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Do you look younger thin or slightly plump/plump?

101 replies

CoolToned · 22/08/2016 12:36

To those who have been in both sides of the spectrum.

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mumofthemonsters808 · 23/08/2016 22:30

I look my age, regardless of my weight. I actually think most women also look their age.

UpYerGansey · 23/08/2016 23:10

Over the past few years I've slowly swung between a 16 at my biggest and and 8 at my smallest. I looked better thin. I'm a 10 now, and happy with that. I always had a narrow face, bigger or smaller, but a smaller frame suits my face. As for ageing. Nothing a whisper of botox won't handle. Getting rid of the 11 was the best money I ever spent. And I'll not be going beyond that. 46 yo.

Titsywoo · 23/08/2016 23:47

I think I would have more wrinkles if I was thinner definitely. Doesn't mean I look better now at 4.5 stone overweight. I look frumpy and crap in clothes.

MargotLovedTom · 24/08/2016 00:47

"@MargotLovedTom
That is not the case. The ballerina looks lovely. She is poised and elegant and has a lovely face. Nice smile too."

DelicatePrecious Aw come on! You say tomayto, I say tomahto. It's in the eye of the beholder. You can't tell me my opinion is 'not the case', because it's only an opinion.

MolesBreathless plenty of people here, me included, say they look better without excess weight.

Thefitfatty · 24/08/2016 04:21

Most people have said they look best at about a size 12/14. Go figure, but that's neither thin or fat.

MapleandPear · 24/08/2016 04:38

Muscle tone is key.

mimishimmi · 24/08/2016 05:10

Thin definitely..
My face looks very unpleasant when I am overweight unfortunately... not a jolly face at all, it mostly looks jowly,scowly (even when smiling) my eyes look small and piggy.

TheDowagerCuntess · 24/08/2016 05:19

A bit of extra weight may fill out the wrinkles, but that won't necessarily make you look younger.

For me, personally, there is nothing youthful about carrying extra weight.

CoolToned · 24/08/2016 05:21

Yeah, excess weight may make the face round, but it does make the features pop out less. Plus the jowls...

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barefootinkitchen · 24/08/2016 05:26

I do think faces are better a bit plumper when older. I am in my 40s and no idea how to get weight on my face or anywhere evenly. When I manage to Put on a little, I am a skinny woman with a protruding belly, so I give up.

CoolToned · 24/08/2016 05:38

I think a bit of extra weight is good, but several stones, well, might be age-ing.

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Thefitfatty · 24/08/2016 05:47

There's also the fact that sudden weight loss after middle age is associated with ill health whereas being a bit plump as you get older is associated with health. My grandmother was never fat but just a bit plump (she actually looked almost identical to the Queen) but when she got cancer at 93 she quickly lost all the weight, especially on her lovely round face. She had never looked older than 80, suddenly she looked 110. :(

Like I said, healthy looks best.

TheForeignOffice · 24/08/2016 05:47

Thin (size 10 quite tall) looks better on me, without a doubt. Mid forties.

I've always had quite a large fat face Grin so aging has brought it into the realms of normality. Also, if I put weight on i seems to go on my forehead! I don't botox so that really accentuates expression movement for me.

TheStoic · 24/08/2016 05:51

I definitely look older the thinner I get. Right at the top of my 'healthy' weight range is best for me, health and appearance-wise.

KoalaDownUnder · 24/08/2016 05:56

I always think that extra weight after about 40 looks 'matronly', and as if you've let yourself go.

Therefore slim registers as younger, in my mind.

Extra fat on one's face might smooth out lines, but I think that is more than negated by the overall appearance of middle-aged spread.

Floisme · 24/08/2016 06:58

I'd rather have more wrinkles than sagginess and jowliness - which is what I have got. Wrinkles give your face a bit of definition whereas some days my face looks like it's disappearing.

CoolToned · 24/08/2016 07:01

I think I looked the best near the top level of my ideal weight too! Less than ten pounds overweight. I looked young.

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50ShadesOfEarlGrey · 24/08/2016 09:20

I think it's the overall look that people see first. I am short with a more than ample bust, so extra weight and I look chubby and very matronly, with a horizontal sausage for a bust line. Also find it more difficult to find well fitting clothes as bigger sizes are made proportionately longer. Having never been beautiful, face is small and nose way too big, means that a few more lines don't make a huge difference to how I feel about my face. So thinner, but not too thin, size 10/12 for me.

Shiningexample · 24/08/2016 09:28

A lean and muscular body is youthful, as we age we lose muscle mass and the ability to store subcutaneous fat
Large stomach with thin arms and legs

MartinRohdesBellybuttonFluff · 24/08/2016 09:37

I am apple shaped and look frumpy because I need to lose around 1 1/2 stones. I look better when I am slimmer because I am happier with myself (the wrinkles you'd see would be laughter lines)!

I don't look my age though.

shannonocmarie · 02/11/2016 21:53

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oldlaundbooth · 02/11/2016 21:55

I look about ten years younger when thinner ie. A size 8/10.

At a 14/16 I look older - or at least my age (34).

Bluntness100 · 02/11/2016 21:58

Being over weight ages you, it really does. Being thin does the same, it also really does, too thin older women look way older, being slim and healthy makes you look the youngest, not plump or thin.

ALLthedinosaurs · 02/11/2016 22:01

I look younger thin because I have a bony face and when I'm fat it all hangs off of my chin in a non flattering double chin kind of way.

However, that's my face. Since I've lost a lot of weight the lower half of me looks like it belongs to a 70 year old so... swings and roundabouts 😂

aSafePlaceToRant · 02/11/2016 22:06

Slim, fit, healthy & pregnant seems to be useful in the youth stakes.

I'm 40 and hadn't been ID'd for about 10 years. Was entirely resigned to looking my age, didn't mind the wrinkles, was genuinely happy to be fit & healthy.

Since being 5+ months pregnant I've been repeatedly taken for being in my early-mid 20s - by people both older and younger than I am - including people in their early 20s!

No bloody idea what's changed but whatever it is I'd quite like to keep it... I suspect it's all the blooming oestrogen, pink cheeks, shiny hair, massive norks, etc. Somehow i suspect the next few months' sleep deprivation, hair loss etc might mean people get a more correct take on my age!!