To think DP is being a bad birth partner?!

[BlueCorvette]

We had to get up and drive to hospital at 2am. I'm not in established labour but have been told to wait as contractions strong and painful.

DP has moaned about how tired he is, hasn't asked how I am at all and pretty much slept since we got here.

He's just woken up moaning about how much his back hurts from the chair and asked what's going on with the midwife and plan. I am tired and in pain and told him to go and ask her. He then asked why I was being such an arsehole and did I even want him there....

I'm fuming and really upset.

He's back now and being a star and just got into own room. No pool but big corner bath so that'll have to do

How exciting, glad he's behaving now. Let us know how it goes

This is why I had DM not DH as a birth partner!

Obviously X posted but DH was worse than useless so I chucked him out for DC1 and left him home for DC2

My DH was massively hung over, did nothing but moan and be generally useless when I had DC1. I ribbed him about it for years.

Then one night he confessed he had been absolutely terrified and completely out of his depth to see me in pain. I think he just froze really.

He was a star for the subsequent three DCs.

DH still dines out on his sufferings when DC1 was born, dwelling on the horrors of going through the night when his sandwiches had run out and he'd read his magazine from cover to cover. I have to remind him that I wasn't enjoying myself a whole lot either.

My dh was pretty useless too, mainly occupied himself eating all the food I had packed for myself, friend had recommended M+S chocolate flapjacks for energy recovery afterwards! He had the entire stash eaten before my waters even broke! Had an emergency c, and the hospital forgot to feed me for 20 hrs after the birth, I could have killed for one of my flapjacks.
Good luck, hope labour goes well.

Not my DH as he was brilliant but it's about my sister. Now this point is important to the story. Her EX was obsessed with angry birds the game. And I mean obsessed, it's all he would talk about, whenever you saw him he was playing it. It was like her lived and breathed for angry birds.
So when my sister was having DN, her then partner spent the 14 hour labour playing angry birds and going out for repeated cigarettes. At one point he went to leave the room and the MW asked where he was going, he responded for a cig and to complete a level of angry birds. The midwife glared at him and told him maybe that wasn't wise as she was ready to push - he still went. He arrived back in the room and announced " fucking done it ain't I, gone and completed it"
But while he was away a doctor needed to come in and a few other medical members as DN was getting distressed and my sister wasn't doing to well, so the ex BIL looks up after his announcement to dirty looks from everyone in the room. Within a minute of him being in the room my DN entered the world.
The best bit was when his parents arrived, his father was cuddling DN and said " what a magical day today is "
And ex BIL responded with " it isn't it, can't believe I completed it finally"
My sister actually thought EX FiL was going to explode with anger!

Some of these stories are so depressing!! I hope that a lot of these husbands redeemed themselves or are now ex- husband's!

I feel pretty lucky, my DP was a star. We had a home birth and I think he was more comfortable/confident than he might have been in hospital. He was just very quietly supportive with me, and kept the midwives topped up with tea! Was a lovely experience.

Haha, depressing and hilarious. Sometimes I do wonder if the delivery room isn't a bit too brutal for some fellas? Some can be either completely insensitive or can't cope with seeing their partner in so much pain and feel helpless.

I had my step mother with me for first birth which was amazing. Still, I wouldn't feel right without DP though. I feel safer with him here for some reason .....

I was in labour for over 20 hours with my twins and my DP was shit from the start, and my God did he moan about how uncomfortable he was in the chair. I had a nap after about 6 hours and woke up and he was sat there puffing on the gas and air he saved his Arse by sneaking me malteasers when they said I couldn't eat.

You'll look back and laugh.

Good luck and congratulations

Can we have a baby pic when you've had him/her? Do you know what you're having?

I'm 6 months pregnant, we're having a girl and she's due on DP's birthday, if I can get my timing right I can mess up his birthday as payback for the Mcoy incident he's stsying home and looking after out other 4 dc. Mil will be there for the birth...

*staying & our other 4 dc

Typical men dont understand pregnancy or labour they are useless

How can some men be so self centred? I don't get it

Surely it's not rocket science to know child birth is painful and moaning about yourself comes across very badly

Good luck today OP

Good luck
I don't think DH dared to be anything other than completely supportive during my first labour, he walked into the delivery room and my first reaction (mid contraction) was to get hold of his collar and snarl 'where the fuck have you been?'
Poor sod had taken all of 10 minutes to get the hospital having been sent home earlier because not much was going on!

what i wrong with thesemen i know everyones laughing but i find it quite disgusting and selfish

Sometimes I do wonder if the delivery room isn't a bit too brutal for some fellas?

Absolute bullshit. We have to cope with it so wtf can't they? They need to seriously woman the fuck up.

Sorry OP, my crossness isn't aimed at you!

Ok, bit of a stealth boast here, but I don't think DH actually appreciated what I'd been through until he watched OBEM. He was like, "God those women are in terrible pain. Lucky it wasn't that bad for you."

I explained that it was actually, but I'm nailsI sort of go into myself rather than scream. You absolute tool

It's not just men - my partner moaned about the uncomfortable chair & her back, about being tired and even said 'how much longer are you going to be?' when I was really struggling.

She's had 2 kids herself so if I'd had any spare energy I'd have been raging at her for the pure lack of empathy.

And after birth she told me several times how I must have a really low pain threshold because I made quite a lot of fuss about it all.

I just read DP this thread and he said.. I had a trapped nerve for a week from that bloody chair boo-fucking-hoo!

I had a pretty hideous labour, ex said after 'well at least you didn't have to see all the blood

Ooh good luck op,;how are you getting on? Hope your dp is being a bit more useful now!