Just because I can BF anywhere doesn't mean I will.

[elodie2000]

I've been following the 'chucked out of west end show for BF' thread with interest.
It's legal to BF pretty much everywhere but I wondered where others avoid feeding or even taking their baby?

I wouldn't take my baby to
The theatre (adult only show) 😉
Loud music Concert
Nandos near me (and similar stuffy, smelly, overcrowded, dirty restaurants.)
Public toilets
Exam hall
Staff meeting/presentation

I wouldn't BF
in moving car
at side of swimming pool
at the side of a motorway
In a salon whilst having my hair/ nails done.

Basically, anywhere I myself wouldn't usually eat food, or dirty, noisy, smelly or overcrowded places. Adult or particularly formal places.

IABU to think that despite the law, just because you can doesn't automatically mean you should?

But there are places people shouldn't feed such as in a toilet or in unsafe locations, regardless of breast or bottle. Then there are personal preferences for where someone would or wouldn't feed. I wouldn't feed at the hairdressers but others would. It is personal choice. No one has said "oh you shouldn't feed at the hairdressers".

Sorry, I'll rephrase. Why would it be on anyone's mind where they would or wouldn't feed. If your baby needs feeding, feed them ffs.

Would you breastfeed them
in a house?
Would you breastfeed them
with a mouse?

I do not breastfeed them,
Sam-I-am

Oh everyone got in there first. Bastards.

Anyway op, you probably will. Because when a baby is crying you just want them to stfu.

MyCat Very true! Haha!

Sorry but I ain't buying this "oopsy I meant all types of feeding" when OP only mentioned BF in her OP.

And I think this is kinda judgey -

IABU to think that despite the law, just because you can doesn't automatically mean you should?

Like I say if the tables were turned and a BFer was commenting about how people shouldn't bottle feed you'd hear the sound of pitch forks being sharpened!

Oh and here's my poem contribution for the sake of not de-railing too much:

There was a young mother from Leith
Who breastfed on a sunny heath
She screamed out in pain
Again and again
As it turns out - baby's grown teeth

Pinky Here's some for you!

The original post was about BF initially because it was a follow on from another thread. It's hard to see if you didn't read that one first. I should have included all methods from the start but didn't.
Enough people get that my motives weren't so that's ok!

The are for Pinky's excellent poem by the way before anyone else kicks off!!

Sorry OP I had thought I'd read the thread but had missed the bottle fed thing, hence me asking. I care not how you chose to feed your baby. I just find it odd you would refer specifically to BF in the title. It seems goady especially so now I realise you have not done it. Surely you knew how this thread was going to go?

When I was pregnant I thought I would breastfed in set places mainly due to thinking I would get comments if feeding openly in public and that is the sad state of affairs of BF in this country. As it happened once DS arrived I didn't care I breastfed on demand. That included in the supermarket, in the car (although only in motion in a taxi) on a bus, on a train basically anywhere DS wanted a feed. There is no where I wouldn't feed him. There are places I wouldn't choose to feed him if I had a choice but that choice isn't always there.

I get that you wanted something lighthearted but you don't get it or you would have put your "correct" title from the start.

*I wouldn't BF
in moving car
at side of swimming pool
at the side of a motorway
In a salon whilst having my hair/ nails done.

Basically, anywhere I myself wouldn't usually eat food, or dirty, noisy, smelly or overcrowded places. Adult or particularly formal places.*

But this is all hypothetical. How can you know where you might not breastfeed even if you had , which you didn't.
Breastfeeding often happens in unplanned places at unplanned times. And may well be in a dirty, noisy or overcrowded place.

IABU to think that despite the law, just because you can doesn't automatically mean you should?*

And in answer to your question- yes you are being totally unreasonable.

But I wouldn't feed in a moving car, in or at the side of a swimming pool, while getting my hair or nails done, somewhere dirty/smelly or somewhere that is typically an adults only space where a baby wouldn't be allowed (e.g., a nightclub, day spa, etc).

Others might want to feed in those places, I wouldn't tell them they couldn't but - if asked my opinion, as is the case here - I'd say that I personally wouldn't feed my baby there.

persiancatlady if the manager of a swimming pool put up such a poster in Scotland, he/she could be arrested by the police
The way that I have read the legislation also makes it perfectly clear that should a woman start BF in a swimming pool in England she does have the right to sue you if you ask her to stop.

This makes me think that putting up this poster is a bit pointless as it cannot compel you not to do something that you have a legal right to do.

I have breastfed in a swimming pool several times.

am I right in thinking that asking a lady to stop BF or asking her to move is a civil offence in England but a criminal offence in Scotland?

Yes that's correct pinky.

Lemon- There are places I wouldn't choose to feed him if I had a choice but that choice isn't always there.

I'm understanding a lot more about BF from posters on this thread.
As mine were bottle fed there was less urgency by far! I'd feed them by the clock which is completely different to feeding 'on demand'.
I knew that if they had a feed I'd have a good 4 hours until they needed feeding again so it was easy for me to plan my day as it were.
Babies are all different as are feeding styles!

Thanks to all the lovely posters who got the point and here's a and a for anyone out there who is struggling with a persecution complex. Chill out, not everyone is out to get you.

I fed mine at the hairdressers, it was that or not get my roots done . I asked staff beforehand if they were ok with DD coming with me and they were very welcoming. What's the problem?

So have I, user.