To wear bright pink to a boys christening

[Slinkydog77]

Hi all, this is my first post and it's a tad pathetic I'm afraid.

DP and I have been invited to a christening today, I've been looking forward to it since we got the invitation in May. We don't get invited to many things as we don't have many friends.

The hosts are one of DP's colleagues and his wife whom I have met very briefly at another christening a couple of years ago.
I got our outfits out last weekend and hung them on the door frame. DM visited, saw the outfits and commented that whilst they were lovely they were 'very pink'.

I am wearing a cerise dress with matching shoes & bag, DP is wearing a 3 piece grey suit with a striped grey & cerise tie. So DM is right, I am very pink, right down to finger and toenail polish. The christening is for a boy and I'm just wondering if there is a colour etiquette for these things. I've googled briefly but can't find anything.

Appreciate your help/advice

OP, it's a great dress.

I think it's a shame that you pair it with matching accessories - not chic please do consider breaking it up as others have said. Matching bra - great! Matching bag, shoes, nail varnish - is at once too much, but also reduces the impact of the dress as you just become a wall of pink.

"if wearing a darker colour.
I think a pink dress and green shoes or whatever looks like a clown and wonder why you didn't buy the right colour shoes."

The "right colour" shoes? Oh dear.

@Violet
Playing catch up here but don't understand why you have been given a hard time for saying matchy matchy is not stylish. It isn't!

And of course you did not suggest green as the non-matching option!

Mumsnet has very little dress sense. That is all.

It's about context isn't it ?

If someone posts " I've bought this cerise dress for a wedding in 6 weeks and I'm going shoe shopping today - what colour should I buy ? "

Then its appropriate and helpful to give opinions, perhaps even blunt ones, on colour and matching vs non matching .

If someone posts and says " here's my outfit for an event I'm going to in 2 hours, I'm really looking forward to it but I'm worried I've made some sort of faux pas with the colour , please reassure me that I won't offend anyone "

Then perhaps robust criticism of the OPs outfit is misplaced .

Exactly morven

Agree morven

And let's face it, whatever the other guests may think of matching bags and shoes, absolutely none of them will have been thinking "a pink dress at a boys christening?! How rude!" which seems to have been what OP was concerned about.

Whatever happened to honesty?

Dress does indeed look lovely as others have already assured you

Personally I'd never do the matchy matchy thing, I think it takes away from an outfit and can look a bit much. I really don't understand why violet got jumped on earlier on the thread. Its just another veiw point

Delicate and Magic thank you! I think I was misunderstood at first and then people jumped on the bandwagon of "let's call Violet rude"!

It is a lovely dress I agree.

People have explained quite clearly, several times now, why it was rude.

Morven's post above, for example, and the ones about the language used.

Fuck all to do with bandwagon jumping. It was rude.

No it wasn't.

Yes it was.

Matching outfit, shoes and bag is favoured by Catherine and Pippa Middleton, so...

It was NOT rude. It was my opinion. If you're so sensitive that you get offended by someone having a different opinion to you, then you probably shouldn't be on the internet.

But it wasn't the question she asked was it? She didn't ask for an opinion on her outfit, just whether she could wear pink to a boys christening she was going to imminently.

And in particular not helpful a couple of hours before wearing the outfit, a few days may have been different. She may not have had any other shoes/bags that worked and too late to go out and buy some. So the opinion was not helpful and just gave her something else to stress about.

She because you have an opinion doesn't mean you always have to voice it.

If you are going to be continually rude maybe it's you who shouldn't be on the Internet Violet. It isn't kind to continually be objectionable.

Oh for goodness sake is this an audition for a seat on Fashion Police. We seem to have some Joan Rivers wannabes posting.
Fashion rules are for those who don't have the confidence to make their own style decisions. She's going to a celebration not a job interview nothing wrong with making a statement . Good for you OP.

I think the dress is lovely and I'm sure OP will look nice at the christening.

In general though I agree with violet and others that all one colour is a bit heavy and that toning accessories is a little more stylish.

For example I have a lovely turquoise dress and a lovely turquoise wrap but I don't wear them together. I use a silver grey wrap instead. Otherwise it feels a bit liking I'm shooting TURQUOISE! at people.

Also I think Violet was trying to unpack what the OP's mum meant by 'very pink'. ie "not too pink for a Christening but perhaps a bit too matching.

"Fashion rules are for those who don't have the confidence to make their own style decisions."

YY to this.

If you are going to be continually rude maybe it's you who shouldn't be on the Internet Violet. It isn't kind to continually be objectionable

She isn't being continually objectionable or rude. What is objectionable is the people ganging up on her.

What shoes would other people wear with this dress? I absolutely love it op but I am rubbish at picking shoes. I find it really difficult to know what suits. The black shoes on the model are nice but I honestly think I would choose a paler pair, possibly a light pink. I am very pale and I think black shoes with a dress would look odd on me. Although like the OP I don't own many pairs of heels.

Morven has it spot on...

Violet... Just because you have an opinion doesn't mean it's the right or kind thing to always share it. Most people learn that from the age of 4 or 5!! You were unnecessarily insensitive. All you were likely to achieve was making someone who was already anxious, even more anxious.