AIBU to consider killing DH?

[AWishAndADream]

DH has a chocolate obsession. We've been together 4 years and I've never not know him go a day without eating it. He really doesn't care what kind, he'll eat it if it's chocolate.

It's one of the most annoying things about him because when he wants it he will eat whatever he can find, even if it's mine or DDs.

I've tried several things to keep chocolate to myself as I don't eat it everyday and neither does DD; a tin that all the chocolate in is mine and DDs which he's not allowed to touch or eat, setting an allowance for chocolate weekly within our budget which he always spends, and even buying a limited amount of chocolate each day and giving him that. Nothing works.

So we made the rule that he could eat anything available in the supermarket locally but he had to replace it, including going to the shop and buying it himself out of his own money. This seemed to be working.

Until today.

A friend of my mums has just come back from Florida and she went to Harry Potter World. I hardly know the woman but she brought back a chocolate frog for my daughter, which I was extremely grateful as I wasn't expecting it. I was given it after my DD was in bed so put the frog in the cupboard to be given to her tomorrow and the next day and the next day after that and the next day after that. I told DH it was DDs and he was not to eat it.

Guess what he's gone and eaten? The chocolate frog. Grr

I'm gutted, apparently we had no other chocolate in and he didn't want to wake DD to go to the shop to get some. I was working until 9.15pm (home at 9.30).

AIBU to kill him and his chocolate obsession once and for all?

Sorry meant to come back.

DD is only a toddler, nearly 2, so doesn't have much concept of what's hers but I was more pissed off that he ate the chocolate given as a gift. If he'd text me id have happily picked some chocolate up from the 24hr Tesco on my way home from work which he could of had when I got back.

Those saying I have control issues are wrong. I tried to keep a stash of chocolate for me and for when I fancied giving DD a bit that he wasn't supposed to eat. He ate this, so it was this I was making him replace from his own money. And by own money I mean we both get a small amount of money each week once the bills are paid and there's some money saved for DD and our buffer. Should I just stop keeping chocolate in because he can't control himself?

He is not lacking anything as far as I know. We have a good relationship in other aspects; we kiss, cuddle and are intimate regularly.

He is an ex smoker but when he gave up smoking he wasn't this bad with chocolate. It started this badly just after DD was born (he gave up smoking when we got together 4 years ago). He's worse when I'm out the house at work (I work 7-9pm 6 days a week) so assume its something to do with comfort eating and missing me, as I put DD to bed at 6.30, then leave for work at 6.45 (she needs to be up at 6am to get to Nursery for 7.30 as I also work 8-12 every morning) so he's alone for a few hours.

Just because he's alone for a few hours doesn't mean he has to comfort eat. That in itself doesn't sound that stressful.

If he'd text me id have happily picked some chocolate up from the 24hr Tesco on my way home from work which he could of had when I got back.
It's "could have".

I had a twat of a boyfriend who used to eat chocolate like your DH. He took chocolate off my toddler niece and ate it in front of her. He never bought his own chocolate and used to nag me to go and get him chocolate from the shop. Dull cow here used to.

I got quite clever hiding it for later enjoyment though. After I dumped him, other reasons not just the chocolate one, I decided to wash a decorative lidded dish. Inside was half a bar of Aero I had hidden from him, it must have been there 6 months plus. It was the best piece of chocolate I had tasted and it was all mine.

It's "could have"

Gosh, you're clever!

AWish - I doubt that it's because he's missing you for a couple of hours, more eating through boredom!
And in all honesty it doesn't matter how old your DD is (except from her point of view at the moment) because she'll notice soon enough (Ds2 notices, and he's 3) so it needs to be stopped NOW before she does start to notice.

Ask him what wad going through his mind at the time. Then just wait without commenting, while he thinks about that. If he isn't ashamed, then tbh you sound like you might have a bigger problem than just chocolate with him. Actually it sounds like that already. He should slso probably have his blood sugar checked.

Greedy fucker!

The mug is wrong or at least incomplete. Affect can also be a noun and effect can also be a verb. I would have to smash your mug although I may be on the wrong thread for that.

I love the mug and want to know where I can buy one.

Agreed!

Little Lion,

Just type it out, print it out, and laminate it.

Stick on fridge or use as a menu at mealtimes. Sorted.

LOL.

You can buy Harry Potter chocolate frogs on Ebay, you can also buy chocolate laxatives on Ebay. I'd be getting both, replacing your DD's frog and popping the laxative chocolate in a place he'll nick it. What a knob.

He's not in a whimsical children's story. He's a selfish tosser who literally took sweets from a child because he clearly believes he has more right to them than her.

He sounds selfish.

rosesarered9 Well are'nt you the clever one?

Pulling up a grown woman over her spealling. Nice way to try and belittle her.

My DH is obsessed with chocolate but would never take some that was designated for me or DS. That's just being a walker.

Bloody auto-correct. Should say wanker!