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Original poster

to think it's odd that dd pretended she had cut her knee?

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sarahp12 · 05/09/2016 00:47

dh and i have different views on this, dh thinks its very much just childish behaviour.

dd is 6. teacher came to us at the end of friday (i feel so bad that there is already something the teacher needs to talk to me about! very awkward indeed) that dd had drawn over her knee in red pen (she wears tights) and when teacher noticed it when they were on the floor, as thats where they all sit when teacher talks, she asked if that was pen or blood on her knee dd said blood so teacher asked her to wait for a bit before going out to break as she wants to take her to the medical lady, medical lady asked dd to remove tights so dd did and medical lady pointed out it was pen and dd kept insisting it wasnt? nothing really happened and dd went back to class and they didnt say any more to dd until teacher spoke to me at the end of the day. i asked dd and she says she only wanted a plaster!! is this just a regular kid? dh thinks so im a bit more on the edge thinking its a bit extrme

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222CherryCoke · 05/09/2016 00:51

Regular kid. Her teacher asked her an either / or question, she chose the option that might get her some attention / a plaster, and then maybe she felt she couldn't back down from the lie.

No big deal. Your concern does seem really disproportionate.

paxillin · 05/09/2016 01:03

Perfectly normal. Bit cheeky to stick to the story when clearly rumbled perhaps. But a plaster is almost as good a a "I bumped my head" sticker. Have a little chat about not lying, especially about injuries (crying wolf and all that) .

ColdTeaAgain · 05/09/2016 01:11

Maybe she saw another child in the class get a plaster and she wanted one too. She was just being a normal silly and cheeky six year old. Just remind her not to fib, and don't worry about it.

PerspicaciaTick · 05/09/2016 01:31

Perfectly normal.

At that age, my whole class were involved in creating some impressive bruises using pencil, revolting skin diseases using PVA glue and "bloody" plasters out of red pen and bog roll. A sort of primary-aged zombie invasion.

UnderseaPineapple · 05/09/2016 01:32

Plasters are coveted by small children. Coveted.
If one of my children cut themselves and got a plaster, the others wanted one too.

kali110 · 05/09/2016 01:33

Your dh is right

NeedsAsockamnesty · 05/09/2016 01:34

3 of my kids would swear that orange squash is brain fluid falling out of their heads for a blue plaster

AnnaMarlowe · 05/09/2016 01:38

Perhaps now is a good time to remind DD of the Peter and the Wolf story.

blinkowl · 05/09/2016 01:48

Does your DD do other things like this, or is this a one-off?

If it's a one off then like the others say, nothing to worry about, kids love plasters!

But if she does stuff like this all the time then maybe worth keeping an eye on.

I'm seeing the Doctor this week to discuss a whole range of concerns I have about 7yo DS that I think may add up to something along the lines of ASD or ADD.

One of them is that he seems to have trouble distinguishing reality and fantasy. When he was younger we were delighted he had such a vivid imagination, but now he's older it's becoming an issue, and he does what you describe in your OP- stand and say bare faced lies but seems to really believe them.

However that in itself wouldn't have been a major cause for concern for me on its own, if he was just making stuff up I'd probably think he had an active imagination and would probably grow out of it at some point. But it's one part of a bigger picture / collection of issues.

Is this is the tip if the iceberg and there are other things causing you concern? Or is it a one off, in which case please don't worry, kids do weird shit!

iamapixiebutnotaniceone · 05/09/2016 01:52

My daughter will do anything for a bumped head sticker. She loves the attention, poor attention starved child that she is 😂

TheFirie · 05/09/2016 02:11

I think she might just have been caught in a lie.
She painted her leg (out of boredom or whatever) and when the teacher asked if she had painted it or it was blood, she said blood to avoid getting in trouble and then had to keep up the story.

