I have refused to go on a course on DS's birthday
MamaGrr · 02/02/2007 10:21
Work want me to go on a course in London on DS's 3rd birthday - 9.00am until 5.30pm and I live in Cumbria!
I have refused to go.
I don't actually think I'm being unreasonable, although my boss did a face but I really wnated to post a thread in this subject
MamaGrr · 02/02/2007 10:32
s'funny dejags, I was considering taking a day's holiday on his birthday - I didn't last year and regretted it, but I don't get much holiday entitlement as I am part time and we get the Tuesdays after bank holidays off and have to tkae those days from our annual entitlement.
Might call in sick
Caligula · 02/02/2007 10:34
I think it's a little unreasonable tbh.
Unless the course can be very easily arranged for another day.
If it was your DS's first birthday, fair enough. But after the first, birthdays are just a part of life and shouldn't necessarily take priority over work unless it's a really special big one like your parent's seventieth or something like that.
Just my opinion, I wouldn't go to the barricades about it. Enjoy your DS's birthday.
dmo · 02/02/2007 10:42
i've booked the day off for my nieces first birthday
my boys are 9 and 10 i'm so lucky that they are summer babies so are off school on their birthdays wouldnt send them to school on their birthday
dh and i are always off on their birthdays and we go out for the day or were abroad
Hulababy · 02/02/2007 10:42
If you can do the course at another time, then I can't see what the problem is TBH. Not unreasonable to want to be home on time any night, let alone on your little one's birthday!
I have only had to work once on DD's birthday so far - her third also. Couldn't take day off as I was a teacher at the time. So, as she knew no better, me "moved" her birthday to the day before - my day off and DH had day off also, and we wnet out as a family together for the day. She's had her party at the weekend anyway, so was a bit clueless regarding what day was what anyway. DD was at PILs the day I worked, her real birthday, and I made them promise to not tell her!
DrunkenSailor · 02/02/2007 10:46
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Blu · 02/02/2007 10:49
If it was an important course I would be pretty unimpressed if a member of my staff refused to go because of a child's birthday. But if it was 'take it or leave it' and easily re-arranged without disruption to the organisation I would be flexible about it. Also - does it contribute to your professional debvelopment?
And Emmylou's pov does kind of demonstrate a little why women don't always progress as fast as men in their careers.
Work / life balance and all that - i am an extremely supportive employer, but children have to go to school on b'days, we work on b'days...where does it stop?
EmmyLou · 02/02/2007 13:19
Just to defend my rather flaky pov: my DH runs his own business, is abroad for months on end and has missed far more birthdays of our 3 DDs than he has seen. Because of this, I feel it is my job to put the children first, be there on birthdays etc. Think I would prob feel differently when back at work in a job I valued - or if I knew DH was around.
piglit · 02/02/2007 13:25
MamaGrr - you did what you think is right for you and your ds. I think you were absolutely right - I would hate to be away from my dses for their whole birthday and I know they would hate me being away. Some people think birthdays are important, some people don't - that's just the way it is. I always make a fuss of my family and friends on their birthdays.
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