Person A has one child (6 yrs)
Person B has 3 children (5, 6 & 9)
A & B are in a LTR, living together, blended family.
A & B took the dc swimming today - all dc have swimming lessons and are on different levels of ability. They can all swim though. B is a great swimmer. A cannot swim.
In the pool A is hanging around the edge whilst B is mostly playing with dc. A goes on flumes etc with dc while B waits at the bottom to make sure they are ok.
Once established that dc are ok they are allowed to go on the flume by themselves - I. E walk up the stairs, queue. At the bottom of the flume it doesn't go into a pool - it just slides to a halt with about 10am water.
So, A is hanging around the edge. B playing with own youngest dc. Other 3 are on flume . After each go they go on again.
A goes to toilet, calls out to B but B doesn't hear. A goes anyway.
A comes back to find B in the deep end with own 3 dc. A's dc comes off flume, spots B in the deep end, calls out to B who doesn't hear. Child jumps in. All this happens before A's eyes but A is too far away.
A runs over, screams out to B whilst pulling struggling dc from the water. Lifeguard comes over but A already has dc.
During all of this B - who is a couple of feet away - hears and sees nothing except own dc.
A & B are cross with each other for different reasons.
A thinks B should have been more aware of all the dc coming off the flume and not just own. Two of Bs dc had just come off flume and into pool with B - was obvious that As child would follow
B thinks A was wrong to go to toilet and assumed that because A and child were not with B that A and child were together.
In fairness it was lucky that A came back at that point as the child could have gotten into real trouble in the water.
Who do you think is in the wring here?
I know it's daft to do all this A&B stuff but just wanted to show the scenario really.
You could probably guess which one I am but I will fess up in a bit.