LuchiMangsho · 05/09/2016 03:33

Mine limped around school all day one day. He had a tiny cut, so tiny it was invisible. The teacher told me to take him to the GP because he was in 'obvious pain'. When I asked him why he was limping be said, 'so everyone knows how poorly I am' and made a sad face. Both the teacher and I had to suppress our giggles because he was as far from poorly as possible. It is around this age that they become a bit fascinated with blood/hurt/plasters and will argue red is blue. If I was the teacher I would have used this to talk about what blood is like, why it flows/clots/veins/arteries and turned into a mini science lesson ignoring the nonsense.

ParkingLottie · 05/09/2016 04:07

I attempted to put my arm in plaster using those little plaster of Paris model making kits....

pleasemothermay1 · 05/09/2016 04:08

Dispite popular belief children make things up , exaggerate or lie

My dd told me that dd2 crept into her room an nither last night dd2 is 14 months

Saracen · 05/09/2016 05:13

Totally normal. I remember doing that sort of thing occasionally as a child, and so have other children I've known more recently. (Dd's 6yo friend recently spent the entire afternoon with us with her arm in a homemade sling because it was "broken". She gave extensive detail to anyone who asked.) I also remember quite clearly that I would never ever back down from a lie once I had committed to it, no matter how ridiculous it was proved to be.

CaoNiMao · 05/09/2016 05:32

Kid stuff.

When I was a kid, I feigned a tummy ache so I could sit outside the head's office (weird, but that's what they did at my primary school!). The head came out and asked what was wrong with me. I said "tummy ache", but she misheard as "toothache" and said "Oh - which tooth?" I pointed to a molar!

EarthboundMisfit · 05/09/2016 05:51

Normal!

KeyserSophie · 05/09/2016 06:06

I think it's normal

We call DD (5) Hillary because she has issues with "misspeaking" . I also remember lying a lot at that age.

My friend's brother told the teacher he'd lost his contact lenses in the pool. The pool guy spent all day with a net trying to find them. He didnt even wear contact lenses and still tried to maintain the story to his own parents! he's grown up perfectly fine (and no longer a pathological liar)

IsThisYourSanderling · 05/09/2016 06:13

I used to fake injury all the time at that age for a whole myriad of reasons and often just on a whim. It made my day more interesting, got me a wee bit of extra attention, sometimes allowed me indoor time when I didn't feel like standing in a chilly playground. I'd say it's normal. Don't think anything of it. (I no longer do this, by the way. Still occasionally did it up till age twelve though!)

VioletBam · 05/09/2016 06:14

I once put a fine powdering of talc on my face so well that my Mum gave me a day off! She was shocked at my pale face and genuinely worried I was anaemic or something!

CheerfulYank · 05/09/2016 06:48

I made up an allergy (to chalk ) and a little brother when I was 9. I told everyone. I'm normal...I think...

TheLastRoseOfSummer · 05/09/2016 06:55

It is normal, however, something you want to discourage.

I would also remind her of the story of The Boy Who Cried Wolf. Perhaps act it out as a role play where she is The Boy, you are The Wolf and Daddy is The Villagers.

Because it is also something you want to discourage. But sometimes just telling children isn't enough, which is why I suggested the role play.

SavoyCabbage · 05/09/2016 07:04

She was faced with two options. One which might get her into trouble for drawing on her leg and the other one which would not get into trouble and may get her a plaster into the bargain. The teacher had already admitted to your dd that she couldn't tell if the injury was real or drawn on so she went for the option that was not going to get her into trouble.

Not only is your dd totally normal but she's not daft either.

gamerwidow · 05/09/2016 07:15

Completely normal at least she's not making up an illness and making you come home from work to get her like my Dd (6) last year. We had very strong words about that bit of make believe.
Being able to lie is actually quite an important social skill so it's a good if annoying sign of normal development.

rockyroad3 · 05/09/2016 07:21

Completely normal. I did loads of these things right up until the end of primary school I have no idea why I did it either!

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