To not want to lend her money

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A neighbour who i would loosely call a friend asked to borrow £100. The background is she has 2 kids, and is moving and supposedly has a van coming to pick up heavy stuff tomorrow. Her partner is on the scene on and off and according to her does not contribute financially. She has in the past asked for childcare and but never offered to look after mine. I looked after her kids around 3 times. Once i was asked to look after them so that her DP can go play football on the weekend to which i said no and which pissed me off quite a bit as i work during the week and have no family to help out so it felt like she's taking the piss.

I could lend it to her but i'm resentful because she isnt really a friend and over the time i know her i felt she's always asking for things not giving much back.

Got a text saying she exhausted any other venues, noone else can help her so please could i lend the money. Talk about guilt tripping and pilling on the pressure. Said no, it's not a good month so i can't. She texted back asking if she could borrow till this friday.

It feels mean but WIBU to say no?

Don't lend money. You just have to read all the threads on here to realise it's a terrible idea.

Stand your ground. Just say no, you don't have it.

Also if she has exhausted all other avenues then maybe she has form for borrowing money and not paying it back. Not saying that is the case but I wouldn't risk it.

Just say no?

"No, sorry, I can't afford to lend it to you, even until Friday."

Neighbour, moving, not really a friend. You will NEVER see that money again if you gave it to her. Just keep saying no.

Why can't people believe it when they're told you can't afford it? As if they change the goalposts and your purse suddenly prints out the needed cash. Do not feel badly for saying no.

You'll not see a penny of that again. She is a user. No sorry I don't have it to spare.

Just say I am really sorry, I just don't have it to lend.

Nope. She's moving anyway, so you'll be neighbours no more and she sounds like the type you'll probably not hear much from once she is gone. No great loss.

She's got a moving van for £100? That seems very cheap.

No way! You'll never get it back!

You've already said no you can't and she's asked you to borrow the money from somewhere for her?! What bloody cheek!

Just continue to say no, she'll be gone soon thankfully, cheeky mare!

You've already said no-I don't understand why she is asking again!!

You will never see that money again! The fact that no one else will lend it to her speaks volumes.

YANBU. She has form for being a user and since she's moving you'd never see her or the money again. Just keep repeating that you can't afford it. On the plus side since she's moving soon you won't have to deal with her anymore.

Stick to your guns and continue saying no.

Would you like to give her £100 cash as a leaving gift? If not, stick with no.

Neither a borrower nor a lender be.

If you're willing to risk never having it repaid then you could consider it. Based on what you've said about her I would say no. She sounds grabby and a bit selfish and as she's moving away (from your immediate vicinity I presume) I wouldn't be too worried about pissing her off. Her costs are not your responsibility.

Tell her sorry but no. You would do anything to help her out. Shes been such a brilliant neighour, but you cant give what you don't have. Even if you have thousands under your mattress.

Shes moving. You wont see it again.

I wonder why no one else can help

Just say no, not even till Friday, you don't have it. If you do give it to her you won't see it again!

You'll need to be another exhausted avenue, she should have budgeted better.

'Sorry, no. I don't have money to lend.'

Because you may as well throw £100 out a window. You will never see it again.

Like fuck will she pay it back.

I really do despise financially incontinent adults.