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friend posts pictures of her children naked on FB

14 replies

Deeppansexual · 09/09/2016 08:40

I really want to tell her it worries and concerns me and I think it's a mistake, because I think her children's nakedness is - or ought to be - private, but also I think it's none of my business.

The pics aren't public. They are friends only. But they could be seen by people she doesn't know, and they could be shared.

Would I be being unreasonable to tell her that I think she shouldn't do it?

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atticusclaw2 · 09/09/2016 08:42

It is not a wise thing for her to do but it isn't really your business.

atticusclaw2 · 09/09/2016 08:44

I believe it could also be an offence relating to publishing child pornography (depending on the circumstances) but I'm not an expert in that area.

pleasemothermay1 · 09/09/2016 08:47

Loads of people do this for some odd reason I think posting pictures of really ill children if a bit 😕As well

CocoLoco87 · 09/09/2016 08:48

To avoid confrontation, you could report the photos to facebook. They will likely take them down. Your friend won't know it's you who reported them.

coffeetasteslikeshit · 09/09/2016 08:49

I think YWBU to tell her, like you said, it's none of your business and will probably not go down well.

SexNamesRFab · 09/09/2016 08:49

I sent a PM to a friend when she did this, pointing out the risks as you describe. She took the original pic down, but posts similar all the time. I think she's an idiot.

GlitteryFluff · 09/09/2016 08:51

Yes report to FB
They'll remove as its nudity
She'll know they've been removed and why but not who reported it.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster · 09/09/2016 08:55

If the profile is 'public' it is not wise but I fail to see the issue of posting some innocent family snaps on Facebook if your settings are limited to friends only. I tend to get more irritated and depressed by those who's first thoughts are 'that's inappropriate/peados are out there' instead of seeing just a child enjoying themselves in the paddling pool (or whatever).

RochelleGoyle · 09/09/2016 09:13

One of the problems is that once you upload photos to Facebook, you no longer 'own' them in the sense that the pictures are irretrievably 'out there' in cyberspace. As much as you might like to rely on Facebook's security settings to reassure yourself that only people on your friends list would see such pictures, who knows what could ultimately happen to them. The pictures could be online for years to come. I for one, would not want that for my son. As for the pictures representing 'child pornography' (by the way, there is no such thing - we refer to 'indecent images', as the term pornography infers legitimacy), in this context, of course they don't. How they could potentially be used at a later date is more of a concern.

Evergreen17 · 09/09/2016 09:15

If you are concerned tell her nicely

RochelleGoyle · 09/09/2016 09:50

Yep, I agree with Evergreen17

BaronessEllaSaturday · 09/09/2016 10:03

depends a bit on the picture and the age of the child. A young child playing in a bubble bath where you know they are naked but can't actually see anything is a completely different issue to an 8 year old with everything visible.

Arseicle · 09/09/2016 10:09

If you feel strongly about it, just report the pictures to FB and they will remove them as it violates their policies.

There is a media row going on at the moment about FB removing the iconic picture of the naked girl in Vietnam running from a napalm attack, with FB being accused of over reaching censorship and an inability to distinguish between that kind of image and regular naked pics.

JellyBelli · 09/09/2016 10:09

You dont feel comfortable with it and neither would I.
Honestly? I'd report them to FB and block her. Thats ok for private family photos but FB isnt private no matter what your settings are.

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