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To have complained about someone's audio message playing in the hairdressers?

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Adnerb95 · 09/09/2016 18:46

Went to the hairdressers this pm, a not very common visit, but looking forward to a bit of pampering, an afternoon away from the office.
3 clients - including me - in the salon and, as usual, a bit of chat and the salon playing music, reasonable volume.
Client starts playing an audio message on her phone from her grand-daughter with said gd singing. Actually quite a good voice, but played quite loudly - and of course, the salon music still playing too.
So now I am listening to both musical tracks, hairdryer next to me (other client) buzzing and blowing and people talking.
Sensory overload - but thought that the audio message would just be a snatch - to demonstrate to her stylist how good a voice the gd had, but NO the singing carried on for quite a time - several minutes!!
By now, I am feeling stressed and quite annoyed as I think it is rude to share that kind of thing without checking whether other people want to hear it!
When my stylist takes me to the basin, I say - loud enough for all of us in the hairdressers to hear- "sorry, I can't cope with both Music tracks at the same time!"
To be fair, the phone audio stopped almost immediately but no-one said anything, apart from my stylist who said, semi-jokingly, "don't know which one to listen to?"
Anyway, everyone then carries on but was I being super-sensitive or would others find this annoying and difficult?

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IzzyIsBusy · 09/09/2016 21:30

Nope not missing the point. You behaved like an arse. You were rude for no reason.
Like i say maybe you need a mobile hairdresser in future or you need to go out wearing ear defenders.

FrancisCrawford · 09/09/2016 21:32

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BoneyBackJefferson · 09/09/2016 21:32

Birdsgottafly

Its entirely possible that the OP is the regular and the one playing the music through her phone was the one that "brings down the whole atmosphere."

IzzyIsBusy · 09/09/2016 21:32

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MadisonAvenue · 09/09/2016 21:32

YABU and rude.
You say that your visit today was "a not very common visit", so from that you're not a regular client. It's quite possible that the client in question visits weekly - many elderly ladies do and build up quite a relationship with the stylists and like to share the achievements of their families. When I was hairdressing I've looked at many a packet of wedding photos or baby pics of people I don't know but you tolerate it. It's a few minutes of your time but your showing an interest means a lot to people.

Sunnysky2016 · 09/09/2016 21:33

Totally unreasonable. Do you know the ladies circumstances? Was she or the grand- daughter not suffering from a life limiting condition?
FFS she was proud of her grand daughter and wanted to share. Have you never been proud of someone and shared their talent or success with another - who may have not been at all interested?
Jeez if all people were like you the world would be a miserable place.

LeonardInTheArgosBag · 09/09/2016 21:34

Wow, Izzy is ANGRY!

Time for a cuppa and a sit down, maybe?

IzzyIsBusy · 09/09/2016 21:35

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Adnerb95 · 09/09/2016 21:36

Suffering from a life-limiting condition

good grief

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Sunnysky2016 · 09/09/2016 21:36

As Madison said- a few Minutes of your time to show an interest.... That could mean a lot to someone. Maybe she had no one to share it with? Sorry but I feel really strongly on this- and actually I'm not a sharer of things- just appreciate that not everyone has lots of friends and family to share things with, hence those in a professional capacity rightly or wrongly become 'friends'

FrancisCrawford · 09/09/2016 21:37

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MindSweeper · 09/09/2016 21:37

What happened to tolerance?

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Adnerb95 · 09/09/2016 21:39

My ASD comment was rhetorical - am I more than usually aware of the clash of sounds? Just thinking out loud.
As for the musician comment - not sure what you want me to say.

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ChicRock · 09/09/2016 21:41

Oh ffs has someone really jumped in to suggest this woman was inflicting someone else's singing on a whole salon because of a possible life limiting illness HmmConfused

TheDowagerCuntess · 09/09/2016 21:43

Izzy, you are coming across as disproportionately angry about this.

It's OK to think the OP was being unreasonable. I do. Awkward situation, easily avoided.

But granny was also being annoying.

DropYourSword · 09/09/2016 21:43

Actually, it was a fairly lighthearted comment (but with a serious intent) hoping that either the salon would turn off their music so that we could hear the audio on its own or that the gm would stop the CD playing. I didn't care which.

Bollocks. Absolute bollocks! Passive aggressive comments are not 'light hearted'. And there's no way you would have thought the salon owner would switch off their music.

MindSweeper · 09/09/2016 21:43

chic well it's only the same as everyone who jumps in with the 'but they might have had a disability' thing

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IzzyIsBusy · 09/09/2016 21:47

Izzy, you are coming across as disproportionately angry about this.

Maybe.
I am pretty fed up with the noise police on here. Its ok for their screaming whiney kids to be polluting public spaces as they are just vibrant and sparky Hmm. Yet a few minutes of decent singing is apparently very wrong and warrants arsey comments and the old lady deserved it.

People like the OP piss me off. If i had been the old lady i would have played it louder and at least 3 more times Grin

Sunnysky2016 · 09/09/2016 21:49

It was used an example. Why? Because my mum could tell you all about her workmates child- from first tooth cut to latest doctors appointment. Why? Because her grandchild is not expected to reach her teens.
My point being- don't jump the gun and make an assumption unless you know the reasons behind it: chances are 99% it was a proud grandmother. But there may have been reasons behind the actions as well, and unless you now them- don't judge.

Sunnysky2016 · 09/09/2016 21:51

And yes ChicRoxk someone really did jump in to say that. The joy of public forums.......

CurbsideProphet · 09/09/2016 21:52

I don't think YABU. I would also hate this, not least because I would have to arrange my face into "polite interest, yet not so much interest that would cause even more clips to be played". It can be expensive to get a haircut and I would expect a certain level of enjoyment from the experience. The salon ought to have attempted to ensure the comfort of all their customers by pausing their own music. Surely no one really wants to hear two lots of music playing loudly in a small salon?

LuluLozenge · 09/09/2016 21:53

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IzzyIsBusy · 09/09/2016 21:54

Which one have you reported?

Binkybix · 09/09/2016 21:57

Oh god, what sort of person plays a recording that lasts more than a few seconds of something like this?

It would have pissed me off that someone can be so self absorbed, but I probably wouldn't have said anything for a couple of minutes.

It would have been even worse if I had been expected to be interested!