To be fed up with the "we are having a considerably better summer than yaou" that goes on on Facebook?

[Puzzledconfusedandbewildered]

I know the answer is to delete Facebook but it's like a car accident I can't turn away from.

All summer it's been like one long competition of who can do the most fun things with their children and who can squeeze in the most days out. It's like I'm stuck in one of those sickening mummy blogs and can't find an exit to run away screaming from it all. So I await you all telling me IABU even though my tongue is firmly in my cheek about it all

Christ...some people can be so mean spirited.

I don't use FB very much and only have roughly 35 friends on there. But I'm always pleased to see them having fun and doing stuff.

I certainly don't try and 'comfort' myself hoping that just moments after a lovely photo was taken they were at each other's throats - because they're all my friends, I like them, and I can take no pleasure in the thought of them arguing, or being unhappy.

If you are eaten up with bitterness or cynicism by FB then that is all about you.

I love seeing photos of what everyone is up to over the summer. Always loads of happy sunny pics of smily children. People just don't take photos of the boring days or the angry days or the sad days, I'm sure everyone has them!

I don't see it as a competition at all, just sharing with friends. I enjoy it, personally.

I find people very weird about FB and can only suppose they have 'friends' on there who are not really friends.
I like seeing what friends are doing and have never seen it as a competition.
I post on the odd occasion that I happen to do something interesting - it isn't boasting. Why would I post if I hadn't done anything?

U2 totally agree. So far this summer, we've been to the Gower Penninsula and had a weekend in London. DD1had a break in Brighton with her BF's family. DD2 had a break in Norfolk with her BF's family. DH and I are off to The Lakes at the end of the summer...and there's been numerous BBQs, sleepovers for the DDs, visiting friends...a trip to the grandparents...DD2 is off to Alton Towers tomorrow for 2 days...DD1 is at an all day camping party on Friday...we have friends coming for the bank holiday...the list just goes on, and on...

But, we do this stuff because it's our actual life, and it's just how we live. No ulterior motives involved and I probably only FB about a third of what we are up to, if I'm honest.

I never like not being on Facebook more than when I read these threads.

OP, you sound a bit bitter.

I completely agree with posters above, either it's in your head or you need different friends.

I have family and close friends only on FB. I really like to see happy pics, it's a way to keep in touch. The only competition I have seen was who had the worst rain, or something like that. It baffles me that some people are on FB when they hate it and it makes them miserable in the first place.

I like seeing nice people doing nice things. I don't get this.

So many paranoid people. Posting pics and updates is precisely what FB is for. I don't see it as competitiveness or bragging if someone posts some pics of what they're up to. I agree you sound very bitter and this says more about you!

Very odd attitude

I don't get posts like this. If you don't like your FB friends, then why the fuck are you friends with them?

On my FB I've got friends who have been all over the world, friends who have holidays in UK, friends who have had fabby days out and friends who have been at work thoughout the summer.

I like ALL of them. I like seeing photos of where they've been, photos of where they are going, sarky comments about the bloody kids annoying them, sad comments about the end of the holidays or missing family members.

If you think that badly of your 'friends' then do them a favour, get out of their lives rather than slag them off behind their backs.

Either it pisses you off or your tongue is in your cheek, you can't have it both ways op.

I hardly ever put photos on FB because I can't work out how to do it from my phone. Very occasionally I stab blindly at the right combination of buttons and a photo gets shared.

But I am LOVING seeing my friends summer holiday pics. I want to go where all of them have gone, and will indeed be grilling some of them for details/ideas for next year.

I also love seeing all the pictures of people enjoying their holidays. You do have to be realistic though - as people have said, very few people post about the mundane and the miserable which are part of everyone's lives.

We have just been away for a fortnight of sunshine - posted lots of photos of us looking happy and having fun. Funnily enough, none at all of us driving around central France on a Sunday night trying to find a pharmacist open to get drops for DD's sore eye, or packing up the tent and its contents in torrential rain on the last morning and then arguing about what we would have to leave behind in order to fit DD in the car.

There are good bits and bad bits to everyone's lives and no one would ever look at Facebook if people posted the bad stuff. It's bad enough already with the endless duckface photos and clickbait you have to wade through .

I like it when people post nice things they do on Facebook, rather that than angry status updates followed by tons of 'Inbox me xx' comments or moaning about job/kids/spouse/whatever.

I think some people just genuinely want to share, most people in fact. However some people I know just want to prove to the world how happy they are when in reality they really aren't happy at all. One mum from DDs school continually posts about the achievements of her amazing children, expensive purchases, holidays, new cars, how head over heels her and DH are and daily updates on her hobby. The reality is that she took up the hobby to keep an eye on her DH who was having an affair there, and they are close to divorce. I try not to feel too irritated by the boasting because you never know what it's an attempt to cover up.

