To think DP is being a bad birth partner?!

[BlueCorvette]

We had to get up and drive to hospital at 2am. I'm not in established labour but have been told to wait as contractions strong and painful.

DP has moaned about how tired he is, hasn't asked how I am at all and pretty much slept since we got here.

He's just woken up moaning about how much his back hurts from the chair and asked what's going on with the midwife and plan. I am tired and in pain and told him to go and ask her. He then asked why I was being such an arsehole and did I even want him there....

I'm fuming and really upset.

Good luck OP, hope your poor DP's back is feeling better

I've got no sympathy for the OH in this case, but years ago a (male) colleague of mine slipped on some fluid on the floor of the delivery room, fortunately not when he was holding his newborn son, fell, broke his bloody ankle, and was carried out on a stretcher - and a woman in labour going in the other direction called Thank you for giving me a lauch when I needed it!

OP Come and tell us about your baby when you can!

I was induced. Sent my DP home because of his incessant moaning about uncomfortable chairs, tiredness etc. There was nothing happening anyway. At 4.00 am my waters broke suddenly and he barely made the birth as labour was very quick and it took me a while to get hold of him. His mobile wasn't getting reception and the house phone is downstairs so he didn't hear it! Luckily I had a lightbulb moment and used whatsapp to call him as I knew he'd be connected to wifi. He thought it was his alarm and accidentally rejected the first call. I was terrified he was going to miss it. He got there with 20 mins to spare!

How on earth are you able to message on here and are on hospital?!

When I was ready to go to hospital I couldn't even hold a conversation, let alone post on MN.

And I was still in labour for an hour at the hospital before he was born.

Good luck with the rest of it, glad your DP is being less of an arse.

My one was a bit of a git during the first birth which was down to nerves.
He only got to the second one with 15 minutes to spare!

My DM and DH went for some food while I was in labour. A nice sit down meal. When he got back I threw up on his shoes ;)
Good luck op.

BlueCorvette's gone quiet! Maybe she's having baby as we speak & her DP is there offering support and food... judging by the amount of people who it's happened to on this thread, some people obviously think it's perfectly acceptable to offer a woman writhing in agony some munchies

Mine slept in a chair for 4 days after I was induced! There was no room on the labour ward and partners were encouraged to stay. Then when I finally was in labour he went off to the toilet, I started to feel sick (he really isn't good with vomit) as he came back the nurse handed him a sick bowl which I promptly filled while he held it :)

My exdp told me my hair looked 'fucked' during labour. Once baby was born he bought flowers. For the midwives. I sympathise with you, he's a selfish bastard. Is there someone else you can call? He doesn't deserve to be there.

Oh dear these bloody stories! I must add mine. Ex partner was out drinking in Newcastle when my waters broke. I arrived at hospital some time before him and was in established labour with twins. He literally fell into the delivery suite. Fortunately his dm was a nurse on night shift elsewhere in the hospital so the midwives sent him off to her. She took one look at him and started mainlining black coffee down his neck. He reappeared in the delivery suite, and fell asleep stinking of booze. He woke up a few hours later, went for a shit then walked in as dt1 was born. Dt2 then followed double breech! What a night.

We get our own back by breaking small bones in their hands by grasping too hard when crowning

BreakfastAtSquiffanys my dp found a way round that. His hands (& face) were full of crisps...
Has anyone ever managed such a feat, out of interest?

My DH was very good quiet which I was grateful for.

My Dad drove us as I can't drive and hung around to see what was going to happen. He did complain that it was very warm and that surely it wasn't that painful.

If DH had came out with half the stuff others have I would've probably been whisked away to police custody after birth.

They need to seriously woman the fuck up. My new favourite phrase!

This has made me realise I'd be a shit birth partner.

Actually, no I wouldn't, because unlike these 'D'Ps I'd be prepared! (And unlike a lot of men, used to giving a shit about others )

Honestly I turn into a sort of spaced out toddler if I'm hungry - find it painful, overwhelming and can't focus (yes I know it's not a patch on labour but my brain drifts off and with the best will in the world I'm useless!) Then eating after being hungry for ages isn't good either as I sort of go into a trance. Lack of sleep ditto, stop thinking straight.

However, I'd have a carefully organised packed lunch, plus extras, for us both, ready to grab when the time came. A blow up pillow like you have on planes. And I'd hope adrenalin helped with the rest (seriously do not understand the helpless frightened thing some men do in this situation - fucking get on with it, man!) And I certainly wouldnt moan to the labouring woman about my discomfort! Or turn up pissed!

(I am female btw, just never given birth)

OnceThereWasThisGirlWho
Free up your diary for the 9th of december, you sound like the perfect birthing partner 😉

I gave birth 2 days ago to my second baby.DH was amazing birth partner the first time and this time. Every time I had a contraction I would try and dive off the bed and he would hold me down, he was awesome. As well as the gas having something to push against when contracting really helped and DH was very obliging. He held my hand and was right there through the whole thing. Not once mentioning being tired or hungry (we had been up all night) he never brought up the fact that I did all the bodily functions you don't want to do in labour. He was my hero. He stayed awake all next day on post natal ward whilst I snoozed on and off. He is now playing with our 18 month old whilst I have cuddles on sofa. This post has come across very boasty. Good luck OP hope it goes well

Born at 2:02, 7lbs 15.

An hour and a half from 2cm to delivery!

DP absolutely redeemed himself and was such a start. Kept calm, encourage me and was quite instinctive. I wasn't allowed an epidural and he really kept me sane through the intensity.

Thank you so much everyone! Will go back and read properly but atm am cross eyed with tiredness and diamorphine

Congratulations! What an absolute sweetie!!

Congrats OP he's gorgeous

Beautiful op, congrats

Congratulations OP 👶🌹

Congratulations!

Woah what a lovely one! So alert! Well done that woman x

Lovely baby! Congratulations and well done

Wow! Congratulations, he really is beautiful (and I normally don't think newborns are!)