To want someone to back off,(OH)after I've repeatedly asked them !

[MisDescamisados]

Short vent.
Man are so bloody fond of being in charge that they'll leap on anything and call it concern.

I have catarrh . Please don't suggest "cures" as a quick Google will inform you that for most of us , they are of little use .

Anyway, I cope with it. So I don't appreciate that "look" whenever I cough, because some idiot man - namely OH - saw a lung cancer infomercial.

I've never smoked , I'm not asthmatic, I'm never short of breath.....I just have year round allergies which generate snot, to be blunt .

But when I ask him to stop snooping around my health what do I get , from "Mr concerned "?
No a respectful " ok", but just a self exculpatory "it's just because I care".

No mate , you're taking charge , and I'm not a minor , so back off

Wow. Can't blame him for being irritated with you. I am irritated just reading this post. YABU.

Portia here here!!

LTB - that way you'll both be happy.

I'm not liking some of the less supportive posts on here, as I feel for OP. She says she's tried everything & had all the tests, which she later listed ! However, that is what mumsnet AIBU thread is for, to hear different views & see what the majority think.

I personally don't think she's BU and understand her frustration. It's horrible to have someone nipping at you constantly when it's a health problem that has been investigated and so far, can't be fixed.

We all know snorers who can't help it , & have tried everything, which isn't so different. Or asthmatic people who wheeze & cough through the night. OP was only venting on here, so that she didn't get cross with him in person.

I had an XH who drove me (quietly & patiently) to exhaustion with his loud snoring & love of insisting on waking me up to chat after I'd gone to bed, but he couldn't quietly tolerate a couple years (early on) of my being in pain & unable to lift much after a major car accident.

I think OP is just feeling her OH's response is not as patient, kind nor supportive as hers is to him. I'm sure if he put his concern in a way which felt more understanding & helpful, she'd not feel belittled which is what she's essentially saying. Anyway, that's my little tuppence worth of support for OP xx

Have to agree you, Whereismumhiding2.

YANBU OP.