....to still want to go to the wedding?

[HeldTogetherByGafferTape]

I've recently moved out of London up to Scotland. I'm 39 + 1 weeks pregnant (first pregnancy), and I have a wedding invite tomorrow in London town.

I booked an paid for everything months ago in the hope that my either my brain or biology would have made it clear by now whether I was going to be able to go or not. But here we are 1 day before and I'm still in a muddle about what to do.

First class tickets on the train journey (4hours) are booked and paid for, travelling down tomorrow morning, and back up Sunday morning, as is a room at the hotel where the reception is happening, and husband is also booked to come along for the trip and the wedding, so I'm likely to be pretty comfortable and well looked after all day, and able to rest should it all become a bit too much.

Pros of going are - seeing a really dear group of friends I won't see for probably a long time after the baby arrives, plus maintaining some important work contacts which is critical in my industry, especially as I'm freelance. Also of course having a nice day at the wedding, and not letting the grooms down by flaking out at the last minute (though obviously we had a chat when they invited me that I couldn't guarantee attendance and were happy to keep me on the list) + I guess not losing money on the train and hotel (though tbh I'm far less bothered about that last aspect).

There's only one big Con - what if I go into labour? Either on the train or in London.

All my maternity care up to 8 months was in London, so the idea of giving birth down there isn't terrifying...though I'd really rather not! What really worries me is the logistics of getting back to Scotland again with the baby were this to happen, and we don't have a house there any more to spend some time in while we sorted ourselves out.

The midwife didn't seems too alarmed when I spoke to her about it 10 days ago. She just said to take the book and a hospital bag just in case. Since then the bump seems to have dropped a little, but I'm still pretty mobile, no twinges, can cross my legs etc, but a few more experienced friends have made it clear that they think I'm mad to even consider it.

So - what do you think? Am I mad/unreasonable to even consider doing this?

We made it!!

Woohoo!!

Arrived in London about 1130 yesterday and made it through the ceremony, drinks reception and the meal. Had a quick 50 min lie down (in front of Pointless) before the speeches, cake cutting, first dance and the disco.

I didn't QUITE make it on to the dance floor myself, but did some excellent chair dancing until about half past ten, at which point I'd run out of sober-ish people to talk to (and was desperate for bed).

I woke up at half past midnight for the first of my current 17 nightly toilet trips and my first thought as I dragged myself up in the dark was 'they'll all still be partying, I should go and find them!'.

Then I remembered I'm nine months pregnant and went back to bed.

Thank you SO much for all the advice, ideas, opinions and experience shared. I had such a great time and such a lovely catch up with people I won't see for a while after the baby arrives, and as an added surprise 2 friends from Denmark showed up who I didn't know would be there, and who I won't see for a long time.

I'd have been so gutted to have sat on the sofa with nothing doing from the bump knowing all that was going on.

Thanks to all those who encouraged me to go, and also to those who were a bit more hesitant. It was brilliant to get such a range of opinions, and really helped me weigh up the risks and make the decision.

Am now back on my own sofa with a (hot) curry on the way!

xxxx

That's great! Case of 'ready when you are' now? :)

Totally! Phew!

In the last month we have:

moved from London to Glasgow temporarily into my mum's
2 weeks later moved from my mum's into a flat
we finalised on buying a house (in need of renovation)
and got married.

All since 12th Aug.

That wedding was the last big milestone in the diary, now all that's left to do is chill and wait.

Hooray!

Come on baby, we are ready for you!

Am so glad you made it and had a good time

Thanks Miranda!!

It was SO MUCH FUN

Great stuff; well done, you!

So pleased you went and had fun!

Glad you went and had fun baby stayed put

Good luck as and when they make an appearence

Glad you enjoyed it. I went to a wedding just before baby 3 and ended up driving down the glen with best man, bridesmaid dresses and the cake which I made. Had a car accident on the way as someone drove into mine and we still got down in time for everyone. It was an eventful wedding as father of the brides car broke down near my house. Everyone was stressed except me.
I also moved house twice in three weeks before baby 1 and 300 miles also to Scotland!
Enjoy a walk in the fresh air and a few days of chocs and telly.
I was going to say go too but didn't see it on Friday( I was in the pub) so glad to see you went and had a good time. Good luck for the birth.

So nice have a lovely story thread for change!

Good luck OP.

I hear the new 'thing' is to go touring the world with your new born.

So glad you enjoyed it.
I feel a live birth thread coming on soon!

Yay, glad you enjoyed! It was worth checking the thread again! Good luck with the new bubba.