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AIBU?

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To think my husbands work are cunts

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pleasemothermay1 · 08/09/2016 12:33

They now have a 6 week notice policey for Hoildays

We have adopted a baby and he won't be able to come to the celebration hearing as its in two weeks

They only sent me the letter today

They are cunts

He hardly ever takes time off pretty much always has time left at the end of the year as I am at home but I really want him to be at this Ffs Aibu

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Doobigetta · 08/09/2016 14:44

What a bunch of bastards. I bet that policy doesn't last- people are bound to just keep quiet and chuck sickies rather than risk their leave being refused.
I'm really sick of this race to the bottom employers seem to be set on now. This is still supposed to be a first world country. We shouldn't have to be so pathetically grateful for the few meagre crumbs of privilege they throw us that we just roll over and accept this kind of shit.

MothersGrim · 08/09/2016 14:51

Nyancat I have reported that post (not yours! The other one)

Dogcatred · 08/09/2016 14:52

Some employesr are very difficult. In our family most of us (senior mlawyers etc) get a reasonable amoutn of choie and we end up having to fit our family holidays around the least inflexible holiday (my son, postman) leave which my son has to book about 12 months in advance (although sometimes you can get a day out of school holidays no one wants or do a swap with someone)).

In this case it sounds like once the employer has seen the court hearing letter they might well give way on it and presumably if your husband has used all his leave he could request unpaid leave for the times of the hearing and does not need the whole day off.

OlennasWimple · 08/09/2016 14:55

Congratulations! And hopefully when your DH's employer understands what it is, they will grant the leave. Depending on the timing, he might only need to take a half day if he needs to offer a compromise?

Discobabe · 08/09/2016 15:00

If they say no yanbu, they are cunts. But they haven't yet.

Ginslinger · 08/09/2016 15:00

dontyoulovecalpol why are you being so rude and insensitive?

Dontyoulovecalpol · 08/09/2016 15:08

Er? Why is everyone giving me the biscuit? Nyancats post was lovely it made me want to cry just reading it. A forever family! It's so lovely! What on earth did you think I meant?

AndNowItsSeven · 08/09/2016 15:11

Mum no they can't celebrate in the weekend you attend court! Personally op I would tell work it was a necessary court appearance.

Rainatnight · 08/09/2016 15:18

Dont that's what I thought you meant. Like it made you all weepy.

Dontyoulovecalpol · 08/09/2016 15:23

Thanks rain, God only knows what else it could've meant! It's the sweetest thing I've read for ages. Forever family

MothersGrim · 08/09/2016 15:23

Sorry Dont - it seemed weirdly mean and sarcastic rather than lovely

Possibly because I read it through the eyes of a grumpy woman.

KittensDoNotLikeFluffyBlankets · 08/09/2016 15:25

Sorry Dont I thought you were being sarky!

Dontyoulovecalpol · 08/09/2016 15:31

I find it really weird that you both thought I was being sarky and nasty as your first thought.

KittensDoNotLikeFluffyBlankets · 08/09/2016 15:35

I think it was the capital letters Dont. Like you were shouting "CRY CRY CRY".

Ginslinger · 08/09/2016 15:37

sorry - my apologies, I thought you were being sarky - sorry.

trafalgargal · 08/09/2016 15:44

Has he actually asked for the time off yet ?

ineedamoreadultieradult · 08/09/2016 15:53

I would advice not referring to it as a celebration day when asking for thexample time off. I am completely unaware of most of how adoption works as I'm sure are a lot of people and in my work if you said you wanted time of for a celebration day you would likely be turned down. If you asked for time of for a court hearing you would more than likely get a yes.

redbronze1 · 08/09/2016 16:23

pleasemothermay YANBU. Any decent manager would allow him to attend since it's within 6 weeks and there has only just been a change in policy.

Anyway, congratulations on your adoption .

dailyarsewipe · 08/09/2016 18:41

I read it as sarcastic too, I think it was the capitals

user1471550453 · 09/09/2016 05:24

I would also suggest, if your DH can't get the time off, seeing if the court could do another date.

Congratulations!

HappenedForAReisling · 09/09/2016 05:51

neddle why the ?
Just because your DH works for a a shower of shit where annual leave is concerned doesn't mean the OP shouldn't be upset at her DH's deal.
I would have thought you would have been more sympathetic given that you are in a similar situation.

KeyserSophie · 09/09/2016 06:41

So basically his work has a general policy that 6 weeks notice for holiday is required but until after you started this thread, he hadnt actually asked them for an exception to be made, so you have no reason to call them cunts yet, as in all probability they will say yes.

Inertia · 09/09/2016 06:47

I think it needs to be put to his management that he is required to attend court proceedings as part of the adoption process, rather than naming it at the adoption celebration day.

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