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Moral dilema

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KaosReigns · 27/08/2016 10:09

I'll try keep this brief.

Trying to plan a wedding, but have no money so trying to cut costs wherever possible. So for wedding favors I'm going to make my own candles.

Looked online for bulk wax and found a deal on a online auction site for 45kg for $50. Usually this wax costs roughly $35 for 4.5kg so I jumped at the opportunity.

Emailed seller to confirm postage price (after confirming sale but before transferring money) and she has responded that it was meant to be 22.6kg but she will stand by her offer.

Is it wrong to accept the 45kg? Should I offer her a chance to get out of the deal entirely?

The seller is a local business that sells ridiculously expensive candles, I think the cheapest Ive seen is around $60. If that makes any difference.

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DoreenLethal · 27/08/2016 10:15

I'd step back a bit here and say that you probably don't need wedding favours at all.

VoldysGoneMouldy · 27/08/2016 10:17

She's said she'll stand by her offer. She had the opportunity to get out of the sale when she responded.

ElbowArse · 27/08/2016 10:17

Tbh, if you're trying to cut costs I wouldn't bother with wedding favours. It's a lovely idea to make something, but they're often left behind and really not a necessary part of a wedding.

Floggingmolly · 27/08/2016 10:17

You really don't need to make your own candles. Most of them will be left on the tables, like all favours. If you're short on cash, let the candles be the first to go...

Nocabbageinmyeye · 27/08/2016 10:18

I agree, save your money altogether, if you have no money then wedding favours are definitely unnecessary.

But if you really want them then no I would accept and just leave very good feedback

DropYourSword · 27/08/2016 10:19

45KG of wax?? Wouldn't that make a metric shit ton of candles??

Also agree with a pp - if you're keeping costs down you don't even need to think about favours!

CoraPirbright · 27/08/2016 10:20

I have only been to one wedding where they have had favours! If you are on a tight budget, this would be the first thing I would cut!

rollonthesummer · 27/08/2016 10:22

Favours are bottom of the list in a wedding!! If you're cutting costs-prioritise and make sure you have the things that last. Rings and photos. I don't mean expensive photos-some of our best pictures were from disposable cameras on the tables!

ABloodyDifficultWoman · 27/08/2016 10:22

Have you made candles before? It's an almighty fuckabout and as others say - they'll mostly be left on the tables. I'd rethink the whole favours thing if I were you - but if you really must have them then I'm sure there's plenty easier and cheaper out there.

Birdsgottafly · 27/08/2016 10:24

Are you in the US? I can understand you wanting favours.

Can you make all that you need with the 22.6 kg? Is it within your budget of you paid more?

I can understand your moral dilemma and would up the cash offer, or take less wax, if I could.

Foslady · 27/08/2016 10:25

Or an mew business opportunity for you......

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KaosReigns · 27/08/2016 10:26

Oh right, was going to sell candles too, to try earn some money to pay for wedding. Hence the metric shit tonne of wax.

At that price I can actually split it up and sell it on myself as is and make a few hundred dollars.

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dowhatnow · 27/08/2016 10:26

She's said she'll stand by the offer. Accept it.

dowhatnow · 27/08/2016 10:27

She's owned her mistake. Just take it.

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KaosReigns · 27/08/2016 10:28

I was really just browsing looking at prices to see if we could even consider making favors, was expecting to just cut them. But when I saw that deal then I couldn't resist.

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KaosReigns · 27/08/2016 10:29

I accepted. Thank you everyone. If I feel guilty Ill just pop down to their store and look at the $120 candles (which I can now make myself).

But at the same time, holy shit I just brought 45kg worth of wax...

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BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 27/08/2016 10:37

45kg of wax?
You could make half scale models of bride and groom with that!

Crisscrosscranky · 27/08/2016 10:39

Unless I can eat or drink a favour I'm not interested in it Blush

CafeCremeEtCroissant · 27/08/2016 10:44

You'll need to post a picture of it when it arrives. I can't picture it. It's pretty heavy & dense but not majorly so.

PepsiPenguin · 27/08/2016 10:44

I think candles are a lovely idea as wedding favours, but I love candles :)

Also think it is ok for you to take the wax, I'm sure you will in future be a repeat customer and I'm sure the seller will still be making some money from the sale, or she would have said something.

Pisssssedofff · 27/08/2016 10:55

She'll make her money back along the line and will get over it. You need the extra cash so it's all good.

diddl · 27/08/2016 10:55

I love candles also.

Presumably it won't just be a plain bog standard candle that you can pick up for pennies?

Will they be easy for people to take home?

I just did the traditional sugared almonds.

BengalCatMum · 27/08/2016 11:02

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NicknameUsed · 27/08/2016 11:15

I just wouldn't bother with wedding favours at all. I can't eat a candle and it wouldn't fit into my handbag so I would just leave it on the table.

Diamogs · 27/08/2016 11:27

Unless I can eat or drink a favour I'm not interested in it

This ^^

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