is it not appropriate to actually speak to someone to arrange a meeting???? Do you plan on communication by sign language when you get together??? Bizarre.

How isn't it appropriate to phone him? You are going on a date where, I assume, you'll be talking to him?!

Agree that he's probably waiting for you to suggest a meeting place that's easier for him to find if he's travelling in.

Or just text and say "we didn't arrange a meeting place for tonight at 7 so how about X place?"

To me in the last text "yeah sounds good" you don't seem all that keen! Maybe he's sitting at home saying "well I'm supposed to meet her tonight but when I suggested X-place, she didn't sound thrilled..."

As pp said he is travelling in so may not know where's best to go, he picked an area, you pick the exact place!

Stop overthinking and text him saying "shall we try X-restaurant tonight?"

If it more local to you I would suggest somewhere.

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I wonder if it's more about nerves speaking on the phone rather than face to face?

I hate talking on the phone so yes I can understand nerves playing a part, but I also can't be doing with sitting around with no firm plans so would have no hesitation in sending "hi, are we still on for tonight? Is xxx place ok at 7pm? Let me know :) " and hope I got a quick reply.

Just text him something like 'are we still on for tonight? How about meeting in X bar and go from there?'.

I'm wondering how many people saying, "Just phone him - I can't understand why it's so difficult!" have dated any time recently. This is a time of picking up signs from the other person, and I would not particularly want to go on a date knowing it had only happened because I'd done all the work and he'd been completely passive. If the guy isn't sufficiently interested to follow up when the ball's in his court, I'd assume that's a good indication of how he will be if you start dating. In other words, I wouldn't bother.

I wouldn't phone either. I'd text and say "Hi, are we still on for later? If so should we meet at xx xxxxxx in Camden? Let me know!"

What PP said. Text, suggest a place. All this ball/court stuff is just anxiety-ratcheting.

Phoning would be weird and totally against first date ettiquette...

I would give it a bit longer yet before texting

Just message him, stop playing games, there are no balls and there are no courts.

God I'm glad I'm not dating if phoning is totally against first date ettiquette.
It's a wonder anyone ever gets together

Message him.

me too looby talking on the phone was all part of the build up you cant do that in a text
ive been on the game too long

*out the game ffs

Same here tonight, vague plans but I just text him (just now weirdly) telling him what train I can get. Then I will see what he says in response to that

If not I will just stay in maybe invite a friend round. I'm not bothered either way yet

Just text him

I wouldn't phone someone either prior to a first date. Modern dating

I don't play a game and try not to worry about signs and imagine up a scene in my brain because I can promise you that a lot of men when dating don't over think or plan as much as women tend to see things that aren't even there.

And he just text me straight back with an answer. If he wants to go he will do the same. No games

Does he know Camden well?

Communication is the problem to the answer
Youve got her number and your hand is on the phone
The weathers turned, and all the lines are down
The things we do for love, the things we do for love.

Like walking in the rain and the snow
When there's nowhere to go
And you're feelin like a part of you is dying
And you're looking for the answer in her eyes.
You think you're gonna break up
Then she says she wants to make up.

Oooooh!...

Who is playing the games ring him up find out what is going on. If he is not meeting you then you can make other arrangements. ffs

Maybe he means Camden is in by the station?

I think the op is going to be lonely for a long time. ahhhhh

jesus christ just ask him! why all the bloody drama?! 😣

Oh god this is pathetic just grow up and ask him the situation a txt isnt hard or dont n leave the date im
Not understanding why this is a major issue sorry to be blunt but honestly mountains outve molehills n all that

Text him. He may have completely forgotten

Great! He's excited to meet up then isn't he?

I wouldn't chase a date -

You read in here all about lazy blokes in relationships -

If he was keen he'd have something planned - dinner film theatre club?? What's a girls to wear??