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Original poster

To think this woman is a cliquey tw*t

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Kiddiewinks2008 · 06/09/2016 19:56

DS is friends with a group of boys who have known each other since nursery but DS has been mates with them all through school so far.
So we go into another year at primary and one of the mothers still goes on about DS being an imposter into the group, never invites him to anything, purposefully talks about how they have all been doing stuff together all summer in front of DS - she even started showing DS pics of a day trip out on her phone that they had all done.
Its really horrible and the same every year- none of the other kids parents are like this and DS has seen others seperately over the summer.
Aibu to say something? DS never says anything but I can see it hurts his feelings and makes him feel left out.

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Littlepeople12345 · 06/09/2016 19:58

I would have called her out on it when she was showing him the pictures. What a nasty bitch she is.

SoTheySentMeA · 06/09/2016 19:59

Someone needs to explain to her about children having feelings and that she's a fucking arsehole

junebirthdaygirl · 06/09/2016 19:59

What a horrible horrible woman. What is she playing at? You need to say something. I hope someone comes along with the exact words to put her in her place. Your poor ds.

SoTheySentMeA · 06/09/2016 20:00

Have you ever said anything about it to her?

icelollycraving · 06/09/2016 20:01

Are you there when she does this?
To be honest, if I saw someone do that, I would put them in their place straight away.

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Kiddiewinks2008 · 06/09/2016 20:02

No, but feel like i need to grow some and say something! I hate confrontation but finding it all very upsetting. Its like DS can never move away from 'not being in the nursery gang' label

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Kiddiewinks2008 · 06/09/2016 20:03

And yes, I have seen her do it

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CandyMcJingles · 06/09/2016 20:04

Tell your ds it says more about her than it does about him or his friends and she is best felt sorry for.
Don't let her wind you up, just pity her.

ArmySal · 06/09/2016 20:04

Angry She's a horrible dick, probably a right caah when she was at school herself.

QuiteLikely5 · 06/09/2016 20:05

How does she say he is an imposter?

icelollycraving · 06/09/2016 20:05

Can you imagine though how fucked her life must be to take pleasure in saying or doing that to a kid. Cow bag.

TrollTheRespawnJeremy · 06/09/2016 20:06

She is unhinged. The next time she says that in front of somebody I would laugh and then look very concerned and ask "Oh Im sorry, what exactly do you mean by that?"

Get her to explain her own twisted logic. She'll bury herself. Problem solved.

Seriously though OP- What a fucking dickhead. I'd have been hiding dirty nappies in her handbag for that kind of shite chat.

WinchesterWoman · 06/09/2016 20:07

Have an amazing party for no reason without her kid.

KingJoffreyLikesJaffaCakes · 06/09/2016 20:08

She needs to be WENDIED.

I wouldn't usually condone such behaviour but I feel that this time it's necessary.

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Kiddiewinks2008 · 06/09/2016 20:09

Shes actually said to me in a kind of passive aggressive way things like 'oh he's fitted in well' and kind of jokingly 'ah, hes the imposter in the group' etc

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Kiddiewinks2008 · 06/09/2016 20:10

Its the photo thing in front of DS & talking about the good times they have had that upset me the most though

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Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 06/09/2016 20:12

She's an exclusive cunting bully.
I bet she was one of those who had children terrified to come into school.

dayswithaY · 06/09/2016 20:15

How old are the boys? I think I would snort with laughter and say "but that was years ago! Who can remember that far back?" She just feels threatened by you that's all.

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Kiddiewinks2008 · 06/09/2016 20:16

They are 9- thats what I mean about the label- its ages ago but DS has never been left to forget it and has always been made to feel the outsider

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mineofuselessinformation · 06/09/2016 20:20

What Troll said, but without the 'I'm sorry' in the front. Call her on it.
My guessing is she'll back down at a million miles an hour.
If she doesn't, then she will have shown her true colours. (Tbh, I can't see her justifying it, what possible reason could she give?)

senua · 06/09/2016 20:21

she even started showing DS pics of a day trip out on her phone that they had all done.

All? Can you raise the matter with the other parents so they can keep you in the loop for the next time. CliqueMum has probably spun them story that you declined to go.

You could casually warn them mention that it might be their turn to be snubbed if she takes against them.

Tricorne · 06/09/2016 20:23

Good grief what a poisonous bully. Maybe next time say something like "blimey you REALLY do hang onto the dim and distant past don't you. I do hope you stop by the time your DS goes to uni, it's really not healthy..."

RaeSkywalker · 06/09/2016 20:27

I don't think leaving her child out is the answer, but I would be having a quiet word and asking her to stop. I'm non-confrontational too and would probably play it like "I'm sure you don't even realise you're doing it, but when you say x, it makes DS and I feel y". Keep it factual if you can.

... But yes, she's a nasty nasty woman Sad

Bantanddec · 06/09/2016 20:29

I hope she's on this forum and reads this, it might make her take a long hard look at herself and realise what a cruel heartless cow she really is.

WankingMonkey · 06/09/2016 20:30

Thought people grew out of bullying when then became adults. What a horrendous bitch she sounds, especially towards a child. No advice, as what I would probably do will get me flamed here and would also start a bunfight and I already KNOW its not good advice Blush