To have complained about someone's audio message playing in the hairdressers?

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Went to the hairdressers this pm, a not very common visit, but looking forward to a bit of pampering, an afternoon away from the office.
3 clients - including me - in the salon and, as usual, a bit of chat and the salon playing music, reasonable volume.
Client starts playing an audio message on her phone from her grand-daughter with said gd singing. Actually quite a good voice, but played quite loudly - and of course, the salon music still playing too.
So now I am listening to both musical tracks, hairdryer next to me (other client) buzzing and blowing and people talking.
Sensory overload - but thought that the audio message would just be a snatch - to demonstrate to her stylist how good a voice the gd had, but NO the singing carried on for quite a time - several minutes!!
By now, I am feeling stressed and quite annoyed as I think it is rude to share that kind of thing without checking whether other people want to hear it!
When my stylist takes me to the basin, I say - loud enough for all of us in the hairdressers to hear- "sorry, I can't cope with both Music tracks at the same time!"
To be fair, the phone audio stopped almost immediately but no-one said anything, apart from my stylist who said, semi-jokingly, "don't know which one to listen to?"
Anyway, everyone then carries on but was I being super-sensitive or would others find this annoying and difficult?

YABU. Not because it wasn't annoying, but because you made an awkward situation worse.

This is one of those 'turning into an awkward old lady' moments. You think because something annoys you you are entitled to call the world around you on it.

You can do that, of course. But it reflects badly on your tolerance levels and stresses out other people (such as the woman washing your hair).

So you are entitled to say an annoying situation is annoying. But YABU in not realising that sometimes it's just more pleasant to be more pleasant.

Not very interested in you being a musician, btw.

I cant reply i am too busy crying over my deletion.

Sakes alive woman, if there's anything more irritating than posters going on about reporting other posters, it's someone wittering on about being deleted.

Take the high road.

I cant take the high road. Im too low already.

Not very interested in you being a musician, btw.

Speak for yourself.

I feel that comment was a bit of a tease. I want to know what instruments the OP plays, what grade, is she professional, shagged any famous people, played Glastenbury/the Royal Albert Hall, etc, etc.

verybitchy

Call me suspicious but something tells me you're not REALLY interested in my musical career ....

Why should the OP have to get a mobile hairdresser - why not the poor lonely, grandmother with e life limiting condition, or whatever other shit you have projected on her. T.hen she can delight the hairdresser with a whole hour of her granddaughters singing and not disturb anyone else, that may be doesn't share the enthusiasm.

Btw people who don't like noisy arses, also tend to be the same people who wouldn't let their children annoy other people with their wailing.

Maybe the OP has a life limiting illness? How can we know? If you do OP apparently you are then automatically in the right.

But what if she parked in a disabled space ?

gingerbread

Brilliant.

I would have been the same OP. I don't know why but some salons don't quite understand that customers want to leave feeling relaxed.

In a public space respect everybody else! Why is that so hard and offensive? Agree with Pp that the OP wants to have a nice pampering experience, not listen to somebody else's granddaughter's singing, she can play it at home.

smelly food, audio from phones, loud personal conversations on phones, farting, burping, excessive PDAs - leave them at home

Izzy's post may have been ott yet op can make posts saying
Maybe I have ASD or maybe it's because I'm a musician ...
Really?
Please don't say it was said 'lightheartedly' no it was passive agfressive.
You wanted the woman to hear and for her to embarrassed so she'd turn it off.
I don't see why you even posted, you don't think yabu or were at all rude in any way.

I don't think yabu to find it annoying. I would hate that when I'm trying to relax. I suffer from noise sensitivity and prolonged contrasting noises would see my anxiety sky rocket.
However it was only a few minutes and I think yabu to have intentionally embarrassed the other customer who was presumably proud of her granddaughter. A family member is a musician and him and his musical friends can be a little unreasonable when it comes to what they deem as not quite good enough music. Are you sure there wasn't an element of that too?

It would be annoying to me too, but I would not have mentioned it.

It wasn't that big a deal Easy to say when you don't get sensory over load!!

"Just being honest" ah...the justification for being unkind, how many times has that phrase been uttered at the tail end of a nasty comment?

The noise would have annoyed me too but just the overall, not the grandmother's audio of her granddaughter singing. The other women's silence and your hairdresser's awkward response gave you your answer, op. You were unkind to this grandmother who certainly didn't intend to annoy anyone, was probably afraid that she might but felt secure enough at her hairdresser's to share her joy. I'm sure she was mortified when you made your loud jab.

I think what surprises me is that you're not concerned at all that you hurt this woman. It was unkind. You were probably out of sorts that day looking for a little quiet pampering. We've all done it, lashed out from tiredness or crankiness. I think if you apologized you would feel better. When I apologize for being unkind to somebody who didn't deserve it, it truly makes me feel so much better. On the other hand, what you said wasn't the absolute worst thing, but the effect was the same.

differentname surely if you have sensory overload you are *always^ going to struggle at a hairdressers.

Wish I had a recording of the event, as far too many posters are making assumptions. There was no awkward silence, no hurt, no embarrassment - my comment was taken in the spirit it was given.
If you had been there you would have seen this. And the woman in question was no vulnerable, frail old granny - she was just a few years older than me and quite glam. She shrugged the whole situation off, which is to her credit.

YANBU. People should realise that not everyone wants to hear their noise, so by definition you weren't the one being rude and it doesn't sound like you were impolite about it. We get walked over these days because we're too worried about causing offence to ignorant people.

Oh FFS, this is such a non issue. Can't believe you actually posted about something so trivial in the first place. The only reason you posted was to get a tirade of "Yanbu" and lots of pats on the back. Instead you look silly, a bit cats bum about it all, and most people agree that actually YABU and that whilst it might have been temporarily annoying for you, most agree that they would have just ignored it and not felt the need to utter, for everyone's benefit in the hairdressers, a PA 'quip'

Got over it and find get a grip. You might have to let go of your pearls to do so mind you.

If you are one of these people who cannot stand everyday noises then stay in your home! Where did op say that!??

I find it odd that the op is being accused of being rude, when those accusing her are levelling absolute insults at her...

OP is not the rude one!!

When I was hairdressing I've looked at many a packet of wedding photos or baby pics of people I don't know but you tolerate it

1] It's part of the job
2] looking at photos is not noisy

I am pretty fed up with the noise police on here. Its ok for their screaming whiney kids to be polluting public spaces as they are just vibrant and sparky Do you not see the hypocrisy in that post??

DropYourSword Yes, and you can prepare yourself for that. And that's hard enough! But then to have to listen to something else on top, when you are already working hard to cope with the normal noises (people talking, machines going, kids noise) is very draining. I get very muddled (for want of a better word) when two lots of music are playing (one local store has music playing, then you go in to their "entertainment" dept and they also have music playing, so you can hear both) It really bothers me for some reason, and I can't stay there. I don't know if it is because I have tinnitus, or something else, but I rarely shop there any more.

I would think that being a musician here is key and am not sure why others have been so sneers about that. I think that will make OP particularly sensitive to this particular situation (the clash of two tracks of music). So I don't think OP was unreasonable to find the situation difficult. However, OP could have some understanding of her own sensitivity and could have made an awkward situation (going by what OP says about the are you going to stop look on someone's face) worse with her comment.

Without having to read life limiting illness or other circumstances into the situation, OP YWBU.