to have walked out and bought myself a bag of chips?

[Tinklewinkle]

Honestly, I could have cried last night.

I was on a late at work, so spent the morning at home. Did a load of chores - changed all the beds, cleaned bathrooms, tidied up, hoovered upstairs and down, walked the dog, a couple of wash loads and made a cottage pie for dinner.

Got in last night just before 9 to an absolute shit tip.

Kids had obviously had the play station out as the cupboard under the TV was open with games and controllers and all sorts of shite spewing out, dog had obviously had a whale of a time digging in the garden as there was mud and grass all over the living room, clean washing was still hanging out on the line and was now wet where it had rained. Kitchen was bombed and no one had saved me any dinner (DH had dished up and instead of dishing me a plate, he'd just dumped the tray with the cottage pie in into the sink, then someone had run water, straight into the cottage pie).

In the midst of all this, DH was lying on the sofa watching TV, having been home since just after 5pm

So I left. And bought myself a bag of chips and had a lovely half an hour on the seafront eating them

He had cleared the place up by the time I got back but was a bit shirty. Was sulky this morning and has just sent a text asking if I'm planning on eating with the family tonight or storming out again.

I was so pissed off with the lot of them last night

[deadringer]

I would have hit the fucking roof! And then had the chips.

[Creampastry]

They're selfish twats, especially dh. Serve him cottage pie with dish water next time.

[dogsdieinhotcars]

I too have a new hero!

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

"Yes, I am planning on eating with the family. I assume that you will be cooking this meal and tidying up since you did neither yesterday. Neither did you bother to ensure that any dinner was plated up and left for me to eat when I got home from work. FROM WORK! "

[ThoraGruntwhistle]

I would not have dealt with it in as dignified a manner as you did, so well done.
Why would you dish up a meal and then put the rest in the sink?? What the hell was the thinking behind that decision? If there's still food left for another person, why treat it as though it's rubbish? Baffling.

[YouTheCat]

It's not stupid. The house should have been more or less in the same state you'd left it in and there should have been dinner for you.

Tell the kids the games console will be sold if they treat you like this again. Tell the lazy husband to get off his arse and do his share. He better be making you something nice for dinner to make up.

[Tinklewinkle]

Sorry, crossed some posts

No, I don't always prepare dinner if I'm on a late. Depends what we're having. Something like cottage pie or casserole I'll make before I leave, but spag bol, etc he'll do.

I work lates once in a blue moon though

[BalloonSlayer]

I would have texted back "I was planning to eat with the family LAST night but you did not leave me any of the meal I made."

[OhhBetty]

Yanbu at all! What an arsehole.

I'm just waiting to see how long it takes for someone to suggest a spa day

[5cats]

Well it worked for me Daily after the endless talking to, talking at, discussions about how they had no right to treat me like a skivvy and make me feel like crap i did exactly that after i'd had enough. Made them realise that i wasn't there to cater specifically for their needs and they had to do stuff to help themselves and me, but hey the grin at the end of my last post obviously meant that the OP has to do what i did, not take it light heartedly in the way it was meant

[ClarkL]

He sounds like a total dickhead, but my husband can be equally twatish at times.
make him clean it all, then just let the kids run riot and he can see how quickly his hard work is wasted when people don't work as a team in a family.
I must admit I did make mine do housework until gone 9pm yesterday as we have visitors this weekend, he always insists the house is spotless for his parents but last time my Mum came he did nothing so I made it SUPER clear what was expected of him, frankly though I shouldn't have to make it clear, and neither should you. It's the thoughtlessness that really stings.
I suggest you scream, shout and throw things (i have a cupboard of tupperware specifically for this), Now I just look at the cupboard door and my husband looks around like a rabbit in headlights wondering what hes missed. It isn't a secret, its the piles of washing, the washing machine full of clothes, the floor that hasn't been cleaned, the dishes not put away...I could go on.
Make an amazing meal for one tonight and enjoy it

[PeppaIsMyHero]

The only thing I'd have done differently would have been to enjoy a chilled bottle of wine with those chips.

You might want to think twice before escalating it via text though. Take the higher ground...

[BreakfastAtSquiffanys]

I would have brought the chips back home with me.
And refused to share

[dogsdieinhotcars]

Maybe he has forgotten how to look after you, if you do lates infrequently, betting you do all the dinner prep and clean up? You've spoilt him, as most of us stupid when do (includes self)! Now you have to undo that. And chips aloe sounds like a piece of heaven.

[AyeAmarok]

YANBU at all. I hope your chips were delicious and vinegary

I also love Dolores' text.

[ohfourfoxache]

He sounds like a fucking man child- why the hell are you with him?

[dogsdieinhotcars]

Typos -clearly women not when. And alone not aloe! Chips and aloe? Just weird!

[Tinklewinkle]

Oh no, I hate spa days

I have texted him back, to point out that I was pissed off to have come home to no dinner and a total mess, that I would have eaten at home if he had saved me some food. And that we're eating out tonight and he's paying!

[StarryIllusion]

Are you joking? A bag of chips? I'd have fucked off with his wallet to the most expensive restaurant I could find and had a 3 course meal followed by an hours massage in the priciest place I could get to. By cab. Which he would also be paying for.

[dogsdieinhotcars]

Eating out and he's paying...get in! You sound a cool character!

[allthecarbs]

I'd have been pissed off too. You went to the perfect place though, there's nothing like looking out over the sea to soothe you.

Very selfish of him wrt to the dinner, the rest I could kind of forgive. If I'd not saved dh any dinner after a day at work I'd feel awful and would rustle something up or go get him a pizza.

[Helbelle75]

Love it!

[Froginapan]

I smell the dancing reek of gas lighting

YADNBU

[Froginapan]

*rancid reek