I posted some pics today of my summer holiday - they were nice pics. I posted them to save them, and so that some members of my family could see them. I am not friends with all and sundry on FB just good friends and family. I like seeing what they are up to and they may or may not be interested in my life. If they are not just unfollow. I am not showing off it is my FB page and why can't I record moments of my life that I have enjoyed. It is not showing off, it is a few memories I want to keep. I don't say all that 'feeling blessed' stuff, just this is us doing this.

I post pictures of our japes and antics all the time, mostly entitled "look where DS2 managed to get stuck today" (yesterday in a cinema chair, today down the side of our garden shed). It's only a pissing competition if you're competing.

I've stopped going on fb because of this. People can post what they like obviously but when it's trips out every other day it just makes me feel inadequate. I have one friend who is constantly taking the kids paintballing/ trips to the seaside/ eating out/ cinema and posts every detail on fb. I'd love to know where people get the money to do all thse things, am I missing something?

I was actually thinking today that's its all gone too far the other way. Tons of warts and all Facebook from my lot this summer. Most people are realising the endless smug bliss is annoying.

My FB feed has come up with a real corker today - friend hasn't even gone on holiday yet and they've posted a photo of their packing all laid out on their bed, and saying how much trouble they are having in deciding what to pack for their cruise (about the 4th holiday so far this year).

Awww. Diddums. Where's my violin?

Why on earth are you friends with them if you feel like that dodobookends?
If people stuck to friends that interested them, and they liked, then they wouldn't have the problem.

As someone said just lie and post fun things that you did 😃 at the end of thebday how do you know that all those fun things are true and that thry really did have fun 😉

Just hide the culprits posts from your newsfeed will save you seeing what you dont want to its the beauty of FB

I post a lot of pictures of the kids on Facebook (family live far away) and the pictures show everyone having a great time.

For example in today's pictures we visited a seaside area near to us, the kids spent time at the park, at the beach, watched the hovercraft come in and went in the amusement arcade.

We did do all those things but it misses the details, we visited the seaside because we had a call from the hospital in that area to say my son's helmet was ready that he needs due to head banging continually (both children are autistic). When we went to the park my younger son got upset because it wasn't where he thought we were going so kept trying to head butt the concrete floor which got some stares.

There are loads of happy pictures of my older son on the play equipment, we get loads of pictures because a parent always needs to be in arms reach to manage his interactions with other children.

We had a lovely time at the beach and watching the hovercraft but my youngest was hysterical when leaving so we got more stares.

Since we came home my older son has behaviour has become increasingly difficult and he is still up now screaming.

So my Facebook pictures show a happy, fun summer holidays with a lot of activities. The reality is a lot more complicated. I am careful about what I post on Facebook, I am very aware autism in children is viewed rather negatively and having two autistic children people tend to assume my life must be difficult and unhappy. Difficult is correct but not unhappy, to counter what seems to the general view what I post on Facebook is the positive, happy moments leaving out the stress. Most people cherry pick the best things to share, it isn't a true picture of their lives so it is pointless to compare.

Interesting thread. I love seeing what other people are up to, and I never feel like they are boasting however my DP always says "don't post that on FB because it looks like we are showing off". We are in a fairly good position financially, as are some of my friends, but some are not and as such I feel guilty for posting anything. If we went on hols to Spain, then that's fine, but if we go to Antigua it's showing off. If the kids have a party in the garden DP's says don't post that one its got the pool in or that one makes the garden look too big! I am therefore the opposite to your friends op, I would like to show what I do like everyone else does, but I have been made to feel like I shouldn't in case other people get offended in some way. Personally I can't imagine why they would but I avoid posting a lot of things that other people would just post regularly

I wonder if they're having such fun with the constant (or so it feels) live updates. There's lots of 'us at the airport' type posts too, and 'checking in' here and there.

The worst are the photos posted by those who suffer from 'I want to be a poet' syndrome. I don't believe you're followed by 'dappled sunlight' and 'melancholy birdsong' I'm not making that up, those are direct quotes

I shrug to most of it, more like a PR exercise than reality. They're not having a better time than me, oh no

Chrsit Dodo if that's how you talk about your 'friends' WTF do you say about people you don't like?

Nice.

Of course, I could post photos of me de-fluffing the tumble dryer, but I think most normal, happy, secure, well balanced people would prefer to see my nice holiday photos, yes?