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Handmade gift for christening. AIBU for not doing?

246 replies

Carrados · 02/09/2016 10:10

Christening next week for 6mo. Parents have requested handmade gifts for DD.

Clearly they want lots of unique and personalised gifts for their DD, which is lovely. But I'm shit at crafts and also find the request a bit Hmm. If I was to go for it, I really would turn up with something monumentally shit that would get chucked away, and would be a waste of my time and effort.

I suggested to DD's mother, my friend, that I bring something else and she choked through the words 'something shop bought is fine' and 'precious DD has everything she needs'. Clearly it's not.

AIBU to think cheeky, ungrateful fuckers?!

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ParadiseCity · 02/09/2016 13:10

Or, on the Big Bang Theory one of the couples had some sort of shag on canvas art kit. Seeing as the parents weren't kind enough to invite you to the conception maybe you and your DP could reenact it according to your imagination, wearing masks of the lovely parents, film it, and give the canvas as your present, along with the film on memory stick to be watched on baby's birthdays, an expression of love and new life.

lazyarse123 · 02/09/2016 13:42

HoggyTruffle That is terrifying, They are cheeky fuckers. They'll be lucky to get anything.

LunaLoveg00d · 02/09/2016 13:45

I do love crafting and do usually knit baby blankets or shawls but it it HUGELY unreasonable to start putting conditions on gifts.

As I was taught when growing up, you'll get what you're given and be grateful.

TooDamnNosyy · 02/09/2016 14:00

Have you seen friends... the one where monica n chandler make handmade gifts for each other? make her the sock bunny GrinGrinGrinGrin

PurpleCrazyHorse · 02/09/2016 14:44

When our children were dedicated, we specifically said there was no need for gifts, our choice to get them dedicated and we were delighted some friends and family came to participate. We bought everyone lunch too.

Handmade gifts can be lovely but they are either expensive to buy (rightly so) or take talent and ages. I might choose to make a handmade gift, and have done for some friends and family, but I don't always.

Personally, I'd get my two DCs to make a card and I'd buy something on Etsy. If they weren't close friends, I'd simply decline to attend.

sashh · 02/09/2016 14:54

I actually gave some raw materials as a christening gift for the child to have a piece of jewelry made when she is 18.

Could you do that? A small jar with some broken jewelry or some silver findings and a card for a local jeweler of a post card of Birmingham's Jewellery quarter with promise to take her when she is older.

www.palmermetals.co.uk/shop/sterling-silver-findings.html

swisschocolate · 02/09/2016 19:24

We will elect pictures of the final item

swisschocolate · 02/09/2016 19:24

Not elect- expect

We will expect pictures of the final item

Kungfupandaworksout16 · 02/09/2016 19:49

I wouldn't recommend buying something and claiming it as yours. You think you give a jumper they love it, their friends love it and ask where it's from and say you! You'll have too learn how to knit Grin

Alconleigh · 02/09/2016 20:36

This has horrifies me (although some of the suggestions for revenge are gold). I would seriously just not go. And not just because I would no more hand make a gift than I would fly to the moon, but because of the sheer hideous effrontery of dictating what sort of gift is acceptable.

glueandstick · 02/09/2016 20:39

No sew fleece blanket. Get a printed bit of fleece from Etsy or a fabric shop and then look on Pinterest. Essentially you cut a fringe and tie it. Half hour, job done.

BawbagBiggins · 02/09/2016 22:18

Hand write the Bible into a scrap book

Hockeydude · 02/09/2016 22:33

Absolutely loads of personalised christening gifts on Notonthehighstreet.com - many items handmade by small sellers
I wouldn't hand make a gift as I don't like doing that sort of thing and am crap at it. Really rude request but can be sorted by the website above which has a christening section.

CheckpointCharlie2 · 02/09/2016 22:38

Haven't RTFT but for my godson I stuck the following in a shoe box: paper from the day he was born, cd single and album from the week he was born and a quiz asking questions about pop acts, prime minister etc from the time around when he was born and a card promising to give him money to fund the cost of a night out for his 18th.

But they are well rude so I might not bother tbh....

Purplealienpuke · 03/09/2016 17:52

Hand made card.....
Money's short,
Times are hard,
Here's your fucking christening card!!!! 😆

Trifleorbust · 03/09/2016 17:54

So cheeky, unbelievable.

Aquahol1 · 03/09/2016 18:06

I am one of those crafty types that does this sort of thing as standard. If it was specified in this way though I think I'd find the noisiest & most annoying plastic toy possible and give them that.. Did that when 'wooden toys only' was specified for my nephews first Christmas. We opened it together and he loved it 😊

Cary2012 · 03/09/2016 18:12

I like the naming a star idea suggested.

I knit, and often knit baby shawls and blankets, but it's the time involved that many people under estimate. I enjoy knitting but hate having a deadline to meet! I give knitted things as presents, and if I was asked to make something as a gift, I wouldn't do it.

I hate the assumption of expecting a gift, then to dictate about that gift is a step too far.

Some of the suggestions here are so funny, I'd love to be a fly on the wall if the OP got creative with them!

thegosling · 03/09/2016 18:30

I wouldn't go to the Christening and I'd strike this person off my friend's list ASAP.

Notmuchtosay1 · 03/09/2016 18:33

Sorry if it's been said. But you could hand paint a money box? Might look like a 3 year old has painted it though. But so what!

Mycraneisfixed · 03/09/2016 18:36

Don't bother to make or buy anything. Just get a card and put it with the other cards and crap homemade presents.

squoosh · 03/09/2016 19:28

Cheeky fuckers.

I'd shove the parents' heads in the baptismal font.

squoosh · 03/09/2016 19:29

And they probably think they're so much more worthy than everyone else. What kid of tacky wanker requests gifts for a bloody christening?

alfagirl73 · 03/09/2016 19:35

Can I just say, that some of the ideas suggested in this thread have utterly made my day! Absolutely PRICELESS!

I think they have an absolute cheek not only asking for presents but insisting that they be handmade. Not everyone enjoys or is talented at handmade crafts, and certainly not everyone has time!

I'd seriously pay money to watch their faces with some of the ideas on here though - first class guys! Hilarious!

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