To wear bright pink to a boys christening

[Slinkydog77]

Hi all, this is my first post and it's a tad pathetic I'm afraid.

DP and I have been invited to a christening today, I've been looking forward to it since we got the invitation in May. We don't get invited to many things as we don't have many friends.

The hosts are one of DP's colleagues and his wife whom I have met very briefly at another christening a couple of years ago.
I got our outfits out last weekend and hung them on the door frame. DM visited, saw the outfits and commented that whilst they were lovely they were 'very pink'.

I am wearing a cerise dress with matching shoes & bag, DP is wearing a 3 piece grey suit with a striped grey & cerise tie. So DM is right, I am very pink, right down to finger and toenail polish. The christening is for a boy and I'm just wondering if there is a colour etiquette for these things. I've googled briefly but can't find anything.

Appreciate your help/advice

Violet I'd find it very hard to change my shoes and bag as I don't have many pairs of 'going out' shoes and only 3 handbags. I bought a bag to go with the last wedding outfit I wore, but it would be unlikely to match another outfit.
Not everyone has a shoe/bag cupboard like a department store. It's ok to have an opinion on the OPs outfit, but you have been a bit unkind in suggesting she'll look bad and should change things when many people wouldn't be able to at this short notice.

How is it not helpful?? It's not hard to change your shoes and bag FFS!

It is if you haven't anything else suitable.

We don't all have extensive wardrobes. Criticising outfits on the day is never, ever helpful.

Cerise is fine OP, there is no dress colour code for a christening but as mentioned I would avoid head to toe black.

Violet - whether you meant it or not the 'bless you' in your first post did come across as rather patronising.

If you are happy with the outfit though, that's all that matters.

Which hopefully she will still be after being told it's 'naff' or 'ott'.

Not necessary at this stage.

I don't think anybody would have criticised Violet if she hadn't been so patronising.

I think once you're wearing cersise you might as well wear matching shoes and bag. What I wouldn't do is plonk a pair of black shoes in there as it will break up the line and look jarring.

"Nude" colour shoes or a "neutral" bag (like a beige colour) would work, but not much else I'd think.

Violet wasn't being nasty. Infact I think she was being helpful. I couldn't agree more. People love to nitpick at everything on here.

No dress or colour code for christenings ime either.

Navy no, just not necessary. The OP doesn't go out much, is excited about her outfit and probably has no way of changing it at this stage. Not everyone has an extensive collection of appropriate shoes/accessories. All criticising her outfit has done is make her doubt hers li and feel less confident for no reason as most people won't look at her and judge her 'overly matchy' outfit. (For clarity, I don't think overly matchy is even a thing, OP).

Sounds lovely. Have s great day.

That's not what I'm saying, Navy. I just think in this case it would be best to address the OP's specific worry - that pink was in some way wrong for the Christening of a boy - rather than criticising the details of an outfit which she can't change (probably) and making her fell crap instead of excited. Selective honesty to be supportive when the matter at hand is very minor.

All one colour, fine. But I think if it's something like cerise, it will be a bit "look at me!". And I don't think you particularly need to dress up for a Christening, just an ordinary day dress is fine, particularly if you don't have a starring role.

But mothers have to be careful not to upset

Whereas Mumsnetters can be as brutal as they like?

OP didn't ask our sartorial opinion, just a question about colour etiquette for christenings.

Sounds lovely lass :) Go and enjoy :)

Pink for a christening is fine. I assume the 'very pink' was because you were wearing quite a vibrant shade that some people don't like.

Why not Navy? The OP is clearly looking for reassurance that her outfit is not breaking some (non-existant) clothing etiquette. How hard is it to smile and nod to give her that reassurance? Clearly her mother's comment has knocked her confidence, op already said she doesn't go out much, so doesn't have the benefit of experience of this type of occasion to inform her decision. It is also likely that she doesn't have different shoes etc that would be suitable - I wouldn't - and just how helpful is it to tell her to change the accessories on the day of the event, especially when it is a Sunday and therefore makes a quick dash to the shops difficult even if time can be found before the christening?

OP, I love the colours you have chosen and have no problem at all with one colour outfits - a well matched outfit looks stunning imo. Have a lovely day.

Bloody hell, poor OP I'm sure you will look absolutely fabulous, please do enjoy a few sherbets (is that a northern saying?) and wear your pink with pride.

I hope the 'helpful and kind' fashion advice on here doesn't make you feel uncomfortable it may have been helpful and kind if offered when you had time to change your outfit

Ps - Mylene is rocking the all pink look so you can too

I'm sick of MN. It's becoming like StepfordWives.com

That's fucking hilarious.

Can you not see the massive irony in accusing people of being Stepford wives when they're standing up for the OP against a poster who is trying to suppress her individuality by suggesting everyone should conform to a set of rules about what she thinks people should wear.

Ok, maybe I should have said, bitchy or inconsiderate or thoughtless or upsetting or unsupportive or nasty or patronising... Which would you prefer to be?