To wear bright pink to a boys christening

[Slinkydog77]

Hi all, this is my first post and it's a tad pathetic I'm afraid.

DP and I have been invited to a christening today, I've been looking forward to it since we got the invitation in May. We don't get invited to many things as we don't have many friends.

The hosts are one of DP's colleagues and his wife whom I have met very briefly at another christening a couple of years ago.
I got our outfits out last weekend and hung them on the door frame. DM visited, saw the outfits and commented that whilst they were lovely they were 'very pink'.

I am wearing a cerise dress with matching shoes & bag, DP is wearing a 3 piece grey suit with a striped grey & cerise tie. So DM is right, I am very pink, right down to finger and toenail polish. The christening is for a boy and I'm just wondering if there is a colour etiquette for these things. I've googled briefly but can't find anything.

Appreciate your help/advice

Slinky

Glad you had a great time - I bet you looked stunning!

Your style is your style - bugger everybody else (except don't wear clown shoes to a funeral, or show the crack of your bum if you're invited to the Palace - it's just common courtesy not to deliberately offend people, but you've demonstrated that you would never do that).

And thank you, thank you, thank you for the delightful expression "Bucket of crushed arseholes". I shall treasure it always.

Reading it back...... Hahaha! I would never say that in public.

In all honesty about the scoring system though, if such a thing does exist I'd probably struggle to get half a point! Outfit aside I've had tonsurephobia for 15 years so I am a bit akin to cousin it from the Addams family I won't even go into the state of my eyebrows and top lip ha ha.

But still, it's not nice to judge or feel judged.

It costs nothing to smile, enjoy life and the wonderful people around us.

Even if life is dealing you lemons, stick a gin, tonic & ice in it and carry on

I'm sure the vast majority of people don't go around "marking people down" for clothing choices, even if it's not to their taste, except in the most extreme of examples.

Extreme examples being stuff like a clown outfit at a funeral or clothes that show your arse to the queen, not ordinary everyday stuff like accessories matching your dress.

I hosted a family celebration yesterday, similar to a christening . I had 40 guests and I have to confess that I don't remember what any of them wore

Everyone looked appropriate for the occasion, otherwise I guess I woudl have noticed . All I cared about was that we had a lovely time, everything went smoothly and we got to spend time with family and friends we love .

I remember the conversations I had with people and those who helped me out with the food and drink; being happy seeing everyone chatting , the kids playing and the teenagers being with each other and not on their phones for once .

I remember enryone who complimented the food / house/ weather/ company /church service.

I'd love to have a guest like the OP, who had been looking forward to the event since May and hoped it wouldl be a special day .

Who cared so much about inadvertently causing offence that she went online just to ask a question about etiquette .

Who met some lovely people and enjoyed herself .

That judgey people who rank others by their fashion sense . And insist on their right to " tell the truth " above good manners and kindness.

What a lovely post Morvern. The best thing about getting older is not really giving a toss about what other people think. I recently went to Ladies night at a local races. I had been looking forward to it for ages and wore a dress that had been given to me with fuscia pink flowers on it. I found a wrap and fascinator to go with it in a charity shop. Shoes also from a charity shop. I felt fantastic and I really wasn't bothered what other people thought. 10 years ago I would have been. Had a ball and that's what it's all about. Well done op and well done Morvern! I like the cut of your jib

Another Movern fan here.

Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates:
At the first gate, ask yourself “Is is true?”
At the second gate ask, “Is it necessary?”
At the third gate ask, “Is it kind?”

So ... explain to me again, exactly what is wrong with one-colour outfits?

I think these women look absolutely stunning.

Or is it OK because they're on catwalks / in magazines? (In which case the whole thing is bollocks, of course!)

And these ...

And these ...

Almost pitying those who are so bored and boring that they would even consider 'marking down' others for their choice of clothes! They should keep their judgey attitudes to themselves and stop their childish bullying!

Pleased that OP had a good time at the christening!

helena's rules are ones to live by, really.

And it's worth noting, for some of you, that just because something is "just your opinion" it doesn't mean that it isn't also rude or unkind or thoughtless. Yes, we're on the internet, and yes, the OP asked for opinions, but really, it doesn't hurt to think a little before you post.

Exactly. Opinions are asked for but if they are offered, then it's hissy fits from some quarters.

Listen to yourself, Navy. I mean, really. Just listen to what you're advocating for. And, you know, have a little think.

The below is what OP asked for an opinion on.

The christening is for a boy and I'm just wondering if there is a colour etiquette for these things. I've googled briefly but can't find anything.

She asked for an opinion on "colour etiquette". In the context of whether pink is an acceptable colour to wear for a boys christening. Not for an opinion on whether people think her shoes and bags should be a matching colour, not for an opinion on the style of her dress or anything else. Colour etiquette .

And it was pointed out, and agreed on by the OP, that perhaps her MIL was commenting on the head to toe pink.

Oooo, is that "just your opinion" of what I sound like, Navy? Namecalling not being rude, because it's just your opinion, right?

Seriously though. If you genuinely can't tell the difference between constructive criticism and being unhelpful, then there's little point in continuing. So I'm out.

Have to say this OP has been fab. Hope she sticks around

Have to say that is something we can all agree on.

"However for future reference, some people will mark you down for wearing all pink. I'm one of them. It isn't a particularly stylish look and can be a bit "look at me", like you're trying to compensate for something."

Wow, just wow. But there you go, everyone's entitled to an opinion.

What's that song from frozen called? Oh yeah? I remember. It's called "let it go". Or something like that anyway!

"However for future reference, some people will mark you down for wearing all pink. I'm one of them. It isn't a particularly stylish look and can be a bit "look at me", like you're trying to compensate for something."

^ possibly up there as one of the wankiest comments ever on mumsnet!!

OP, you've been fab, Morvens post was spot on. I thought your dress was beautiful too.